Sending your man sexy text messages can be incredibly powerful if you do it right. BUT, there is a surprisingly fine line between soundly cheesy and sounding sexy, naughty and very dirty. Yes, this guide is going to teach you 42 different sexy, naughty messages you can send your man to make him hornier than you ever thought possible (click here to skip straight to the sexy example messages). But, it’s also going to teach you when to send them and how to use sexting to keep him thinking about you.
I’ve also included the rules you must know for sexting your man at the end of this guide.
Note: This is Chapter 5 of the Dirty Talking Guide. Check out Chapter 1 and Chapter 2 to learn how to talk dirty to your man and learn over 100 dirty talking examples. Chapter 3 has a 91 different dirty things you can say to your man to build sexual tension, turn him on and have incredible sex. Chapter 4 is a list of 69 dirty, sexy questions to ask to your man to keep things interesting and fun. Chapter 6 will teach you how to have incredible phone sex with him.
Bonus: Learn More In My Podcast On Talking Dirty
As well as learning how to sext your man below, you should also learn how to talk dirty to him. They are very closely related. That’s why I recorded this podcast: So you can learn how to talk dirty the right way to build sexual tension, make him obsessed with you and turn him on.
Listen to more Bad Girls Bible podcast episodes here
Sexy Text Messages For The Start Of Your Relationship
When you start dating someone, you need to take it slow when it comes to sexting him. If you overdo it, then you risk making him feel uncomfortable or coming across as sex-obsessed. Besides, most new relationships start out with enough sexual tension and excitement to keep it interesting.
So start by dipping your toes into the water with some tamer texts like the ones below before graduating to the more intense messages further down the page (click here to skip down the page to the more explicit sexting examples)…
- I loved seeing you in that shirt/jeans/top/briefs last night x
- Do you think I would look better in a skirt or tight jeans?
- Did I tell you what I call my boobs?
- Last night I had the wildest dream…and you were in it!
- I can’t stop thinking about you, get out of my head!
- I’m so excited about our date tonight. If you play your cards right, then you’re going to love what I’ve got planned for later.
- I know last night was our first time, but I think I’m addicted to your dick already.
- I’m gonna wear my fuck-me heels for our date tonight.
- What are you doing later? Mind if I drop by to blow you? – Learn 19 powerful blow job techniques here.
- Tonight I want to slowly kiss my way from your lips down…they only question is how far down will I go?
Sexy Text Messages To Make Your Current Relationship More Exciting
If you are already married or in a long-term relationship with your man and crave more passion, excitement and lust, then sending your man dirty sexts is the perfect way to reignite it. Here are some sexting examples that will do just that:
- I don’t like sitting here in work when I could be at home doing filthy things to you.
- Why can’t I just be lying beside you in bed instead of studying/working… 🙁
- I have a surprise for you later tonight…I think you’re going to like it!
- If I could only wear three items of clothing or less tonight, what would you choose for me?
- I just laid in bed for the last hour thinking about you…guess what I was doing!
- I just found this cool sex site on the internet…it gave me some awesome ideas for later!
- When’s the last time you jerked it?
- I just thought of a new position that I desperately really want to try with you.
- I was thinking about something…would you get mad if you found out I had kissed a girl while we were dating?
- I found some sex positions I think we should try, what do you say? (Then send him some of the positions and pictures from this Sex Positions Guide)
- What would you enjoy more: a quick hand job or a long drawn out sex session tonight? – Learn how to give a mind-blowing hand job here.
- I miss feeling your hands all over me, ripping my clothes off and having your way with me. (this one is good for long distance relationships).
- I think it’s time we tried anal. – Read the in-depth anal sex guide here.
- Does the thought of me with another girl turn you on a little or a lot ? x
- You have a choice tonight: anal or oral. So what’s it gonna be?
- If you can guess what color my bra is, I’ll give you a blow job tonight!
Sexting For Uncontrollable Lust & Passion
If you want your man to rip your clothes off when he sees you then, the following filthy, nasty text messages are going to do just this. They work perfectly if you haven’t seen him for a few weeks and are planning to spend some quality time together. Try sending them in the days and hours before you see him. When he eventually does see you, he’ll be completely consumed with desire for you.
- Tonight I am going to bite you, slap you, choke you and make you my personal sex slave. – Get 7 rough sex ideas here to make him scream with pleasure.
- I’m going to drain every last drop of cum out of you later.
- I want to mark you as mine; that’s why I’ve been sharpening my nails.
- You’re going to scream my name tonight.
- Tonight is going to be about pleasure and pain. – Here’s 9 intensely kinky sex ideas to use on your man.
