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Absence makes the heart grow fonder, or so we’re told. But let’s face it: absence only helps you if your guy is actually missing you during that time. That’s why I put together these 13 powerful & sometimes sneaky tricks to make him miss you and make sure his mind is on you even when his hand isn’t in yours.
Learning to make him miss you isn’t some esoteric art that only the initiated can master; it’s a concrete set of steps (explained below) that you can take to increase the chances that he’ll be thinking of you when you’re away.
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Whether you’ve got a longstanding love affair you’re trying to spice up, have recently undergone a breakup and want that intense breakup sex, are trying to keep things going long distance, just got in a fight or haven’t yet convinced the guy to be yours, getting him to miss you is the secret ingredient in your love potion. Stuck for ideas? While we are more well known for for our powerful tips to have incredible sex, here are several that should help, broken down by situation so you’ll always have a go-to no matter where you and your guy stand.
1. Leave on a High Note
Nothing supports a solid, trustworthy, long-term relationship more than leaving on a high note, especially if you’ve recently been through some rough patches. When you and your man part ways on unpleasant or overly serious terms, there’s a greater chance that the time he spends away from you will be full of questions about whether your relationship is right for him.
Don’t give him that opportunity; instead, make him miss you by taking your leave cheerfully, with hugs, kisses, laughter and promises to reunite soon. This is also true when it comes to sex. If you aren’t going to be with your man for an extended period of time, then blowing his mind right before he leaves is the perfect way to keep him missing you and fantasizing about you when you’re not together. These blow job tips and these sex position (the professional illustrations demonstrate exactly what to do) will keep him sexually addicted and longing for you.
2. Talking, Texting, Sexting & Snaps
Thanks to the phone in your pocket, you can easily talk to your man, text him, video chat him and send him some sexy snaps (that delete themselves, thanks Snapchat!). This is the perfect way to keep things spicy and fun with your man, but most importantly it will keep him missing you.
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3. Be Good in Bed
Ok, I mentioned this already, but it’s obvious, right? Particularly in the case of a long-distance relationship, you’ll need something to get your guy through those long nights without you, so you’d better be at least as good (and hopefully better) than the competition.
If this sounds frightening, relax… the very fact that you know what your guy likes and dislikes gives you a leg up on the possible competition.
- Of course, I’ve already talked about oral sex and trying new sex positions, but there is a lot more you can try.
- You can get outside your comfort zone and try some of these kinky sex tips.
- Try anal sex. Here’s 19 anal sex positions you can use. I also put together a guide on how to have anal sex for the first time if you’ve never had it before.
- If you’re not a fan of giving blow jobs, then read my guide on giving your man a satisfying hand job is the perfect antidote.
- If you’re feeling really kinky and dominant, then you’ll definitely want to try some of these femdom ideas on him.
Plus, we’ve got some great advice to blow his mind in bed. Every time you two meet up, give him exactly what he wants. Do it lovingly, slowly, teasingly, lingeringly, sure; but make sure to hit his sweet spots so that when he thinks of passion, he thinks of you and only you.
4. Be Mysterious
When you’re trying to woo a guy (whether or not he is aware of your intentions), leaving a little mystery is one of the best ways to ensure that he’s still thinking of you once he leaves. Hold back in little ways, making him work to get smiles or laughs from you and avoid that classic girlish pitfall of oversharing.
If he asks you questions about your past, be coy, but not annoyingly so. Answer his queries, but don’t provide tons of information. A little ambiguity about your story is the best way to make him want to spend more time with you. In fact, a large part of building sexual tension with a guy (find out how to build sexual tension here) is being mysterious. It’s the perfect way to keep him thinking about you and missing you.
Mystery is also a crucial part of keeping your sex life exciting after marriage.
5. Highlight the Fun Parts of Your Life
We’re not talking having a perfect Instagram profile; that’s not a good way to make him miss you. Don’t spend all your time trying to prove your life is a wonderland, because he’ll smell a rat. Instead, just be positive.
Tell him about the fantastic concert you went to, the new sushi joint you tried, or the rocking night you had with your girlfriends. Fun stories like this, as opposed to moaning about negative issues, prove that you’re a great person to be around whether or not he’s there.
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6. Show Interest In Someone Else
Ah, jealousy….
In France a crime of passion can get you off the hook for murder (for real), but in most places jealousy is just a really useful tool for making a dude think about you. So how do you use it to your advantage? It’s best employed when you’re trying to get the attention of an ex-boyfriend or a guy who hasn’t yet committed to you and for some reason works best when dating a younger guy.
Redirect your attentions from the object of your real affection to someone else. Dress well, laugh, flirt, listen, use gentle touches on hands and arms, and generally display your interest in this person for all to see.
Make sure it’s someone you can stand, otherwise your pretense will be pretty obvious. And who knows? You may even find that convincing the current guy to miss you isn’t as fun as actually getting to know this one.
Warning: You can learn how to make a guy jealous, but do it at your own risk. Creating jealousy sometimes has some pretty bad unintended consequences.
7. Help Him See What Life Could Be Like
You have a slim chance of sticking in a guy’s head if he can’t imagine what life with you would be like. So show him.
If you’re in the early stages of a relationship, or trying to get a friend or new acquaintance to fall in love with you, then give him something to miss. Show him your fun side, your wild streak, your spirit.
Let him in on the things you love, whether it’s your obsession with Pink Floyd or Pinkberry. Invite him to fun activities such as hikes or bowling, and prove that even a cup of coffee with you can be the most fun he’s had in weeks. Then head home, leaving him to stew in your absence and ponder what might be.
8. Show Him What He’s Missing
A picture is worth a thousand words, right? Isn’t that how it goes? Okay, maybe not, but it’s still a great strategy for long-distance lovers.
Use SnapChat or Skype or even your phone’s video chat function to keep the spark alive even when you’re thousands of miles apart.
And make sure to paint a good picture, too. Distance tends to make us consider alternatives, because it’s already hard to be away from the one we love, so don’t add incentive. The background of the video should show a clean, orderly space, not one that looks like it’s inhabited by the Yeti. Pay attention to your looks, too … just because you won’t be physically intimate doesn’t mean you shouldn’t put on your best face every time you’re “together.”
When it comes to putting on a show, then check out our Masturbation Guide here and this article on using a dildo for maximum pleasure.
9. Wait a While Before Responding
Even when you and your guy are together in a happy relationship, you can prove your desirability by maintaining a reasonable distance. You don’t have to jump at his suggestions, immediately respond to his stories, laugh at all of his jokes or fire off answers to his texts. The fact that you’re your own person is one of the things he loves about you and that makes him miss you when you’re gone, so don’t sacrifice it in the name of love.
Of course, you must make certain not to be cold either. That’s not a recipe for missing you; it’s just a recipe for sadness. Check out the rest of our advice for dirty text messaging.
10. Blow Him Off
When you’ve recently broken up and are planning your strategy for how to make a guy miss you, don’t leave this off the list. Sure, playing hard to get is a poor choice if your guy is good to you and deserves your attention, or if you haven’t yet snagged someone’s heart.
But when a man has treated you unkindly, a little taste of his own medicine is just the ticket. If he calls or texts, quell your immediate desire to get back to him. Instead, turn your phone off, watch a movie, call a girlfriend, get a drink … do whatever you have to in order to kill the urge to respond.
By doing so, you leave him wondering where you are, what you’re doing, and why you aren’t running to him. And what’s he doing while he thinks these thoughts? That’s right: missing you.
Perhaps the most powerful aspect of blowing him off is showing your man that you have standards. And, if he isn’t willing to meet them, then you’ve showed him that you’re willing to walk away.
11. Leave Him Wanting More
The best way to get a guy to miss you, whether he just met you or you’ve been together for years, is to leave him wanting more. More kisses, more stories, more laughter, more creativity, more of your mother’s amazing secret meatball recipe, whatever.
