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Knowing the best blow job techniques to bring your man into a state of orgasmic bliss is vital if you want to make him utterly addicted to you…or any man for that matter.
That’s what this chapter of the Blow Job Guide is all about, teaching you 55 of my most powerful blow job techniques.
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This page is Chapter 3 of the Blow Job Guide, and you can go back to Chapter 1 here and Chapter 2 here when you have finished reading this chapter. Now let’s learn some blow job techniques to make your man’s eyes roll into the back of his head, and his toes curl in pleasure…
Lick, Lick, Lick It
Licking his penis is a powerful blow job technique for beginning your blow job. It serves as a sort of oral sex foreplay that will build sexual tension and have him begging you to take him in your mouth…which is exactly what you want.
Licking his cock is super easy. At it’s simplest, you just need to hold his penis in your hands and use your tongue to lick it. You’ll find that licking him from the base to the tip works really well. But don’t stop here, there are a bunch of other licking techniques that you can use during your blow job:
Focus on the Tip – According to one study, the top part or glans of your man’s penis [1] is the most sensitive part, specifically the underside of his glans [2], but if your man is circumcised then it will be slightly less sensitive. The bottom side, where the head connects to his shaft, is known as the frenulum and is also incredibly sensitive. Although, some studies find that the whole glans is sensitive with no one part more sensitive than the other [3].
Try focusing on licking the tip of his penis (the glans) using the least amount of pressure possible. Many guys report this being their absolute favorite blow job technique. You can even try doing this for your entire blow job until he comes. More on oral pleasuring the tip of his penis.
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The Topside of your Tongue – The top side of your tongue provides slightly more stimulation than the underside thanks to the rough surface your taste buds create. So focus on using the top side of your tongue when licking him.
His Balls – Don’t forget about his balls. His balls are as sensitive as his penis, and for some guys, even more sensitive. You can simply lick them, but I describe many other ways to stimulate his balls for maximum pleasure here.
Anilingus – There are two other excellent locations besides his penis and balls that can massively add to his pleasure and make him see you as an oral sex goddess even if they are not strictly part of a regular BJ.
His perineum or perineal raphe aka his taint, the rough patch of skin located just behind his balls as well as his anus contain a lot of nerve endings. The root of his penis lies beneath this skin, behind the perineum [4, 5 p 24], so you can stimulate it through his perineum. Some guys adore having these two areas licked and stimulated while others don’t like it at all. It’s a personal preference, and it all depends on your man.
Tonguing these areas, up and down, or in a circular motion is an awesome way to stimulate them. You can even press your tongue inwards on his anus to provide a different, but still pleasurable sensation. This technique is called anilingus.
Taint-To-Tip – A technique that works great if your man has a sensitive perineum (taint) or balls is to slowly lick him from his perineum all the way to the tip of his penis. Doing this in one slow, continuous lick is best.
You’ll also find that it’s easiest to do when you use your hand or just a finger to press his penis against his belly.
One vital blow job technique to keep in mind when licking his dick during a blow job is that:
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Wetter Is Better
Ask any guy, and they will tell you the same thing: Super wet blow jobs feel best. Ideally, you will easily be able to produce lots of saliva on command, but that’s not always easy.
Two tricks to producing more saliva are:
- Chewing gum right before going down on him.
- Eating a piece of juicy fruit before you start blowing him (like a strawberry or pineapple or peach). Related: Pineapple can also make your vagina smell and taste incredible.
Of course, these two tricks aren’t always practical.
A much easier and more reliable way to make your blow jobs super-wet is to use edible lube. Just keep some handy in a drawer beside your bed or in your purse.
This also means that you will have lube handy in case you need some for sex.
Discover everything you need to know about lube.
Deep Throating Solution – One quick way to produce lots of saliva is to deep throat your man. Here’s why it works:
When his penis touches the back of your throat, it will stimulate your gag reflex. This triggers your body to quickly produce lots of saliva. So, if you both enjoy deep throat, this is the perfect technique to give your man a wet, sloppy blow job. More on deep throating in Chapter 7.