- I want to hear you breathing in my ear when I make you cum.
- Tonight you’re not allowed to cum until I say so.
- You’re not going to be able to move after I’m finished with you tonight.
- Your cock is going to pulse with complete pleasure tonight.
Dirty Sexting Examples To Keep Him Thinking About You
When you aren’t able to spend as much time with your man as you’d like, it can be incredibly frustrating. Thankfully, you can still keep him thinking about you constantly with the right sexy text messages. These sext messages also have the added benefit of making him desperate to spend more time with you.
- I came so hard last night thinking about you. It’s a pity my hands aren’t nearly as good as the real thing. – These 10 masturbation techniques (with diagrams) will leave you breathless.
- I had an exciting dream about you last night and have been replaying it in my head all day.
- I’m so horny thinking about seeing you later.
- I miss having your arms around me x
- I was thinking about you in the shower this morning! Try these 12 shower sex positions.
- I miss you dominating me.
- There is something that makes me crazy wet when you are standing right over me when we’re kissing.
Tell A Story Through Naughty Dirty Text Messages
As you can probably see by now, sending your man short, filthy, naughty dirty text messages is ideal for giving him a little injection of horniness and excitement. But you don’t have to stop at one-liners. Sending him longer dirty sexy messages, even full blown stories is the perfect way to keep him completely enraptured.
Imagine painting a vivid picture of how you are going to give him an intense blow job later? By the way, if you do plan on giving him a blow job, then use these oral sex tips to give him a mind-shattering orgasm.
Painting a story for your man with sexy text messages is super easy. Just tell him what you plan on doing to him later and draw it out for as long as you want. You can be super explicit if he likes it…BUT you can also take a more subtle approach, allowing his mind to fill in the blanks. Below are two examples of intense stories you can send to your man. You can break it up into multiple messages, or you can send it as one long message, it’s up to you.
- I’m going to slowly trace my lips over yours, softly massaging them. Then I’m going to kiss you…from your lips…to your neck…down to your chest…down to your cock. But, I’m not going to take it straight into my mouth. I’m going to keep kissing it until you beg me for more.
- Your mine. And I’m going to mark my territory. I’m going to bite you. Your neck, your chest, your legs and your ass. They’re going to be covered in bruises from my teeth. And your back? I’m marking that too. I’ve sharpened my nails so I can tear it up. You’ve got a lot of pleasure and pain coming your way, boy.
4 Horrendous Sexy Message Mistakes
Mistake #1: Going Overboard – After reading all the example sexy text messages in this guide, I bet you are eager to start sending them to your man. Fantastic, but…If you deluge him with these messages and only sext him instead of sending regular messages too, they will quickly lose their power. You see, the magic of sending him sexy texts is using them as a spice to your relationship, not the main course.
Sending them sparingly will also keep him on his toes. He’ll never know when to expect a dirty sext from you.
Mistake #2: Wrong Message At The Wrong Time – All the sext message examples in this guide along with the 73 phrases for talking dirty to your man here and the 64 dirty talking examples here will have your man drooling like a puppy for you, but…They don’t work perfectly in every situation or for every stage in your relationship.
You need to tailor your sexting to the situation. So if you’re having a heart to heart with him because he’s stressed with work, then it’s probably not a good idea to send something like this, “I want to feel your cum dripping down my throat tonight!” Something more appropriate would work better, like this, “I want to give you a big cuddle right now.”
This may seem pretty obvious after reading the above example, but it’s surprising how many students end up sending their man inappropriate messages at the wrong time.
Mistake #3: Not getting feedback – Something that bums me out is when I get an email from some woman who can’t figure out why their man is turned OFF by the sexy messages she is sending him.
My reply is always the same; you need to get feedback from your man to find out what turns him on and what he likes. But you also need to get feedback from him to find out what he doesn’t like and what turns him off.
In doing so, you may find that your man PREFERS subtle, almost tame sexting instead of the more explicit and intense kind that you’ll find on the Bad Girl’s Bible. The same goes for when you are giving him a blow job (check out the Blow Job Guide here) or even trying a new position in bed with him (learn over 100 different positions in the Sex Positions Guide here).
Mistake #4: The Problem With Sexting Early in Your Relationship – This last mistake is one that leaves many women scratching their heads in frustration. When you meet a guy and before you are both in a serious relationship, if you start sexting him, it can give him the idea that you are just interested in sex.
This is perfectly fine IF YOU ARE just interested in sex. However, if you are interested in more, then my sexting advice is to hold off until you are settled into the relationship you want.