Be generous with your time and attention, but not overly so. You need to be slightly hard to get. In reach, but not at his beck and call.
Let him know that next time he can look forward to the same treatment, but that this time the fun is over. While it’s fine to skip a shift at work or cancel other plans once in a while, stick to your own schedule and call it when your time together is done. He’ll respect you and think of you more when you’re not always around, and when you leave while he’s still having fun. You’ll learn more on how to leave him wanting more in my guide on playing hard to get.
12. Act Like You Don’t Care
If you guessed that this is a tip for the ex-boytoys out there, you’re right.
When a guy thinks you care, he’s way less likely to want to pursue contact, because why would he? Even if he does still want you in his life, he knows that you’ll probably take care of getting in touch for him, so that he can keep the high ground and see you.
Him: 1; You: 0.
Especially when you two ended things abruptly, and there might already be some unfinished business he’s thinking about, don’t give him an easy opportunity to explore it. Stay aloof. Letting him wonder whether or not he should contact you, wrestle with his inner demons, debate the pros and cons and try to get you out of his head is the best way to keep him thinking about you.
13. Look Awesome
Still wondering how to make him miss you? Here’s an easy one: be hot. If you and your guy just broke up and there’s still a chance you might get back together (or perhaps you just want to give him a little taste of what he lost) looking fantastic is the best way to do it.
Work out, wear clothes that fit and show off your sexy assets, and do your hair. Augmenting your natural beauty not only makes you prettier, it also gives you appealing confidence that will turn you even more missable.
14. Be Your Own Woman
One of the best ways to make him miss you is to stop depending on him for your happiness. Especially when you’re in a long-distance relationship, where the two of you see each other far less frequently than you’d like, the key to success is to find solace and serenity in your own company.
The knowledge that you’re joyfully pursuing your personal commitments, hobbies, interests and friendships while he’s gone will keep you on his mind more than any other move you could make.
See? Getting a guy to miss you isn’t that hard … it just takes a little work, a little foresight and a lot of love.
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well i have been dating someone for a year know an we are apart he is just 22 an i am a little older than he is and he say that he wants me but i dont know and what to do about him i love him but i dont want to keep dealing with his mess at all he dont work or anything he is just lazy most of the time just he waits for me to get paid an ask me for money what should i do
Sounds like a tough situation Nikki. Unfortunately, I don’t your situation as well as you do, so it’s really hard to give you advice here.
I just think he’s using u since u are older,…that’s the only obvious thing I see
Do what your heart tells you Nikki and keep it real test him in any kind of way and see weather he’s playing you or loves you.keep in mind that he could love u for your money but always remember even if he’s doing that don’t let him ruin your life because you are beautiful and could probably do better than him.
Help him to look fir a job he needs to man up n know resposabilitities a guy shouldnt be asking his girl for money hes too old you are not his parents
Jst be urslf I GT sumtin da will kip u busy
Nikki run for the hills, this guy is like most of this new age of men, looking for a sugar momma…Your gut is telling you what to do….
My ldr boyfriend was suspose to come visit now all of a sudden he isn’t calling or texting
Leave him
i mean i think he just want some of your money u need somebody thats working and gonna help i think u should move on
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Well Nicki let the love u have for him not make u seem dumb or even be dumb itself, just talk to him bout it if he really loves u he would be considerate if not, I think u should move on nd let him see wt he has lost. Gdluck ok
Nikki to be honest i dont know you or your full situation but i will say i have been through a similar experience with a guy for five years and i had to come to the conclusion that he isnt lazy but using me…and thats wat it sounds like is happening to you….you should guve him an ultimatum..good luck.
Leave that bum alone before he drains you dry of all financial assets you have. A man should give you money.
A man that isn’t self sustainable is not good for any woman. And the opposite of course. You aren’t his guardian and if you have hopes he will change in time, false alarm. People do not change and if they do its a temporary change. You open a road to unhappiness and toxic relationship if you stay with him, unless you like it that way and like to feel needed… In that case I don’t know what to say. The people that truly love you and you trust can surely advice you the best way and you can change the unpleasantries by being willing to accept the truths you are going to hear. Xox
Most of the the other girls are telling you to leave him i’m trying to see both sides of what is going on and im sorry to the other girls but i’m gunna say don’t leave him just don’t if he wants you to be his mamma start treating him like you are his mum starting by telling him to get a job if he doesn’t get a job then start limiting the money you give him it all so all kinda depends on what his buying with the money i guess as well for all you know he could be planning some big surprise for you be hind your back
<3 DONT FORGET HE LOVE'S YOU AND YOU LOVE HIM DONT BREAK THAT JUST CAUSE OF MONEY IN THE END MONEY IS NOT WHATS BUYING YOU HAPPINESS LOVE.FORGIVENESS.HOPE AND FAITH IS WHAT IS <3
If you really think this way- with full respect you are stupid! If the girl can run her ass off to make money- why man shouldn’t! And if she gonna have baby with him – who is gonna take care of her- not him!!! Strong woman need a strong man not a childish guy to drag her down!! Is common sense for smart people ! If you thinking other way you r just dumb – sadly truth for you
I have been in this situation before and it is hard. But eventually he will bring you down and you will have a hard time progressing. You have to let him go so he will fall on his face and fix it himself. He will come back. I know it’s hard. I’ve been in this situation twice.
My ex too did the same stuffs it’s hard to leave but if he’s lazy n u really want him get him to his senses 1st by irritating him to get a job stop spending or giving him cash I’m sure it work
thats not a relationship dear,u r his blesser & u r the only one to stop dis nonsense unless u enjoy being a provider.Is dis what u want? Make up ur mind sister
Nikki…
Honestly talk to this guy he should get a grip of himself talk him into getting a job,if he refuses drop him for sometime and tell him you will only get back with him after he changes..if he cant drop him your happiness comes first
Then obviously it seems like he wants to use you. Because he’s intentionally thinking you be stupid enough to take him back. He knows how to play the game. When you think it’s ok to take him back and begs you for money is not the type of man you really want. Most Gentlemen don’t ask for anything from a female.. a real man will give a woman money, take her out, buy her dinner without asking anything in return.. we call that a real Man!! What he is usually a dog! Comes back to you and misses you and start asking for money. Girl it’s a Fed Flag!! Don’t give in, stop right there and gotta tell him to move on. It’s better for you.. there are plenty guy’s out there… just have to be careful who you talking too, and use you’re judgment, be very very picky! Good luck to you!
Oops!! Red Flag ??
Hi, I am trying to get the interest of a guy I really like back but if I ignore a little he ignores a lot and says that I’m the one who’s acting weird.if I give all my attention then he feels it’s ok to ignore me and tells me he was busy. Somehow he always wins. He shies away from problems so if he senses I’m not happy with soemthing he did he won’t ask what’s wrong. He will hide for a while and hope that it passes. If it doesn’t then he’ll make it seem too stupid and not important or will just keep keeping a distance. If I’m nice then he’s nice back but only until something better comes up. For example, when we’re together we hang out and have fun but if he’s traveling he won’t ask much about me and will just hang out with other people (knowing I don’t like them) and expect me to be normal and available when he’s back. I don’t know how to deal with this guy at all! Everything backfires. Please help!!
Play his game. If what he does bother you make him feeled bothered. If he wants to ignore you , how about you ignore him. he’ll realize you tried and if he continues to bother you. then screw him there are more fish in the sea.
I cried when I finished reading your post. I thought that that twisted, stupid, maddening, frustrating thing only happened to me. I thought that it was so messed up no one else could be going through something similar.
I don’t know when you posted this but I hope you’re doing better. Hang in there. They don’t mean any harm, they’re just clueless and most of them are stupid but remember, we’re not doormats and learn from your past experience, look forward to the future and don’t settle for a mediocre present.
Best!