Just The Tip
As I mentioned earlier, the tip of your man’s penis (the glans) is by far the most sensitive spot on his penis, particularly the underside. The female equivalent of the penis is the clitoris [6, 7]. So focusing your attention on the tip of his penis is going to work well to push him over the edge in the most intense and pleasurable way possible.
There are a number of different techniques you can use to pleasure the tip of his penis.
Kissing – Kissing the tip of his penis is a fabulous technique to start off your blow job and draw out the length of it…perfect if you like seeing and hearing your man squirm in beautiful agony. Kissing his penis and balls is easy, just think back to how you kiss him normally (on the lips)…
- Purse your lips together and give him small “pecks.”
- Open your lips slightly so that you can gently squeeze the tip of his penis between them.
- With saliva on your lips, gently run them over his penis.
- Use your lips to gently suck on the top of his penis.
The Twister – Using your tongue and lots of saliva, you can perform an ultra-pleasurable and satisfying blow job technique I like to call the Twister. While holding his penis steady in one or both hands, start making a slow circular motion with your tongue around the top of his penis. You can alternate direction and speed to add some variety, but this blissful bj technique alone is enough to bring him to a thundering climax.
Deep Throat – Deep throating your man is a more advanced blow job technique, but when done right, it can deeply gratify and sexually satisfy your man. This extra pleasure is thanks to the back of your throat. As you take him deep into your mouth, eventually, your tonsils and the back of your throat will come into contact with the tip of his penis.
The slight spasming of your throat (thanks to your gag reflex) will make it more enjoyable and stimulating for your man, along with the fact that the rest of your mouth and tongue will be stimulating the shaft of his dick. You can learn more about deep throating your man here in Chapter 7 of the Blow Job Guide.
The Tip Of The Tip – Some guys have sensitive urethral openings. That’s the small slit at the very top of his penis where his cum comes out of. Try gently licking it when giving him a blow job and judge his reaction. If he enjoys it, then he’s one of those guys who enjoys it. If he doesn’t, then just move on to another technique.
Slip Inside – A less advanced fellatio technique that is almost as effective at providing him with intense delight and stimulation as deep throating him is using the inside of your mouth. By taking him into your mouth and pressing/rubbing the tip of his penis against the inside of your cheek and tongue, you have another tool for your blow job arsenal.
Use The Roof – Carrying on from the previous technique, there’s another option for stimulating him: the roof of your mouth. While you might not think it can help you when giving him a blow job, you’d be wrong.
The texture feels great when you angle his penis so that the top of his glans moves against the ridges on the roof of your mouth. If the size of his penis and your mouth don’t allow you to change angles or would mean he gets scraped with teeth, then you should probably avoid this technique.
Fingers & Hands – Using your fingers and hands is not strictly a blow job technique. However, using them is a great way to give your mouth and jaw a break. With plenty of saliva or lube, try gently running your fingers over and back the top of his penis and listen as he uncontrollably groans in pleasure. You can learn more handjob techniques to give your man from the in-depth Hand Job Guide here.
The Up & Down
Almost all guys fantasize about getting a blow job, 87.6% to exact [8], but if you’re not feeling particularly confident the first few times you try it, then my advice is to stick to the easy-to-perform blow job techniques like the Up & Down.
Mastering this first is a smart way to get comfortable giving your boyfriend a blow job before progressing to more advanced techniques and tactics for giving him oral pleasure like sucking him (tips on sucking him off like a pornstar here).
To perform the Up & Down, you simply need to take your man’s penis into your mouth and make a tight “O” shape with your mouth around his penis. This “O” shape means that you can apply pressure around his entire penis.
Next, you are simply going to bob your head up and down, taking his penis in and out of your mouth. Bobbing your head up and down is super simple to start with, especially if you just concentrate on the top inch or two of his penis. As you get comfortable with this, try taking him deeper and deeper with each stroke so that you can stimulate more and more of his penis.