These 43 sexy text messages will serve as an excellent starting point. In time, you should try to improvise and come up with your own based on what both you and your man enjoy. However, if you want to learn exactly how to talk dirty to a guy right now so that you can build massive attraction and have him obsessed with you, then you will find this dirty talking instructional video very helpful indeed!
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Hello Sean I really enjoy the tips but my husband works out of town and I send him dirty texts and pictures a couple times a week but I worry I might get him excited and he goes looking for a release with someone else. My
question is should I keep it up or try something else to build sexual
tension?
Hi Jan,
The main thing is to talk to him about it so you are both on the same page. Also you may find that it’s best to build the sexual tension just before you see him, so that you get to enjoy the release 😉
Sean
Great advice
What if you pick up a pocket pussy a couple of them and that way he won’t feel the need to.just in case
Hey Jan!! How does he respond after you send text?
I would suggest that you send him a sexy text about what you’re going to do to him and surprise him and show up to where he is and do exactly just that and fly out the next day!!
Hi Sean
hoping you can help me, my boyfried doesnt get turned on by me, I literally cannot excite him. I have tried everything but he doesnt get interested. Says I do turn him on coz he always get an erection, but i would like the appreciation. I could dress up, he wont even say anything. The other thing I cannot make him come with a blowjob, he always praises how great it is, will scream but never releases, guess that is the reason I started following you. I am frustrated that I dont enjoy him anymore and fear I might be tempted to cheat.
Hi Jojo,
The key here is proper communication and talking to him, so that he understands where you are coming from. The truth is that some guys have extreme difficulty reaching orgasm from blow jobs. The need more ‘friction’. One way to make it more likely for him to cum, is to get him to stop masturbating for a few weeks. This will make him way more sensitive.
Sean
HONEY HE IS already FUCKING SOMEONE ELSE! dump THE JERK AND FIND A GUY WHO WILL MAKE mad passionate verbal and physical love to you!
you DESERVE IT!
Unfortunately I believe that he’s cheating as well… This is exactly what happened to me.. after a year of this I looked at his phone and boom. A million other chicks..
Ya stop wasting yr time
i love you
It happens ….. You need to get him to stop masturbating for few weeks ..around 3-4…. This will resensitize his penis….
I tried the setting but after receiving it he called and wanted more.I didn’t have more. It didn’t work at keeping him thinking he just calls
Hi Lori,
You can always reject the call and say that you’re busy or are at work or are with your parents. This way you can just keep texting. Although if he does call again, then you can try talking dirty to him over the phone. These tips will help.
hey I have been in a relationship for 2 almost 3 years… I wanna do something spectacular since I saw a message of him telling another girl he wants to have sex with her that turned my heart but I learnt how to forgive I just wanna please him…
we don’t communicate right and I believe we are going to have a break up plz help me!!!!!
Sounds like a difficult situation Kelly. I don’t think that one amazing sex act is going to fix it for you. A much better approach is talking to him about everything in an open and non-judgemental way.
Just brake up with his ass as of he can’t treat you like a queen and do all the things to make you happy then don’t be with him
So y’all break up or nah??
No?
There is a man whom. I desire…we have not talked about sex or done any sexting…I know he wants to by some suggestions he says…what could I say that would turn him on that could be taken differently but be in regular conversations….any ideas….
I was in the same situation. Got bold one night with the help of some alcoholic beverages and sent this:
“I would like to do naughty stuff with you.”
Received a nice reply about 15 minutes later after the shock wore off.
my new bf and i started having great sex until he wasnt cuming, for hours of sex, and he started getting frustrated because i was cuming every now and then. Please how can i make him cum more easily?
Hi Amy, get him to stop masturbating completely for a few weeks and he will find it much, much easier to cum.
EXACTLY! The guy is jerking off when alone! TELL him YOU NEED him to BUILD A LOAD and blow INSIDE YOU! BE TOUGH! IF he is jerking off YOU just stop trying to make him cum! HE WILL COME AROUND and then HE will busta load IN YOU! GUARANTEE!