Well.I see that I’m not by myself o this one.SMH
That is the play book for a toxic relationship. Play his game, show him you are better at waiting things out. And if he doesn’t respond, then you dodged a bullet
This guy is playing you..and using you for his own benefit…attention..he knows you like him and he is using that to his advantage….sounds like he isnt the one for you and you should date others..to get him off your mind…
Try as much as possible not to be available all the time… show him that you have got a life too…if he is expecting you always be around they make sure you have something doing to keep your self busy..do not nag because this will just show him you are very dependent on him and that you can’t do without him..a little distance will do
i have been seeing this guy for about a year. We havnt had sex but alot of foreplay…alot of kissing touching and fingering. he loves the fact that I squirt and loves watching me spray when im fingered. However he knows i love being fuckd and he hasnt fuckd me. he says we need a safe place so we dont get caught. we are both married and only want the physical benefits. he was very much into this relationship in the start but now it feels like he has driftd. any idea what could be goin on and how do i get him bac. he says alls good.
Yes, dork, he has a wife and does not want to fuck you but wants the fantasy of a mistress. He loves the fun of the affair but will never commit to you. He’s going home to his wife. Get out of this, go home to your husband fix your marriage or divorce, stop cheating. You’re an idiot!!!! Wtf, Wth do you think is wrong????
What a complete monster! Hope ur hubby cheats on u . If you ever get one that is.
Ok One wtf woman? DO YOU HAVE NO HONOR?
At least that guy hasn’t stuck his wang into you yet and completely broke the little remainder he has!
You do NOT ask for advice on this crap YOU LEAVE THAT KIND OF PERSON. Course It sounds like two idiots who are made for eachother on one hand maybe your partners can get together and watch you both realize how absolutely stupid you were thinking a relationship built on sex, lies and cheating is a good thing to go for. At least your ex’s will be someone who’s obviously more faithful than you ever could be.
Now do the world a favor and dont you dare have any kids let alone defile the sacredness of marriage again. Leave it for the people who actually know they are sure in their choices.
I met this guy who said he “had feelings for me” and he never calls me but when we are in person he talks my head off. I see him every weekend, should I take a few “sick days” and let them maybe sink into him and see if he approaches me instead of the other way around?
Hi Jessica, it’s tough to tell as I don’t know your relationship as well as you do. I hope it works out for you!
Did you sleep with him already?
I have this guy who happens to be my big brother’s friend and we both are in love with each other but he started acting up just recently and still says he loves me could it be true?
It’s impossible for me to give you the right answer. You know your relationship far better than I do.
Well i read all this but it seems when i do some of these things he pushes himself away.for example :if i try to ignore his messages or a call just to make him wonder..he gets really mad and immietly acusses me of cheating..at the begining it was him wanting me to the point i couldnt get of the phone with him and he would constently txt me…now im wondering because i did play the jealousy game he dont care anymore..now its me calling him and texting him all the time..i dont know what to do…i think if the sex wasnt that great i wouldnt mind but ohhhh daang he knows how to make love..so much passion…please help!!!
Wow I went through this, I thought how bout making him chase me for a bit leave him wondering, so I mad emu own life going out when I wanted working hard and we’d call eachother once a day, n I wouldn’t text all the time coz I need to work right, n I thought it was working everything seemed great I was truly happy, then he seemed to be getting way to distant n I found out he was asking other girls for routes and he thought I was slowly breaking up with him.. It completely ruined us so I ended up messaging him all the time just to make sure he wouldn’t think that again now I feel like some clingy jealous person n I just lost all confident n trust in our relationship.. Worst feeling still trying to get things right again
i need advice ive been in a relationship with the same guy for 10yrs he often leaves me and his children he cheats when were together and when we brake up he already messing with a new female i love him and perfer he helps raise our children…..its like when hes gone im hurting but hes good he out enjoying life and then he come back like nothing happened like he missed us i want us to work i put the last decade in this it just i dont seem good enough
Sounds like a very difficult situation Courtney. Unfortunately I do not understand your specific situation as well as you do, so it’s very difficult for me to give advice here.
i had a friend with benefits. we used to mess around alot orally never actual penetration. We stopped talking for a while and i missed him so i texted him again but he started to lag in replying and always almost never texts back. i still want to mess around with him but i dont know how to approach him anymore. what can i do
i really need help in getting this guy thinking about me, he’s my cousin (ik that’s weird but i really fell in love) and he lives in a different state. few months back i’d been to his place i had a general crush on him ever since but he didnt know about it. it just happened that we made out, it was out of the blue and happened at night. next day there was no discussion about it again that night it repeated, next day again there was general talk but none of us picked up that topic. i started getting back when over text this topic came up and he says it was a mistake and happened suddenly and also that he has a gf. somehow tha topic got over but i couldnt take it off my head, i started loving him he used to act weird but slowly it started getting better we started calling more and talking more than we used too and also i’ve been there for him whenever he needed advice of was sad or frustated. still he puts me down and makes me jealous on purpose by putting pix with his gf knowing i love him and sometimes we get into a small quarrel about me loving him and end up talking for few days in which he texts and i just ignore them. he says that i should stop loving him, idk why i just dont want to do it. i really need help, please please please advice me in getting him. i really love him ive been waiting since 8 months.
I have got the same problem . But the difference is that he was following me since 3 years but I didn’t have him any importance . But then I started feeling for him and then we used to chat and call each other and one day he proposed me on chats and I accepted his proposal but after 1 week he said that he loves somebody else and that he was joking about the proposal .
But I know that he loves me ….. I am seriously mad at that guy and want him back !!
Pls somebody help me !!
this guy I’m with is pretty hard to deal with
I have been dating this guy for a couple months. After the first 2 weeks he got scared & he broke up with me for a couple days but came back after gave him his space. Everything has been fine until last week when his grandfather passed away. He was very close to his grandfather & took this pretty hard. I went to the funeral with him for support for him. I have been trying to be supportive & also give him his space to grieve. But I still feel him pulling away from me? I don’t know what to do?
I’ve been with this guy that I really love but he’s just so shy that I can’t tell if he loves me back. He is so shy that when i put my head on his shoulder he sits there like a statue and my friends say he always blushes [a lot] when I do something like that. My best evidence of him liking me back is when our school marching band was at Mcdonald’s and this guy was hitting on me and he put his arm around me and tapped my nose. He then looked up at the guy and said “she’s taken” I now look back at that and think “who even was he in that moment” other than that he barely talks to me when im around and almost seems uninterested.
“But I love him!!! \»~«/
hi there
I have been going out with this guy from college for 5 months now…. at first he was so nice, warm and loving…. but now he’s so distant, cold, nd he even stopped calling or texting…. not even to say hi… what should I do, should I let go or maybe hold on…. for two more months
Tyssia,
This sounds like a really tough one and hard for me to tell you what to do. My advice is to talk to him.
Sean
My friend is 53 I’m 40. Really good guy. We have been friend’s with benefits for a little over a year. he said he had a girlfriend. But we always talking and I see him whenever. I always catch him staring at me and sometimes when I don’t answer his call or text he calls at least 3 more times before I return the call. At first it was just sec but I have caught feeling for this man and that’s why I have tried to distance myself. we will go a week or 2 without talking and then he will call. He is a coach but this year he only coached football. my son plays b ball. Long story short. I hadn’t called him and the other night he showed up at practice. We spoke and I kept it moving. When he looks at me it’s like he is looking right through me. I honestly thinks he has feelings for me. I don’t call him because I told him I had feelings now. I have now deleted his number. I don’t plan on contacting him again. what do you think of this situation??
Sounds like you understand this situation better than I do Bobbie. It’s hard for me to give advice as I don’t know all the details of your situation. My advice is to talk to him about it.