Taking him deeper and deeper into your mouth runs the risk of triggering your gag reflex [9]. Try not to worry about this. It’s entirely natural, and most men don’t really care if you gag a little.
Note: There is a ridge on his penis, where his head joins the shaft. This ridge is particularly sensitive for your man when stimulated. Try focusing on it with your lips when you make the “O” shape.
Focusing on this part of his penis also means that you are only taking the first 1-2 inches of his penis into your mouth, making gagging less likely. If you feel yourself getting close to gagging, it’s okay to pause, breathe, and relax your throat.
2 Tongue Tricks
I want to give you two other blow job techniques that involve your tongue. One is easy to perform, while the other is slightly more tricky but wildly satisfying for your man.
1. Soft Sandpaper – Don’t let the name fool you. This will NOT feel like sandpaper for your man; it will feel fantastic. The reason I call it “Soft Sandpaper” is because you will be using your tastebuds to “polish” your man’s penis in a similar motion that you would use with sandpaper. But the similarities end there.
To start, hold the shaft of your man’s penis firmly in your hand, then make your tongue as wet as possible and stick it out.
Next…
While holding your head and tongue in place, use your hand to move the head of his penis over your tongue. So, the only movement should be from your hand moving his penis over your tongue. Your tongue shouldn’t be moving much at all.
This way, the head of his penis will be running over your tongue.
You can move it in a circular motion, up & down, back and forth, or any movement you like.
In this way, your tongue is “polishing” the head of his penis.
2. Sliding Shaft – For this technique, take his penis as deep into your mouth as you find comfortable and hold it there. 2, 4, or 6 inches deep are all fine. The key is making sure you find it easy and comfortable to hold it there.
Next…
With your tongue at the underside of his penis, you need to slide it forwards along his shaft, as far as you can comfortably go and then slide it backward. Keep sliding it forwards and backward, massaging the same section of his shaft.
While you are doing this, keep his penis in place. Don’t take it deeper or shallower; just keep it in place.
Sliding Shaft is not a breakthrough blow job technique that is going to make your man immediately explode, but it’s a great little trick to use if you want to change your blow job routine and add some new sensations for your man.
BJ Techniques When He’s Uncut
Most of the blow job techniques listed above work best when your man is circumcised or “cut.” While some of the tips transfer without any adjustments if your man is uncircumcised or “uncut,” others need adjustments, and some BJ techniques won’t work at all.
There’s no need to worry, however! There are some special techniques that you can only use on guys that are uncircumcised. The difference is that uncut guys have extra foreskin, also known as the prepuce [10, 11], which partially or completely covers the glans. As circumcision “involves division of the frenulum and excision of the entire foreskin covering the glans” [12], most cut guys will be missing both their foreskin and frenulum.
Pull it back – The foreskin gets tighter when a man is erect, but the tightness varies, so you’ll need to get used to his foreskin when blowing him. Some foreskin is pretty tight when the guy is hard, so there’s not much wiggle room there.
But not too much – This might seem confusing, but pulling the foreskin all the way back can be quite uncomfortable for some guys. So you don’t need to push it as far back as it can go, just enough to expose at least part of the head. A guy won’t feel much if you’re stimulating him through his foreskin, so you need to pull it back to have direct access to the head of his penis.
Switch it up – Pulling back the foreskin means you can focus on just the tip of his penis using the techniques from above, but this can become overwhelming for a guy who is uncut. According to research, cut guys are less likely to ask their partner to be gentler on their penis [13], they want more stimulation; although, women may not always notice a difference in sensitivity [14]. Remember that the foreskin causes an uncut guy’s glans to be extra sensitive, so you may want to let the foreskin move back into place from time to time.
Use the foreskin – You can actually stroke the foreskin across his glans, which feels great for many uncut guys. You can also use this time to give your mouth a break! It’s also a good way to give him less stimulation and make your blow job last longer.
Swirl your tongue – When you’re ready to take his penis back into your mouth, keep the foreskin down over his penis and insert your tongue between the head of his cock and foreskin. Give it a swirl or three. He’s sure to enjoy it! Roll your tongue around as you push the foreskin back off his glans.
