Dom drop, also known as top drop, is a change in mental state that some dominants or tops experience after a BDSM scene. In this guide, you’re going to... learn more about it, what causes dom drop, the techniques to manage it and how to prevent dom drop from happening. What Is Dom Drop? Dom drop often involves low feelings such as depression or guilt. Those feelings can seem all the more … [Read more...]
How To Explore & Live The BDSM Lifestyle: From Vanilla to Ultra Kinky
For some people, their kinky personas are such an important aspect of their lives that they want to live a BDSM lifestyle. While you might imagine this lifestyle to be all leather and pain, that’s not necessarily the case. Once you understand how a BDSM lifestyle is tailored to your interests and comforts, you can design the perfect one for you (and any partners)! BDSM and the BDSM … [Read more...]
Erotic Spanking: The What, Why & How
For over 100 years, mainstream media has depicted spanking as something that consenting adults can use to get off, build intimacy and control one another. Spanking is common in power play relationships, can be used during role play and even allows some romantic relationships to function in a healthy manner. If spanking in the bedroom has crossed your mind, you're far from alone. If you've never … [Read more...]
9 Orgasm Denial Games for Testing Your Limits and Driving Yourself Wild
The idea of denying an orgasm sounds like it doesn't mesh with sexual pleasure or fun, so why would someone be into orgasm denial? This kink is actually pretty common, however. Discover how denying or delaying an orgasm can lead to a bigger payoff in the end! Orgasm Denial? What the Heck Is That? Orgasm denial is a type of sex game that falls under the umbrella of orgasm control. In short, … [Read more...]
What Is Bondage & How Can It Lead To Kinkier Sex?
The “B” in BDSM stands for bondage, an activity that thousands if not millions of people enjoy as part of their sex life and, sometimes, as part of their normal life. You can find out more about BDSM here. If you're looking for a way to spice up your sex life, bondage might just be it, and it doesn't have to be as scary as you might think. What Is Bondage? In short, bondage is a a type of … [Read more...]
34 Rules For Submissives To Make Your Dom Sub Relationship Intense
While you might think of submissive rules as things that a submissive must do, these rules help both partners. The submissive partner knows what is expected of them and what they must strive to do, while the dominant partner uses those rules to provide training, reward, and punishments. By using rules for your submissive and tools such as BDSM contracts, you can engage in safe, sane, and … [Read more...]
Getting Started with Pony Play: Types, Tack, and Training
Some of the specific kinks within the BDSM community aren't for everyone. Pony play is one such kink. This style of role play can be elaborate, involved, and expensive, but it can also be rewarding and intimate in unexpected ways. What Is Pony Play? Pony play is a type of pet play like kitten play or dog play, among others. Dog and pony play are similar in that actual dog and horse training … [Read more...]
7 Tricks to Get Your Boyfriend to Spank You in the Bedroom
So you want to be spanked. That's great! But you may be wondering to yourself, "How do I get my boyfriend to spank me?" You can always leave a copy of Fifty Shades of Grey on your nightstand, but there's no guarantee he'll read it. No, there are much better methods for getting your boyfriend to accommodate your spanking needs. How to get my boyfriend to spank me is a common question, and we will … [Read more...]
Sensual Domination: The Complete, Step-By-Step Guide
What does domination mean to you? If you're like many people, you might have some pretty extreme ideas. But domination doesn't need to be extreme at all. In fact, sensual domination can be enjoyed without pain at all, and it's practiced by all sorts of people. Although you might think of everything whips and chains and punishment when it comes to domination, that's not the only flavor of … [Read more...]
What Is Topping From The Bottom And Why Is It Bad?
Stumble upon any community dedicated to BDSM or D/s relationships, and you're sure to find someone discussing topping from the bottom, usually in derision. It's apparently a bad thing that's also common. But what is topping from the bottom and how do you avoid it if it's going to be bad for your relationship? In a BDSM scene or D/s relationship, one person acts as the top (also dominant, … [Read more...]