Me and my ex boyfriend still talking and seeing with each other after we broke up. He said that he wanted to be concentrated in his studies because study is the serious matter in life. Yes. Were still in college. I dont believe in his excuse so I just think that maybe he sees another woman whos greater than me. But after he broke up with me.. yes he is the one who ended up our relationship. After that, I still have the courage and hope to save our relationship. So I still seeing him even he doesnt want to. I still chat, text and call him every night and day. I still treat him whatever food he wants. I always telling him that I still love him and I love him even more everytime he pushes me away and everytime he says that I should be moving on and take away my feelings for him. I didnt follow what he said so i still meet him up. But then one day, someones discover me and always following me and always telling that that someone loves me. And then my ex boyfriend found out whats going on to me. Because of that he always wanted to meet him up, he always chat or text and says whats going on with me and he always calling. But I follow your instructions, I ignored his chat text and calls. And now i dont what to do next. Im scared that if i let this ignoring and jealousy gaming to him, maybe he will just give up like what he did (about breaking up with me). I knew his attitude. He easily gives up onsomething that he thinks he cant do it. What to do next?
Sounds like he genuinely wants you back. Obviously I don’t understand your relationship like you do, but maybe you should get in touch with him at this stage.
still love him a lot we been together 7 yrs ex divorce wife want leave us a lone she jealous i heard he went back to her im stuck coz when he had my number before the fight he call me all day and text but since our big fight i seen him one time that is when i was out shoppin ran unto him unexpected i thought changin my number would see how strong his love for me was it really real so this is why i did the no contact and change number thing but he no where i live if he want to get in touch are see me i really love him just want to no if he missin me and feeling anything help help reaching out for advice
Its hard for me to move on. I was staying with my man for like 4 months. I used to do everything with him.in 4th month he then told me that he is HIV positive and he dont want this relationship anymore.asked me to look for a place and move out. I told him how much i love him and his status wont change anything. Then he said he wants space. I had to look for a place to stay. After moving out i used to call him lot of times and he was like he asked for a space and i dont give him space so, he dont want this relationship anymore. Then after he stopped taking my calls, or replying my msgs. I dont think he is really positive, i think he just wanted to break up with me but dont know how to do it.i asked for his HIV certificate and he refused to show me.its so hard for me to move on,i call him everyday with private number, just to hear his voice, then drop the call. When i call him with my numbers he dont take my calls. I really love this guy, i dont enjoy everything im doing.i cry everyday. I think i am starting to be crazy.
Dear,
Get a life, go out love your self, and most important get yourself tested.
If this guy loves u,he will come back and explain you,give him his space some time to atleast think about you.
Don’t call, message or contact him for atleast a month let him miss you.
i have a friend n he is so dear to me he is always there for me in tearms of problems, he no longer gives me attentiion what do do
It’s hard for me to give you advice here as I don’t know the specifics of your situation. I do know that these tips in the article above will help to get his attention back.
Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he dumped me bc he sed he recently wasent being happy with me that he just felt a bit empty (bc we were having a rough time) I asked him to re think things but he kept refusing to he sed he had nothing to think and kept being on the denfense with me and some friends didnt like me eithier so that might of influenced a bit. How do i get him to rethink his decision and regret this without asking him to one more time?
Hi Ashley,
This sounds like a tough situation Ashley, but unfortunately I can’t give you advice here as I just don’t your situation like you do.
Maybe he is seeing someone else or something suspicious… Turn the other cheek honey if he dosent want to be with u then let him go and find someone who will love u and what will be what u always wanted and if u want just make him jealous with your new guy and make him think wow..I really miss her
Hi. I have a guy that I started seeing a few years back. He called me wanted me over all the time even if it was just to cuddle and watch tv. His friend who is now my best friend got into an argument and he moved a way for about 2 years. Through this 2 years we still talked, sent pictures, I would tell him I wish I had him here to cuddle and he would say the same. Then I found out he had a gf out of state where he was. I don’t know if it was on again off again or what but we would get into arguments and hate each other then start texting again saying he was single. Well he ends up finally coming home 2 years later when I didnt talk to him for months and he came home with a girlfriend here. We didn’t really hang out much he said he wanted to be friends and i was fine with that. When he broke up with her he moved back in with my best guy friend. We started seeing other alot more and hanging out. Hooked up one night after the bar but it’s not like it used to be. He seems distant and I assumed he probably was getting back with his ex but he said its just “up in the air” he got drunk one night and said “kiss me” and i didn’t. Then he told me he wished our mutual friend didn’t cock block him. I asked what he meant but he just said “I have a lot to learn.” when he was sober I asked what that meant and he played off the whole he was drunk. He ended up getting back with his ex which pissed me off and he said he wanted to be “friends” in my mind friends don’t hook up and I feel he used me. Well he is on again off again with his ex and talking to other girls. I blocked him from all social media and haven’t had much contact for a month. Being my best guy friend is his roommate we go out every weekend and are forced to see each other. I ignore any eye contact or talk with him. Now he wants to be out with us all the time too. This past weekend I met up with other guy friends at a club we went to and I noticed him watch me through the crowd every time I looked over. Then he would run off to hit on a girl when I walked over to him and my. Best friend. At the end of the night he was walking over and seen me blow a kiss to my guy friends I met there at the club and he stopped dead in his tracks and stayed on the opposite side of the dance floor alone..then eventually walked out the door to leave. He drove and I passed out in the back seat on the drive home. When we reached my friends house and I woke up he joked about “what was with all those dudes. They didn’t look like your type” I just shrugged it off and went inside. I feel like this bothered him but he’s not one to talk about feelings, the one who has a on again off again gf, and told me he wanted to be friends. So how do I take this? He used to chase me then I was chasing him now Im ignoring him and he trys to talk and be cool …does he really want me and afraid our mutual friend will get mad if we dated. Or does he really just want to be friends? I can’t read him…I wish I could though cause I really care for him.
So I met this guy everything was great
And then all of a sudden he gets a gf
He stopped talking to me and like months
Later he texted me wanting to see me and blah blah yeah of course we got to together
We started texting again but he’s still with this girl and when I ask him he acts dumb like he doesn’t know what I’m talking about so one day I posted a pic on sc of me and my friend giving him a kiss on the cheek and He sends me a message saying I’m a Hoe <~~ what how am I Hoe if I'm single and ur the one with a gf I'm Confused
I had a huge crush on my ex colleauge from my old office but i dismissed it cause i don’t want to do the office thing. Well i later left the workplace then this guy started texting me flirtatiously. I really like him despite him being 3 years younger. I told him my concern of not dating younger guys and he said age don’t mean a thing. We chat a lot and. 2 weeks after we made love. Not so great anyway. He doesn’t like cuddling, i love it more than sex. The few times we ve hung out i noticed him hovering his eyes over some younger girls. I am 33, he is 30. Though he seems responsible and takes care of my needs. Out of the blues he stopped texting and calling. I called a few days after the silence , he said he fell sick but will call me when he get home. He never did. The thing is i don’t know what’s going on. Its 6 days since he started acting up. I know i am not supposed to call but … I miss him so much. And yes he do come online to chat and never even bothered to say hello. Please what do i do? If its easy for me. I will end the relationship but getting a sensible boyfriend is hard in this part of the world age inclusive. And i don’t know how to flirt. I am a goodlooking lady though.