Hi sean
ive been married for 5yrs now me and my husband have great sex but sometimes i go dry on him and i dnt no why dat happens another thing is when dat mother nature month cums we dnt do anythin but i do give him blow job but i have relised he watches porn and 2 be honest i hate it so much and he knows dat but i always think dat porn is turnin him on more than i do and when i come to question him about it he says dat he watches it to learn new position i dont believe him what do i do because he doesnt really do the new position when we r havin sex please help me
Buy lube and see what kind of porn he likes to watch. Porn watchers watch what they want to try. Try becoming interested in it with him its really not that bad and some things aren’t as realistic but try what you see but only if you are also into it otherwise it will be an epic fail. You don’t have to try right away give yourself time to build courage to do so and get nasty with it if you have to! Have fun laugh if you mess up and try again
hi sean,i need ur help,i do cum on tym wen m wit ma gal,even during foreplay, it’s embarrassing, she jokingly say i v a licking penis,like once i v erection cum will be at d tip of ma penis,n wen i try having sex wit her few mins of thrusting nt even up to 5mins i will cum,what can i do to stop this?
This is a tough one. Try masturbating before sex, this can help to lengthen the time before orgasm.
Some medications can cause the issue you are having.
Yoh! These are totaly awesome… Can’t wait to try ’em
Hi Sean
I have been reading your tips for awhile now but my concern is I am dating this one guy for a short while now and will it be to soon if doing something like that because the in thing is guys where I stay use girls and whatever is said over the phone or sent they end up showing everyone and then everyone knows about it, and then I have a question for you
Is it a turn off for a guy when he asks for pic and I say no.
I don’t want hookups I want a real relationship and if he gets pics out of me then he is going to think well if I could send it to him I probably sent it to every guy
Sorry if this is very confusing.
Sounds like a tricky one Biance. My advice is that if you don’t feel totally, 100% comfortable with doing something, then don’t do it.
Hey Sean,
I recently started dating my ex-boss whom has been pursuing me subtly for the past year or so. We ended up having sex (a quickie) a couple of days ago, but on Wednesday we will be renting a hotel room and I want to WOW him and have him excited before hand without hyping myself up. What is your advice to keep him coming back for more? I really want to impress him, he is 8 years older than me and I have only had experience with one person for the past 7 years. (I am 24 and he is 32)
My advice is to start getting the free newsletter for tips on absolutely everything to keep your man deeply devoted to you.
DO NOT FUCK HIM! EX-BOSS OR NOT! I GUARANTEE HE WILL FUCK YOU OVER!
GO FIND A STRANGE LOVER AND FORGET THE GUY! IT IS BAD MO’JO!
Why do you say that? I’m really curious
Dude fuck off. Reading your other comments you sound like an asshole. None of your business who this lady sleeps with. If you cant contribute anything nice then dont comment
Dennis,
Just chill already. No need for condescending remarks.
My boyfriend has been chatting on dating sites for 8 months. Totally not interested in sex with me. He lied about the cyber sex. It was extremely graphic. He has issues with keeping a hard on. The only way he cums is if I give him a blow job. Seems to have lost interest in me. I like open honest relationships. About ready to leave as I am extremely hurt by the messages he sent these women. He even asked one to meet him. He deny that he is still doing it. Any suggestions..I am about through with the lies…
Leave him he doesn’t appreciate you, find some one who won’t cheat on you.
Hi Toni
What did u do in this situation? Because same kind of thing is happening to me now but my girlfriend is looking at seedy online stuff n losing interest in me. I love to go down on her but she stopped me.doing that too. How did u address this??
Mick
I hope that you have left that jerk by now.
Anyone who is having affairs (emotional affairs are just about as bad as physical affairs, in my book), spending his time watching porn, & coming up with excuses to NOT have sex with you…is pretty clearly not worth your time or energy–& CERTAINLY not your trust!
And has all the of the qualities of a JERK!
What exactly is he doing for YOU?
And what does he expect you to do for him?
I would not be giving anything to a man who is not giving you even basic honestly, loyalty, fidelity, and ENERGY!
I sure ’nuff would not be supporting him financially, cooking for him, cleaning for him, or taking care of him in other ways!
Someone who just takes & does not give you what you need, deserve, & want is a USER.
Particularly if they don’t give to you because they just don’t CARE to.
That is a master-servant/slave relationship–not a love affair! ?
Relationships need to be reciprocal.
Partners do not need to give each other the exact same things, necessarily–but they need to be willing to GIVE in general.
If they just take, they are no good for anybody.
If they cannot or will not give you what YOU want & need then they may be good for someone else–but not for you.
You deserve someone who is HONEST, ACCOUNTABLE, LOYAL, INVESTED, has INTEGRITY, and VALUES you; WANTS to make you happy!
This guy pretty clearly is NOT honest, accountable, loyal, nor possessed of integrity.
And he pretty clearly does not value you enough to treat you with respect, decency, consideration, nor honesty, nor to do the things that meet YOUR needs & make YOU happy.
That’s my opinion–& it brings me no pleasure to say it. ?
