The idea of denying an orgasm sounds like it doesn't mesh with sexual pleasure or fun, so why would someone be into orgasm denial? This kink is actually pretty common, however. Discover how denying or delaying an orgasm can lead to a bigger payoff in the end! Orgasm Denial? What the Heck Is That? Orgasm denial is a type of sex game that falls under the umbrella of orgasm control. In short, … [Read more...]
What Is Bondage & How Can It Lead To Kinkier Sex?
The “B” in BDSM stands for bondage, an activity that thousands if not millions of people enjoy as part of their sex life and, sometimes, as part of their normal life. You can find out more about BDSM here. If you're looking for a way to spice up your sex life, bondage might just be it, and it doesn't have to be as scary as you might think. What Is Bondage? In short, bondage is a a type of … [Read more...]
34 Rules For Submissives To Make Your Dom Sub Relationship Intense
While you might think of submissive rules as things that a submissive must do, these rules help both partners. The submissive partner knows what is expected of them and what they must strive to do, while the dominant partner uses those rules to provide training, reward, and punishments. By using rules for your submissive and tools such as BDSM contracts, you can engage in safe, sane, and … [Read more...]
Getting Started with Pony Play: Types, Tack, and Training
Some of the specific kinks within the BDSM community aren't for everyone. Pony play is one such kink. This style of role play can be elaborate, involved, and expensive, but it can also be rewarding and intimate in unexpected ways. What Is Pony Play? Pony play is a type of pet play like kitten play or dog play, among others. Dog and pony play are similar in that actual dog and horse training … [Read more...]
7 Tricks to Get Your Boyfriend to Spank You in the Bedroom
So you want to be spanked. That's great! But you may be wondering to yourself, "How do I get my boyfriend to spank me?" You can always leave a copy of Fifty Shades of Grey on your nightstand, but there's no guarantee he'll read it. No, there are much better methods for getting your boyfriend to accommodate your spanking needs. How to get my boyfriend to spank me is a common question, and we will … [Read more...]
Sensual Domination: The Complete, Step-By-Step Guide
What does domination mean to you? If you're like many people, you might have some pretty extreme ideas. But domination doesn't need to be extreme at all. In fact, sensual domination can be enjoyed without pain at all, and it's practiced by all sorts of people. Although you might think of everything whips and chains and punishment when it comes to domination, that's not the only flavor of … [Read more...]
What Is Topping From The Bottom And Why Is It Bad?
Stumble upon any community dedicated to BDSM or D/s relationships, and you're sure to find someone discussing topping from the bottom, usually in derision. It's apparently a bad thing that's also common. But what is topping from the bottom and how do you avoid it if it's going to be bad for your relationship? In a BDSM scene or D/s relationship, one person acts as the top (also dominant, … [Read more...]
Sub Drop: Why It Happens, Considerations & The Cure to Sub Drop
An intense BDSM scene can leave you feeling a variety of things: giddy, orgasmic, capable, connected, exhausted, sore, cold, inspired, and even hungry. For a submissive who receives stimulation and pain, you can expect particular feelings. Those expectations extend after the scene, too, when you might experience sub drop. Subspace To understand sub drop, you have to understand what happens … [Read more...]
What Is S&M and How Can It Transform Your Sex Life?
Rihanna and Madonna have sung about it and there's a blockbuster Hollywood film about S&M based on a best-selling erotic trilogy, but exactly what is S&M? S&M, or sadomasochism, is simply part of the BDSM spectrum; although, many people use the words interchangeably. However, each element of BDSM - bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism and masochism - can be experienced … [Read more...]
Pet Play 101: Doggies, Kittens and Ponies, Oh My!
Even if you consider yourself a little kinky, you might be surprised by one fetish: pet play. Pet play can range from playful to extreme BDSM. This fetish isn't for every kinkster, but if you want to set your humanity aside (or train an animal to be his best), keep reading to find out what animal roleplay is about. Pet play is a specific type of roleplay (get inspired to role play with your … [Read more...]