Hey.. Guys , so my boyfriend he says he loves me so much but diesnt show that love… But he is this kind of a guy who doesnt take stuff too seriously… But he seems pretty serious about me! But he doesnt have time for me. I feel bad about him not spending enough time with me… I get jeolous of my friends relationships… How can i make him relize that i want him to spend time with me? Really important.. Feeling bad… 🙁
Hi I was went to a field with this guy and we really like each other and we started making out and laughing together and do a bunch of stuff.he asked me out that night when we saw a shooting star… But he was high and he says he dosent remember anything the next day and he said he only remembers going down there…I was so heartbroken.. I really liked him a lot and so he said can we be friends and I said sure but I sorta felt used and that was on Dec.11 but now what I do … I’m getting told by my friends that he likes me now and is going to try and get me back…and I really like him A LOT! What can I do to make him feel bad for what he did but also still like me at the same time ..hopefully to ask me to be his girlfriend? ¿ (he lied to me and said he didn’t remember)
I have been in relationship with this guy for 7yrs and we r getting married but he is always too busy for me. He gives time to other things except me. I knw he is working. N when i get angry he is irritated n tell me to leave if i want to. I dont kw wat to do. He ignores me n when i try to do the same with him he gets mad n texts me that i m the way i m n if u cant accept me the leave me and things like that. He even texted my mom that i m ignoring him. And again when i started calling him again he gets irritated and asks me nt to call…I m tired..i hav given too much in this relationship bt he doesnt realise it. Wat sud i do…i m tired.
So there’s this guy who’s liked me for a year now, everyone tells me I should give him a chance and whatsnot. He is really sweet , loving, caring and affectionate toward me. We always talk and hug etc. in person and he always seems so interested and my friends constantly gush over the way he looks at me when im doing work or etc. I always catch him staring at me and he would just smile at me for no reason sometimes but he barely calls me or messages me and when I message him he cuts the convo short or says “brb” and never comes back. He is also very friendly with his “home girl” and his ex but whenever a guy talks to me he runs them off. I don’t know if I should give him a chance because when I first learned that he liked me I didn’t feel the same way but over time he caught my attention and now all I think about is him. What should I do?
Hi Jamie,
It’s hard to tell you exactly what to do as I don’t know your exact situation. Perhaps your man is just very shy?
Sean
I have been dating a guy for over 6 months and only to find out he was cheating on me all along. We have been good friends for the past 3 years until we became lovers. I ended our relationship after finding out he’s not been honest and trustworthy. But I love him and I will always love him, he’s been calling and texting but then I decided to block his calls as I’m hurting more as long I’m still in touch with him I won’t get over him.
I do not want to judge a person by his past but now I’m starting to think he will not change, he’s got 4 children with 3 different woman. I was willing to take that on board and thinking he has changed and mature enough to make some changes in life.
He has introduced me to his family and he was working on meeting my parents officially. But then his secrets were revealed before meeting up.
I just don’t know what to do now. I still love him a lot, I have never loved a man before the way I do with him but what I don’t know is that does he really feels the same? I feel like he’s not fighting for this relationship he’s just relaxed and thinking phone calls will make this relationship back to the way it was before.
Am I expecting too much from him?
So a couple week’s this guy asked me on a date, he’s not really that attractive but he was really nice and sweet, so I said yes. He took me to my favorite restaurant and we had a great time. Well two days later, he invited me to go with him and his parents to see their new house up north. We had a great time then too. He held doors open for me and bought me stuff, even if I didn’t want him too, and he called me beautiful all the time. Now, he’s saying that he just wants to be friends because he isn’t ready for a relationship. Well, I caught him texting another girl and he really likes her but she doesn’t so much him. He said that he seriously just doesn’t want a relationship right now but he really does like me because we have so many things in common. What should I do? Give him the cold shoulder? Be his friend? Or all together, give him the boot? I spent the night with him last night and he kissed me. Then, today after I seen their messages, I acted weird and then he acted weird like he felt guilty. And he was weird all day, even though he doesn’t know I seen those messages.
Sounds like a fairly complex situation that you understand better than I do, so it’s hard to give your advice here Sarah.
Hello
I meet this guy 4 years ago and we were in a relationship for about 3 years.At the beginning he was all over me, showing me a lot of attention.6 months later, after after he realized that I was hooked on him were he started to play me.I even caught her having drinks with he called he’s female friend and he had them sleep at he’s apartment when I wasn’t there.I went to hell for 3 year’s.He used to travel and post pictures of himselfwith bottles of drinks in night clubs surrender with a lot people.Many times I asked to travel along,he always refused saying he was going to work
We broke up.He started to date this much younger girl.He’s 42,she’s 25.
After one year they were together, they broke up and he started to hit my phone again
He seemed changed.I decided to give it a shot
We spoke for about one month by phone and decided to meet in valentine’s day.
We spoke aday before and was all perfect,I planned a beautiful reunion
Valentines day arrive, I didn’t heard from him.I went to he’s place and caught him sleep with he’s ex again
He didn’t even had the decency to cancel on me.He called me on the side and told me he was just using her for sex because she shows up univitedoing but he will still want to go to dinner next week
I got really drunk and cried, I stumbled and fall in the floor.He’s ex seems happy and I felt like dirt.
I wish he would contact me again
I want to know how to get ready to pay back.
ive liked this guy for about a year. we txted alot for a while and we started to really get to know eachother, i started to like him alot more and then the topic came up and he straight out said he didnt like me. we’ve only txted once or twice since. i still see him everyday when we go home but we dont talk and avoid making eye contact. i made sure to act like i didnt care because i didnt want to make a big deal out of it. he hasnt tried to contact me and i continually talk myself out of trying to contact him. sometimes when i look at him i catch him looking at me out of the corner of his eye and my friends think we likes me but im not sure. it seems like he might not want to associate himself with me but i think its a bit more than that. how do i make him miss talking to me???
Anita here
My boyfriend show that he loves me even i too think so because he is very possessive about me but at the same time he is too much caring but the situation is from few months he is ignoring me didn’t responding to my calls msg even sometimes he kept his phone switched off saying that his phone is not working sometimes he just add me to the reject list i am very upset regarding this because i really love him and don’t want to loose him
There’s this guy that I’ve been friends with for six years. The story is,I use to play in this area in the gym called Kids Action Fitness I met him when he first started working there and I was still a member at Kids Action at the time, He first started talking to me when I was doing an activity that I used to practice my karate on and I was done he came up to me and asked “do you do karate?” I said “Yeah I do” and that was when we both started talking and hanging out with each other we’re both one year apart (so like I’m 19 and he’s 20) so was were both easy to talk to and a couple years later I began working at Kids Action and I when I came in my friend was so happy and excited that I decided to work there and I that was when we both started interacting with each other and he was the one who started training me how work there as a coach. My friend was so good to me he always so nice to me and he was that one person who would always make you laugh, smile and I was comfortable around him. We both ended up being Facebook friends for a while but for some odd reason, he blocks me off on Facebook and I’m confused because in person my guy friend and I are so close to each other, we always get along really well and I’ve always felt that we close connection between us but for some odd reason he blocked me on Facebook and I’m confused as to why he’s doing it. Can somebody please help me out? I’ve got more story about me and my friend but I need somebody’s opinion or advice.
My bf and I have been in a long distance relationship for over 3 years. It has been wonderful. We met recently in real life and spent a week together, it was the most perfect week, but since I got home he has stopped getting online as much which was every day, he still gets online every day from work, but it can only be for a few minutes, we did chat in his evening, my morning for about a half hour every day but he has cut back to 2 days a week. Recently we had a bit of a fight because I miss chatting with him every day for longer than a few minutes. I have plans to move to the city he lives in, in another country. I really loved being in his country when I was there. He insists that he loves me, but how do I know he isn’t growing tired of me?
Hello I need help, so I have this friend that started dating someone and she doesn’t talk with me that much anymore because she’s always with him and if we do talk it’s not the same and I also miss the good times we used to have together any tips? Thanks
i am kinda in realtionship he doesnt want to label yet but when we fight he brings up this chick i dont like i love this guy so much i just dont need my heart broking again like my ex bf did to me and i am scared that i am more invovled then he is sometimes i stay at hes place to but this is a massive thing i have nevered sleep with someone before and what makes it harder to hes has a kid to not with me i dont know what to do
As hard as it is, you need to take a step back. Don’t contact him for a little while and see how he responds. If he really loves you, he will make it clear to you.