You deserve a decent, good, committed, honest man who LOVES you, VALUES you, & is willing & able to do what it takes to meet your needs & make you happy.
Your job is to be a decent, good, committed, honest woman, who loves & values her man, is mature, balanced, reasonable & realistic about what she wants & expects from her man (expecting a man w a blue-collar job to shower you with diamonds is not reasonable; expecting him to do something kind, thoughtful & within his economic reach for your birthday, or wedding Anniversary is reasonable…& craving diamonds is–in my opinion– all about shallowness & greed anyway…not Love ?), & is willing to give the same to him.
Anyway–I hope that that guy is long gone by now (…& single, if he hasn’t gotten himself together to be a decent partner!…I would hate to think about him using some OTHER poor girl & making HER miserable, too!). And I hope that you are well & happy & either have the kind of relationship that you want & deserve–with a GOOD man, or are on your way to finding one.
Bless you & bless your heart.
(Take good care of that precious heart! Don’t entrust it to those who don’t DESERVE IT! ?)
Take good care!
Let me add that he is very protective of his phone. Also that he complains all t he time about back hurting, neck etc to avoid sex. Has real issues with honesty..I offered to watch port with him, but he watches it alone instead. He carried on cyber sex for 8 months and lied about that
Is it time to bail..don’t think he will change.
He’s seeing someone else leave him asap
I swear to God I’m in the same boat only have 3 kids with a man I’ve been with for 7 years the love of my life tore my fucking heart out reading the messages. I don’t know if he’s changed but swears he’s stopped but my sex life has changed I’m more open to trying new thing even though I enjoyed it the way it was before but he is home more wants sex more I’m not saying stay cause every guy is different but if you truly live him you have to try new things even if your not 100% comfortable. Start with small thing and move up. I’m so sorry you had to go through that though it took me months to try to forgive him.
You mean you are with him and you want to fuck another man . Are you crazy ? . Do not do that for the sake of the love you have for him . What if he finds out ?? . What will you do or tell him . You have kids with him and he has stopped so do not do anything stupid in the name of fun
Hi so I’ve been saying this amazing guy for almost five months and we have incredible sex all the time. He says I give the absolute best head he’s ever had and that my pussy is the best he’s ever had too. I can make his eyes roll into the back of his head and make his whole body spasm until he literally blacks out for a few seconds while he’s coming. However despite all of this he is across the country for work. I’m not worried about him cheating but I do want to know how to make him absolutely crave me while he’s gone. I want to get him so worked up over the phone or texting that he literally cannot wait to come home. Any advice?
I like my wife to tell me about make believe lovers she has sex with while I’m at work but I usually have to prompt her, how can I get her to do it on her own?
Just ask her to do this…
Say something like: ” Honey, I always love it when you to talk about your make believe lovers you see when I’m at work. Can you keep telling me about them spontaneously, without me reminding you…?”
Reassure her that you won’t get jealous when she does this (probably what she’s worried about)…
I txt my boyfriend one of these today, and instant response, and he couldnt keep his hand off of me and we didn’t even make it to the bedroom!!!
Hi umm sorry there’s this guy I talk to who I really like so I usually ask him basic questions like how you doing, what you doing and who you with. So the other day he was like “Your chats are dry”. Please give me some tips I’m really bad at this stuff.
Hi sean
I need help please…i met this really awesome guy on zoosk internet date site…we were talking for about a week before we met last sunday for dinner…we really seemed to have a connection and got on very well…on Tuesday night he came over and before i knew it we were getting naked and hot and heavy… We carried on messaging and he really seemed interested and i really thought we had something together…by Saturday night he wasnt making an effort to see me again…so i sent him a message asking if i was wasting my time… Since then he has completely ignored me and my messages and calls…was i too pushy and needy? This whole weekend i see he has been checking my profile on zoosk…i really miss him and dont know what to do…please help or is it too late?
Hello, I’m savanna
I don’t have sex issues but you may be able to help
I have a crush on my bestie but he lives in another country nad I don’t think he likes me. What do I fucking do?
My dear, jst move on
Hi Sean I asked my man why don’t you call me. I do the calling. We have great sex. He said u don’t give me anything to think about. So months later we both was like we need to go out together. We haven’t yet. So I want to buy him watch because I need to give more so let him pick out a watch. Two days later I found your site and found ways to talk dirty to him at 4am he was sleep at home needed to be at 7am he gets up like 5:45am he text me and said tell me more he gets my place at 6am. Now my thing is was dirty talk help him to think about me or something else I need to be doing.
Hi Sean,
My fiance and I have been together for awhile now and I send tons of texts but when he asks to think outside of the box. What does he mean?
I think “outside the box” means something wild and different in this context. If you are still unsure, just ask him.
My hubby is so good at sex, When i’m on top I’ve never failed to orgasm.
However I don’t know what is wrong with me after 20 years even though I enjoy sex i just feel tired and looking after house, me and our kids . I’m honestly shattered . We are very opened with each other I try new unexpected things as does’ he. Why aren’t i interested in sex even though when having it I thoroughly enjoy.
So why do I say no, not tonight?
You’ve just described your problem. It’s because you are exhausted. We you are relaxed, rested and at ease, it’s so much more easy to get turned on and in the mood. See if you and your man can find some time to completely relax.
what if he’s not cheating? maybe just a porn addiction? Communication can solve almost every prob
I just met this guy and he suggested sexting which I’ve never done, his favorite thing to ask his, “what would you show me if you were here ” and i just draw a blank idk how to respond and replying with “everything” isnt the answer he wants. Idk what to say,help please?
Hello Sean
I’m in a long distance relationship, I love my man so deep and so does he, our relationship is really amazing and I love the great communication between us, but I want to know how I can make him see me as his one and only ( tho he does) but I wanna know what I can do to keep him mine forever.
Sounds like you’re already doing everything right!
what should I do to make me cum
because when the time we having sex to my partner .
he only one to cum .
I would like to cum also
need some advice for what is the best things to do to make me cum too.
please need ur help so much.
Hi Sean
I’ve been with my fiancé for 3 years now and sex was great in the beginning I mean hours of sex and now his sex drive has taken a turn and is super low.. I don’t want to force him so is there anything I can do to change my extremely high sex drive?
i’m so ADDICTED, can’t stop thinking about some very dirty things… can you help me?
Dear shawn,
I’m having trouble sexting my ma. he doesn’t do it often and it is the beginning of our reqlationship. I myself am not really good at it I want to include some details but I’m not sure how and he’s into the soft kind of stuff and I’m not I’m more experienced then him not meaning I’ve had a lot of partners but just have done a lot more then him so I’m not sure how I’d sext him when we aren’t into the same things can you please help
Read the entire Dirty Talking Guide and if you still need more advice, then you may want to watch this tutorial on Talking Dirty.
Did any of you know that at zoos, all of the big, badass animals, the lions, tigers, etc will not mate? They either use artificial insemination or young, inexperienced & much more inferior specimen. Males in captivity and cages will NOT mate, & have no interest in it whatsoever, even when a female in season is directly in front of him. We are animals too, and I swear, our men are the same if they are kept in a “cage” Romance, desire, and passion live & thrive in the space between you and him. If there is no space….. well, you do the math.
Never give up your self, do not merge, 1+1=2, we are not halves looking for halves, be your whole person looking for another whole person, stay 2 people and nurture that space between you both with hobbies, friends, and interesting things. Cultivate an air of mystery around yourself which keeps things novel, keep him on his toes, and always give him something to chase after. Just when he thinks he knows you, BOOM, you show him something new that makes him realize there’s still work to do to figure you out…
Hey, my boyfriend was sitting in class when I sent him a sexy text, and he got a boner right away, thank you for all your help!
Is there any way you can come back from maybe making him think you are just interested in sex? What if you sent it too early just because the texting just went in that direction? How can you make it transparent that you are still interested but not for just the sex.
Hi Sean,
My husband and I have been together for 22 years and we have a great sex life. He is normally an uptight guy but when he is under a severe amount of stress he essentially ‘checks out’. Using these phrases turns him on and when I give him a blow job during these stressful times, he enjoys it but has trouble cumming. He is very much a visual and mental guy when it comes to bedroom play. Do you have any suggestions on how I can help him relax during the high stress times?
Look up a tantric massage and finish with a lingam massage! You can finish him off with hands, mouth or sex! He will for sure relax then.
Hey! I have been married to my husband who is in the military for 2 1/2 years now and he is in japan right now and he would like me to go to japan and explore with him. I was thinking of going to the Forest and doing something public but secluded. Any advice on what to say or how to spice it up in positions? ????
You’ll find plenty of tips throughout the site. Just make sure not to break any laws!
Hi Sean, I have a problem when I am having sex with my man I cum but he wants me to squirt I have never squirted in my life. He says our sex would be good but am still lacking something, he wants me to squirt for him. What do I do?
Try reading the Squirting Guide 😉
Podcast don’t work for deaf people!!!
Good point 😉 You may want to read them instead on the Bad Girls Bible YouTube channel using the closed captions option.