I hope it works out.
i hav been in a relationship with a guy i met online 4years back we used to hv endles chats, he started giving me phone calls, we both fell in love with each other towards the end of March we got a misunderstanding and decided to stay away from each other i hav been following the no contact rule fo more than a month now i really want to talk to him because i miss him badly, i want him to miss me too, i think i am stil in love with him and i want us to get back together what can i do pliz advise
I think you should send him a subtle message. You wont come across as needy or desperate if you’ve been going no contact for a month.
hey…me and my bf got separated for two months…there were more misunderstanding..i have convinced him to b togther again…and he is ok with that…but he is not replying me…what to do ?
It’s hard to tell, if possible try talking to him or one of his friends.
My boyfriend and I have had a very fast paced relationship. We moved in very quickly together. At first we were so happy and amazing together. Now it has gotten to the point that he is moving out. I am so sad and hurting. He doesn’t seem to care. Everytime I talk about our relationship and fixing our problems he just repeats nothing I say or do will bring him back. He is not coming back. I spoke with his mother. He is not talking to anyone about anything. He is the type that once a though is in his mind there is no logic, reason or explaination that changes it. I’m suffering immensly and just want him to come home. He has ignored all my pleas and refuses to talk about anything. Is giving him space going to make him miss me or is it giving him what he really wants?
It’s hard to give advice here as I don’t know your relationship like you do. Talking to him to find out what’s up should help though.
I would let him leave, move on… Never beg a man back… Once he see you happy with someone else he will try to come back. Sometimes life is not greener on the single side. Know your worth…
I met this guy through work. We are both successful, although he is more established. We got to know each other in group social settings over the course of a month. We ended up sleeping together twice. He has a long-distance girlfriend. He travels constantly, and right now he’s here and we’ve seen each other, but only in public. We’re both extremely busy. I sent a casual/non-flirty text, and he never got back to me, but then saw him soon after (again in public). He’s not texting me at all. I’m not sure if I’m coming across as cold or uninterested. Should I send a text saying it would be nice if could meet up before he leaves again?
You gave him what he wanted twice. He already had a girlfriend, just leave him be. Find you a man and live on. He ignores your text because he decided to work it out with his girlfriend. If he texts you in the near future, it only means that him and his girl are having problems again. Then you need to ignore his texts.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now and it seems like he’s been too busy for me lately. I don’t know if he still loves me. He tells me all the time that he does but actions speak louder than words. I’ve been going through a very tough time recently and he has gone to two 4/5 day bachelor parties and just a couple days ago made plans with me to have dinner and ended up going to have some drinks with his coworkers and not telling me that plans have changed and disinvited me to his really good friend’s wedding that’s going on right now. All of this has happened within a month or two. He’s upped his game when it comes to texting, but actions speak louder than words do to me. I want to make him want me like he did a couple months ago. What do I do??
Spice up your relationship seems he is looking else where for somethin… is he depressed?? does he value ur relationshi? Sometimes love isn’t enough
Am in love with these guy for over 6 months he stays outside the country he had a son with his ex and wants to marry me but am scared if one he won’t leave me because of his child and end up with the baby mama but I know be really love me according to him what should I do he also said I should wait for him
My advice would be to find someone closer until he shows yout more signs of something a baby does not hold a man
I was going through a tough relationship mental physical emotional abuSE I have three children and have been with the same “man for 9 years with cheating he gets locked up every other year blames me and I fall for it last year I met a man who showed me a lot at first U did not fall for him but he would bring roses to my job cook for me and my kids have movie night seemed to be a good connection we don’t have a title but I got pregnant and lost the baby we we’re house looking together as well as car looking he showed low signs if communication so I strtd to wonder and I argue and get defensive if I feel unwanted or used or led on from my past I have met some of kids and he has met mine couplE friends still not his mom like I would like to but recently he told me he was moving out of state and he says it will gibe us time to miss each other I don’t know how to think of this I fell so hard and I’m starting to love again and don’t want my heart broke again he says he is moving closer to his job which is true I just don’t want to looSe this one I feel good will come but I don’t want to be stupid any advicE my ex is only about me sending him money this guy has his own everything I am 27 he is 41 any advice
Am going through a difficult time in my relationship, I have been dating this guy for 10months now and although we live in the same state we don’t see each other not that he doesn’t want to see me but my dad doesn’t allow me get out of the house at all. we communicate good but he always wants to see me and any little mistake I make he turns it into a fight and we end up not talking to each other for days and now we got into a fight the second time this week,then I start pleading with him when its entirely not my fault. A friend advised me to have sex with him but I feel if I do it he will just dump me. do u girls think he loves me or I should move on?
This guy was my crush few years back ..by the time goes i forgot he exist cause i was too busy with other things
so the problem now is he is kinda attracted towards me NOW …i can’t accept it cause i know he is in a relationship ..i dont wanna ruin anything…but he is kinda mysterious about his relationship ….and suddenly giving head over heels attention to me …because of this i dont even know how to react whenever he is with me ..he is peculiar…and i can’t resist the temptation
What should i do when it comes to Long Distance Relationship?..we havent been so ok lately. He took some time (2 weeks) and came back missing me, and asking me about my life how he used to! like really interested not only my well being but desiring some sex time online! it felt amazing. but the next day when we talked it was again kinda like not excited to talk to me or eager( as if he would need another 2 weeks to miss me :/ ) he said he needed to take things slow but i really want him to feel my absence. I feel he is taking me for granted. so i really want him to “miss me”. I was thinking about deleting whatsapp. he knows im not using facebook at the moment just to give him the sense “I am not there” or “last time seen” feeling. Im saying this because when he took those 2 weeks i literally wasnt “online” anywhere. i felt that was big part of the reason he came back as well so eager to talk to me and not giving up on the relationship. pleaseee any advices!????
Don’t go off whatsapp. Be online but try resist the arge of texting him. Change yo profil pic atleast everyday highlighting yo moments
We r Muslims n I’m married to a guy n my family knows it coz they were present but non of his family knows except he’s brother who suspects. He has a wife n two kids n acts like he doesn’t want to show me off as he’s second wife. He tries to hide it but I can feel it. Wat shud I do
LADIES!
PLEASE DO NOT LISTEN TO THIS CRAP!!!
PLEASE HAVE MORE RESPECT FOR YOURSELVES!
Love is not about making someone crave you, it is about mutual affection, respect, trust, and open, honest communication. And you should love yourselves first and foremost! Be yourself and feel how you feel and speak your mind! Don’t settle for less than you deserve and even more importantly don’t underestimate yourself! We are all amazing and unique in our own ways whether we chose to show them or not… Don’t let articles like this tell you how to live your lives
Yah that’s true I have been dating this guy fr nine months now spending more time together,have fun eish but now he got transfer to Richard’s bay (KZN)I missed him so bad I even cry eish is really tough to me
Hello I need help or advice
I have being seeing this guy for almost 4years and I am head over hills for this guy and I haven’t told him bc I don’t want to push him away. But I’m down to the point to where I want to tell him how I feel about him but I’m scared.. It all started when i went out with I’m on our first date I had just left my ex boyfriend still a little hurt.. After the date we went to his house we talked laughed then I made the first move and we ended up having sex.. A week later he asked me out again and I accepted and we ended up having sex then I did something to him that he would never forget I gave him a blow job and he was blown away and told me why I didn’t do that in our first date.. The he moved away far and I see him every once in awhile when he calls me. To make the story short I’m in love with him but I don’t know how he feels about me.. We can go on not talking or text for 3to 4months and when we get together it’s all about blow job and he won’t even give me any sex. When I asked him why we don’t have sex he told me it’s not you its me so I left it like that.. This last time I saw he acted kind of weird he was more like getting closer to me leaning on me and once in a while holding my hand he finally hugged me at night it was totally different. But we didn’t have sex I gave him his blow job and at the same time he touched me and finger me till I came.. I don’t know if I should tell him how I feel about him bc I’m afraid he might not want to see me anymore.. What should I do.. Is it ok for a women to tell the man she loves how she feels or just walk away..