Hello Sean, I’ve been dating someone for about 11 months now and he seems to be losing interest in me. He gets messages from one of his friends who is a woman and he is very secretive about when he sees her and what he does with her. I need a little help
This sounds very frustrating Amy. I’d love to give you a solution, but unfortunately I don’t know your relationship as well as you do. I hope that talking to him openly and non-judgmentally about how this makes you feel is enough for him to understand how this hurts you.
Hello Sean,
I’m been dating this guys in awhile now and been sleeping with him every other 2 weeks only issue is it’s hares for him to have a boner even if I give him a blow job till I just get tired of it and sleep lol then what his going to do is watch porn even by watching it he still having a hard time getting it up, idk what to do I was thinking of buying a lube. Any tips that you can give me cos I like long sex like Kama sutra positions but seems like I couldn’t get that from him by the way his 20 yrs older than me I’m 31 and his 51, but I really like him.
Sounds like he may need to talk to his doctor about this.
My boyfriend have several girlfriends and
I was thinking how am I gonna get his attention on me alone. The very first time I sent him a dirty text he called back and said, “baby , I just wanna suck you till you come in my mouth. Second and third time he called, he’s already into me.
Thanks ? a lot
Hi Sean
A Play Wit My Gf Is Enough 2 Make Me Cum, And I Loose Erection Almost Immediately. Pls Help Me Bcos I Hate Myself 4 Dat.
Hey Sean,
Every time I try dirty texting my boyfriend of over a year he awkwardly responds with a text that isn’t sexy at all. I confronted him and he said he doesn’t think he does this, but literally every time I say something he sexy he responds with an “Aw I love you baby!” Or “yea?” And if I continue it he just slowing fades it out. It’s fucking w my head and I need help lol.
Honestly, you need to talk to him. Let him know how you feel
Hey Sean,
So I’ve been talking to a guy via text for a couple weeks now (we met online) and due to circumstances it’s gonna be another month until we can actually meet in person. I really like him and he says and sounds like he feels the same way. I’ve told him that I am looking for a relationship and nothing intimate can happen between us unless he’s down for a commitment, and he agreed with all those terms. We’ve been talking really well and today the conversation led to sexting and I wasn’t sure how to reply because I am very inexperienced when it comes to all this (in or outside of text). I have decided to give it a shot to spice up the conversation, but I’m not sure I’m too good at it and I don’t want to suddenly give him the wrong idea about and let him think that my principles have changed and therefore rush things. But i also dob’t want to come off as too angelic or annoying even though I’m worried that our conversations might become to concentraited on sex if this goes on. But I don’t want to turn him off or make him think I’m not interested in sex. Basically, I’m not sure what to do with all this, could you please help? I really want to keep talking to him and keep him interested.
I just want to thank you! My husband and I have been together for 4 years and our marriage is amazing. We are best friends and we do everything well together… but our sex life. We are awesome friends, we love doing our hobbies together, we laugh uncontrollably, we agree on goals and finances. Our sex life just isn’t there. He’s not a vocal guy… and he hasn’t explored sexually ever. So for the longest time I assumed it was me. I blamed him for not complimenting me, loving me, having sex with me… listening to your podcast I realized I AM HIS BESTFRIEND… I’m not being his personal sexy bad girl… no wonder our sex life is boring. It was once every two weeks and soooo boring. Iv been listening to your podcasts and for the first time in a long time. He’s excited. I’m going down on him and he’s actually complimenting my skills… anyway. You may have saved our marriage. Thank you
hey Sean I am just a single woman who enjoys sexting crazy lonely men for money,,so thank you for the tips..my christmas presents were amazing.keep up the good work..
I’m married just looking for someone to text messages or pictures to or maybe even hook up for fwb if you live close enough
i have been married for over 30 years. husband stopped having sex because of ED. He got pills, but didn’t seem interested. i met up with college bf. we ended up having PASSIOANTE
sex. we couldn’t get enough of each other for 6 months. now it is just occasionally. i want more. we are both with others. how do i get more of college bf?
I’m in a long distance relationship, but I often want to see my man like too badly this days and I can’t cheat on him so please what should I do?
I just text the man I have been seeing for 4 months. I wrote, “Last night I had the wildest dream…and you were in it! 😈”
His response, “Did I survive?”
I wrote back, “Barely”.
All he then responded with was, “Better than not.”
Am I missing something?
We do not do any sexting so I thought I would try with a subtle one, plus we haven’t seen each other for a few days (we only get together on the weekends).
The sex is great & he praises me on my blowjobs (thanks Bad Girls Bible) ….. but I was expecting more of a response from him regarding my text!