Please help..
We have being seeing each other on and off for the past 4years.
I’ve been dating this guy for almost a year now. I still feel there’s no intimacy. The guy won’t kiss me unless I initiate the kiss, even then he’ll kiss me like he is trying to make me happy and then stop when I stop. He does not touch me at all unless I initiate it.
When we have sex there’s no foreplay from his side. He does expect me to go down on him though he has never gone down on me.
Sometimes I just feel he tolerates me because of my car (he doesn’t have a car )and cause I can help him exhibit his Art (We’re both artists but I do other jobs as well).
If I don’t text , he doesn’t text.
If I don’t call, he doesn’t call.
He refuses to have sex when he’s going to the gym the next day. He will literally sleep on the other end of the bed and shrink away every time I try to touch him. This has really affected my self esteem in the bedroom.
He recently got out of a relationship where his girlfriend used him for money and was unfaithful.
I just feel I am too young for this but the problem is I like him a lot.
Me and my boyfriend is dating from one year.we love ach other but he started ignoring me these days.i cry like hell but i doesnt effects him.his exams are coming.it’s in next year in sept. . Its a govt. Exam.indias toughest exam.he is busy in that.he is saying me that he will not talk to me from dec. To sept. .i just said that talk to me atleast once a month.its enough and a long duration. I cried but he dont care about that.because of this he always say me to do breakup.i cant live without him.but i want him to miss.i always call him msg him but he dont reply.what should i do??
Sounds like a really tough situation Shristi. You definitely need to have a frank discussion with him to find out what’s up.
This is shit. 13 ways to play stupid games with someone you like written by someone we don’t even know. What’s the point trying to be with someone when you can’t be yourself with them & are they even worth it if they don’t like the uniquely gorgeous you? We’re all worthy & deserving of love don’t deny yourself that by settling for second best, love yourself first & foremost & you’ll radiate & attract the love you deserve. Inhale appreciation, exhale gratitude and love will find you.
Stupid hoes. Quality men will detect this behavior and move on. Strong men are masters of critical thinking and women don’t want weak men. Therefore don’t do this bullshit.
Hello I need advice I have been dating a guy for nine months now spending time together,having fun ,working together seeing him each and every day then now he got transfer to Richard’s bay (KZN)now I missed him so bad I even cry I really don’t know how to accept that he is gone and I never tryed distance relationship before that is why is really hard for me please help
Hi lady’s, i been dating this guy he is so sweet. I think he’s to sweet to be true. The thing is its so hard for me to be comforable with someone cuddling next to each other, haddling eachother or just be in his arms. He got mad at me recently and told me there was something wrong with me. I guess he’s right. I dont want to push him away because i cant show him the affection he wants. At the same time we’ve only been dating for a month. I guess my question is how do I allow myself to be comfortable. I push every guy away because they think i dont care. When invest my time and somebody it’s because I care I just have a funny way of showing it,I guess.
Last thing, I am afraid of a commitment, but at the same time I really do want to love.
Any advice helps thanks❤
He traveled out and started seeing another girl so our communication went down….i called one day and all he sent was later, I got mad and sent him a text concerning that which he read and ignored.. The next day he senta text saying I put him in a difficult situation wen I kp calling and texting and he concluded by saying “I can’t do this”which I still can’t understand.
I apologized even though I wasn’t at fault.he read and still ignored and since then he’s bn ignoring my text and calls???i love him..what shud I do?
I’ve been talking to this guy from another country and we’ve been facetiming every day, things we’re going to well he seemed really interested in me and he told me he loved me, way before I did! We were both wanting a long term thing and where both willing to do long distance. I came over to see him every thing went well, (first time we met, crazy I know). We got on so well and connected straight away, after we met we got intimate on two occasions, do you think he could have used me? We had planned to see eachother many times while I was there, but he ended up cancelling more than three times and started to stop being so interested in me by taking a really really long time to respond (hours) with really short answers but he still writes back love you when I say it. What does this mean? I want him to care about me again but I don’t know what I’ve done wrong, someone pls help!
It’s really hard to tell Rosie. Hopefully you get a chance to talk to him to find out what he’s really feeling.
Do you think he’d still be talking to me if he wasn’t interested?
If he’s still talking to you, then he’s interested 😉
Ugh! I hate myself for this. I liked a guy for three years, then I get to hang out with him and his friends for a week and realize what a douche he is and how he’s just following the crowd and I just don’t really like him anymore. But that one night we went out to party and I was with his close friend group and I just fell for one of them when he swirled me into his chest while dancing and playfully lifted my shirt twice a little and he’s just amazing but one of his close friends. Everyone knew I really liked that guy, but then I just fell for the other guys character and just wow.
But my inexperienced ass did everything wrong you possibly could do wrong in trying to get with someone and now I’ve fallen into the Friendzone. Not only that, he moved 4 hours away. Let’s call him Bryan. I’m friends with one of his mates now and idk if I want to have contact I always have to be the one to contact Bryan first but he watches all of my snapchat stories, he always does. But recently he stopped liking my Instagram pictures and idk. I want to show him how much I’ve changed and idk. At first he likes me but I friendzoned him really badly because I thought he wasn’t my type at all but now I’m head over heels for him and I’m in the friendzone. Anyone got some advice? 🙁
Sounds like a tricky situation Eva. As you know more about this situation than me, it’s quite hard to give you advice on it. I hope it works out!
Pls friends how do I get him completely out of my mind for good cos he wants me back in his life but I don’t want him anymore,cos of this guy and the horrible things he did tome I was admitted in a hospital just cos I wasn’t able to bear the pains
As a guy just entering high school, I can personally debunk almost every item on this list. Girls, if you try to play “hard to get” and act like you’re usually busy or don’t really care, the guy’s going to give up and move his intrests to someone else. Guys HATE when a woman they think likes them goes off making googly eyes at another guy or is INTENTIONALLY busy every time they want to hang out. If you really want a guy, ignore all of these stupid pages and take my advice: Talk more than you text, merge your intrests, find hings you have in common, and keep conversations light and fun. Most of all, once you are friends with the man VERY casually tell him you like him, then keep making subtle hints as to your love. Even if he didn’t like you before, after you’re the one to say it, he’ll totally come around, no doubt. Just walk up to him. Really. That’s your best bet.
My friend was scammed by a man here from Pakistan named Mian Ahsaan Rahman. He was in the military over there and he acted like he liked her while seeing other Boston women and constantly cancelling plans with her. When he was nice it was because he knew he was leaving for California and wanted to stay at her place when in town. He would constantly break plans with her or see her last minute as a booty call. She is a good woman but he is a disaster with 4 children and an exwife he cheated on. So glad he left the state for CA and hopefully back to Pakistan. Good riddance to bad player men!
I’ve been dating this amazing guy for 4 minths and nothing was wrong. Untill my parents saw our pictures together and they disapproved the whole idea of him because of the way he looked in those pictures. He’s a bike rider so they thought he was a player. He heard what my parents said about how he looked so he dumped me. I tried to reconnect with him several times but unfortunately he never speaks his mind. The only thing he said to me was that he wanted to focus on his career only and that he doesnt think that we have a future together because he refuses the way my parents think. I really love him but at this point i dont really think he does. What so i do
Find someone else sweetie.
So I guess I have a “boyfriend” but he doesn’t even claim me but we act like a bf/gf situation all the time. He snaps at me a lot and always finds something mean to say then apologizes the next day and says I “annoying him” he’s very hot and cold with me but claims he cares and wants to be around me yet makes no effort. I was in a car accident last friday and I told him about it and he didn’t text me all weekend at all; like I didn’t exist but he pops up when I least expect him and he got mad when I told him I wasn’t getting him an expensive watch for his bday because I said I did that only for a legit boyfriend and he clearly told me I wasn’t his girlfriend.
BTW He’s 52 and I’m 21…but he looks a lot younger and we have great chemistry but I feel like he hates me for some reason…
i heard an argument with ma husband ad he left the house now is about three weeks I haven’t seen him he doesn’t want to talk to me or our child he even blacklist me so ma calls can’t go through n he doesn’t send us money for food even we haven’t paid rent n it’s almost deadline he is not talking to anyone n i don’t know where he is, what should i do plz help
my boyfriend was quiet fun playing at our class tym. after our class was over we used to go to our job. we had a distance relation. now whn I call him or text him. he jst say m busy. talk u later. and at night. I have to take rest now. gud nyte. bye lov u. and oflyn… everyday this memo continues…..
I dnt know what’s happening.. and what should I do????
Have been friends with this boy since we was 13 we slept together last year (23/24 yrs old) ever since he has been asking to take me on a date in between him getting a girlfriend & I finally gave in a month ago and it’s been amazing he’s so sweet and has been staying over taking me out and planning future dates for a month now. And I got told he kissed someone else confronted him about it to which he has denied. He stayed the same night and we slept together and went out with friends the next day. I left the place before him as I wasn’t feeling too good I then didn’t hear from him until 2 days later very strange for him. He agreed he would stay that night and then I didn’t hear of him he never stayed. He is now reading my messages and not replying I confronted him face to face and he simply says his phone isn’t working but I know it is or else he wouldn’t of made plans with friends. I’m so confused at what has happened in the space of a few days. Any tips for how I can get him to speak to me as he has told a mutual friends he doesn’t know what to do.
Hi! There’s this guy that I’m in love with and he used to invite me out and also go rock climbing during weekends, something he likes doing. But all of a sudden, he just doesn’t take me out anymore. I kind of feel he doesn’t like me anymore. When we used to go out I had no idea whether it was a date or we were only hanging out. I thought he liked me but now I just feel I was wrong. We work together but he will soon leave because he’s just here for a project. He ignores me now and just doesn’t care about me anymore. We hardly talk these days.What should I do?
Hey girls I’m asking for some advice. Me and my boyfriend haven’t been dating for too long (almost 3 months) and we mostly get to see each other once a week. I find my self always being the one initiating our conversations and hangs outs, he basically leaves it all to me. I’ve limited conversation and haven’t asked him out n almost a week, in hope that he will miss me and try to see me, but what should I do to just make him miss me and try harder??
i have been with my hubby since 2016 a bit rough in pacthes and the he made a promise in 2017 to make things better. 2017 was okay parts were a bit of hit and miss. his baby mother making remarks on social media and getting her friends to do it and then emailing him.
new year 2018 we are very close. hes always on his phone day and night.
he has used my card several times but never asked, if he had asked i would be fine.
but this time really got me angry. looking at my account and i am seeing load so money gone but i never used my card nor went to the cash machine. ordered 3 items. then took money out of cash machine then orderd 3 other times on the same day. when i was talking to him he told me. he said it was a surprise obviously we don’t have our own house. we live at my parents and he had just done up another room at his mums,
now you can see why i am angry.
but on top of that we use to really have sex but for the last 10 months we haven’t he says its because there no privacy. but yet we go away and there is privacy but the same and he has just been diagnosed with diabetes and i am a health professional so maybe it is because of that. he’s always hot. i try and lay down next to him, he’s hot. i mean what has a girl got to do to just have a man just hug her when laying down
Hello,
I really need help and advice.
My boyfriend of 3 months just broke up with me few day ago because as much as he feels am a good woman ,he feels he cannot keep up in the bedroom.
I am a victim of female genital mutilation and sometimes sex is a challenge because am not easily able to climax.my ex boyfriend told me that even in his previous relationships he was so much into oral sex that is him going down on a lady because he enjoys that.since I underwent mutilation its impossible for him yo go down on me and that discouraged him.
During our 3month relationship ,it has been one of the best,so smooth and peaceful.He even wanted to have a kid with me.
I feel so broken right now and I feel that I may never have a happy relationship due to my shortcomings.I feel like I don’t want toget into any other relationship for fear of being dumped and not accepted as I am.
Since my ex wanted yo have a kid so I suggested if we could go on with the issue of having the kid together and he accepted.
I feel that I should just have the kid and give up on dating.
I don’t know if am making the right decision considering the fact that he is my ex.
I also feel afraid that I won’t be able yo raise a child on my own without his father around all the time.
Am also wondering why he could accept to have a kid with me yet we aren’t together anymore.could it be that he still wants yo maintain a connection?
Kindly help me,I feel so broken….
I was dating this guy for a year and 3 months. Since the beginning it was tough because he had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship. He was stuck on her for a while but eventually he had to move on and we started things well finally. He later found out things about me. Things in the past that happened before I met him. There are trust issues from both parts. Since December we were having little fights here and there and this month. He broke up with me. Told me it was too stressful for him, that it’s not fun anymore, that we don’t love each other like we used to. That he wants to love himself and be alone for a bit. I said okay. I let him be for 3 days. But before that we had not seen each other for like a week or so. I saw him again for the weekend. Went over to his a Friday. Things were good he was being lovey. We were intimate and I slept over. He was off of work the next day so we spent the day together. Had breakfast, went to the gym together, had brunch, he says were better as friends but took me to paintball, then we went to his family’s birthday party and we were good. Presented me as his girlfriend I guess to not have to explain things. Cause he doesn’t. People obvi still think we’re together. Slept over another night. Calling me love and babe. Kisses me and next morning we both got up to go to work. Cuddled for a bit and parted ways. Tell me how after that we texted for a bit and it was short and simple. He didn’t text me after that. Goes on social media and still nothing. This morning still nothing. Haven’t heard from him even tho we spent the weekend together. I don’t know what to do anymore or what to think. I tell myself to move on that it’s done but it’s so hard. I’m just upset because maybe he only spent time with me bc I told him I wanted to chill. I don’t know why he plays these games with me. Like am I missing something?? I think of hitting him up and ask what’s up but that’s me giving it more attention and I feel like the more attention I give it the more he acts up. Should I drop this guy?? Someone be real with me!
My man name Brian him and I been relationship for 7 years he taking about to get married I’m still writing for him to ask me to marry what should I do about that
Am kachi
i met this guy and we have been in a relstionship since march
a sex addict,too bossy
he gets jealous easily
too possessive and anytime i make mistakes he make sure he scolds me badly
we both love each other but he dont want me to talk to other guys,he flare up easily
he gets horny anyhow
he loves sex but i dont want him to turn me to a sex addict
what should i do?
Do you want to be with someone who treats you like this?
My GF refused to have sex with me for 8 months Then she met my golf buddy and she fucked him the next day.
I was in tears and asked why? She said, you never pushed ht issue and he would not take no for an a answer
He had his dick in my face tole me to suck it and I had no choice. Then he just took me. She said I was a wimp who was weak and did not want it bad enough.
Should I break up with her?? For sure he’s going to keep fucking her and I don’t thin k she is ever going to give it to me~
What should I do?
I’ve been on and off with my ex since february. He says he loves me and I absolutely love him but he keeps telling me I need to grow up. I dont know what exactly he means by that. He says if I’d act my age he will be back but right now he doesnt want to go back to the relationship we had. I want to focus on myself and grow as a person and not be annoying to him constantly texting and calling him but I’m afraid I will lose him for good and cant stop thinking about him. What would be the best way to get him back and show him I am who he wants to be with?
This is a tricky one to answer as I don’t know your relationship as well as you do. My advice is to talk to him and find out exactly what he wants and needs. Then figure out if what he wants is reasonable and is something you’re willing to give him.