Try it again and this time be a little more obvious. Sometimes us guys don’t see the underlying meaning!
Hey girls, I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a long time now and I’m pretty frustrated that he won’t touch me nor try anything with me; sometimes he makes me think he’s not attracted to me and I love him with such a passion but things are slowly changing for me I feel like he’s pushing me away with my thoughts he makes me have and actions he has towards me we tried making out before but it doesn’t feel right… I’m already talking to another guy who makes me feel loved and desirable but I can’t seem to brake up with my boyfriend I don’t know why… I don’t know what to do
It makes me very sad that he doesn’t even complement me shows very little love sometimes I think he’s too tired for me because there’s someone else …
these comments are so damn vanilla 😂😂 y’all really want to turn your men on? Go to the sex store, get a blindfold, rope, flogger, and a couple more whips, a tickler, butt plugs, anal beads and nipple clamps…. then go to Victoria’s Secret and buy nice lingerie! send a picture of everything to him and wait for his response. have a bottle of red wine ready and dinner. Also don’t be afraid to give head. Moan when you do it and make eye contact. Don’t forget about his balls too because they go crazy over that. When my boyfriend and I started dating I made it very clear how much of a freak I was and I needed to be dominated… in the bedroom. Men like to feel like they’re in control even thought it’s us that really has all the power
Awesome, thanks for sharing!
DUMP YOUR BOYFRIEND
he’s cheating but you don’t want to be the girlfriend that’s cheating too so leave him. There’s a million other men who would give you the affection and love you deserve. Never wait for a man to get his act together. you deserve better girly!!!
it’s a little bit of a cliché to tell him he was in your dream last night… tell him something like I can’t wait to be on my knees for you so I can please you again, or go to the sex store and buy a whip and send a picture asking if he would use it on you. Buy some lingerie and show up at his place with that underneath whatever you’re wearing.
Thanks for sharing, great tips!
I think Dennis is just keeping it real. Stop being so sensitive if your asking for honesty
And sierra is on point.
Even just texting him u wanted to try something new like you you wanted him tie u up and have his way
They will be at your house that night for sure!
Worked for me with a very cocky pretty boy that takes alot to get his attention. He got there wasn’t worried too much about tying mw up either. 😜
SEXTING WITH A MUCH YOUNGER MAN LONG DISTANCE. WE ARE SUPPOSE TO GET TOGETHER IN A WEEK OR SO. The sexting has been hot! Im very worried, I would live up to expectations. It will be the first time together.
Good luck!
SEXTING WITH A MUCH YOUNGER MAN LONG DISTANCE. WE ARE SUPPOSE TO GET TOGETHER IN A WEEK OR SO. The sexting has been hot! Im very worried, I would live up to expectations. It will be the first time together.
I have been sexting with a guy half my age. We have been FaceTimeing we have been masturbating one FaceTime. I am a little worried because his penis is very big and I am very small. My previous husband penis was 4”. Also when we are talking dirty on the phone he always says he wants to fuck me in the ass. Nobody has ever been in my ass. He also asked me what my fantasy is. His is to have a 3 some. I shared pictures of his penis with a few friends and they say don’t worry my vagina will be able to handle it. He had video of him having sex with his last girl and wanted to share them. So he did I couldn’t believe what he did with her. She was also older. Video had every position. Including anal. I couldn’t believe that her butt could take his whole cock. I had a couple videos too way more tame. A couple positions and multiple noise orgasms.
Hi I have been trying to figure something out for awhile now. Last few months I was hanging out with an old friend that is 24 yrs younger than me. Somehow our friendship led to something further and we started having a sexual relationship. I think he cares about me but is not one to talk about stuff like thar at all. But I do know our 1st time was incredible and he told me I definitely don’t f*** like someone my age. And it continued for quite some time. Eventually we had a falling out and he ended up with a gf. It hurt but at the same time he always was upfront that he could never date a way older lady like me. No reason why just Saud he couldn’t. So he is with this younger girl now and he moved her right in but 3 weeks into their relationship he is coming back to me for sex. And I say yes everytime because I still care for him very much. I just can’t understand why he is with this girl for not very long at all and Saud he could never date me but me the one way older is who he comes back to for sex. Just looking for some other people’s thoughts on this. And another thing I would like to know what other people think as to what this means…today we did something sexual that we have never done. Afterwards he says I’m gonna kick ur a**. I Saud why u say that and his reply was damn thar felt good!!! And it was left at that with me wondering what those 2 phrases together even means
..input from anyone would be greatly appreciated. Thank you