Suck and squeeze, gently – If a guy is uncut, you can orally stimulate his foreskin as well as the glans and shaft. This is a technique for a good blow job that will set you apart from other women who may not be sure how to go down on an uncut cock. Suckle and squeeze your lips around his foreskin. Start gently and SLOWLY increase the intensity.
Remember that each guy has his own preference for how much pressure and foreskin attention he likes, which is why it’s essential for you to talk to him about what he likes. Learn more in our jam-packed guide to sexual communication.
Having sex with an uncut guy can be great. Learn about the differences between cut and uncut penises.
Anal Action
Your man’s ass contains a lot of nerve endings, thousands in fact, and it’s begging for some stimulation. This means that there is no better time to introduce anal play than during your blow job. It can literally triple the pleasure you give him.
Here are a few ways to add anal play to your oral sex.
Rubbing his perineum – I’ve already talked about stimulating your man’s perineum during your blow job. It’s pretty straightforward, you can run your fingers over it, teasing it, or you can press it gently/firmly depending on how much pressure he enjoys. Some prostate toys have an external arm to stimulate his taint easily.
Teasing his asshole – Try gently running your fingers over his asshole or even making small circles over it. This is a great way to gauge his reaction and see if he enjoys it. Just like you, he may adore anal play during oral sex, hate it, or be indifferent to it.
If he enjoys it, then you’ll want to continue. Remember, you can use a bit of lube/saliva to make it slicker.
Fingering him – Taking it to the next level, you can start penetrating him with your finger, pressing it in and out.
Prostate Pleasure – A further step during your blow job, is penetrating him about 2 inches deep with your finger and stimulating his prostate (aka the male G Spot). Keeping your fingertips and palm against his perineum, slide one finger into his ass and curl it back towards his penis when you are 2 inches deep.
You should feel a soft fleshy nub. This is his prostate, and you can stimulate it just like you stimulate your own G Spot by gently pressing it and rubbing it.
You can even use a toy to stimulate his prostate while you focus on his dick with your mouth.
Reading the in-depth Prostate Orgasm Guide will teach you everything you need to know about the pleasuring of your man’s prostate.
Pulling out during orgasm – When you keep your finger inside as he cums, you’ll notice that his ass rhythmically pulsates during his climax. This “clenching” sensation around your fingers with his ass during orgasm can be pleasurable for him, but other guys prefer something else….
When you slowly pull your finger out as he orgasms.
The best way to find out what he prefers: you keeping your finger in his ass during orgasm or slowly pulling it out is to ask him — however, the fun way is to try both and judge for yourself what he likes most.
Lube and nails – Lastly, make sure to use lube when penetrating him anally and also trim/file your nails so that you don’t accidentally cut or hurt him. Lube is also essential for anal penetration since the anus doesn’t self-lubricate like the vagina.
Triple Trick
My most powerful blow job technique is called the Triple Trick technique.
It’s not particularly challenging to perform, but it does require a bit of coordination. Here’s how to do it:
Part 1 – Take the head of your man’s penis into your mouth and start performing the Twister on it (I cover this technique above).
Part 2 – At the same time, take one hand, wrap it around his shaft and start to jerk him off while performing the Twister.
Part 3 – Insert a lubed finger into his ass and start to massage his prostate.
You’ll be performing all three blow job techniques at the same time, which requires a good degree of coordination, as I mentioned before.
And that’s all there is to delivering triple the pleasure to your man 🙂
Enjoying Yourself & Putting On A Show
You know that fulfilling feeling of seeing your man in deep pleasure, close to orgasm, and unable to control himself?
It’s incredibly hot.
Well, here’s a secret about most men…
They feel the exact same way about you.
They get off to seeing you enjoy yourself.
Keep this in mind the next time you go down on your man. If you are already naturally enjoying yourself as you give him a blow job, awesome! Of course, there are other ways to further enjoy yourself during your blow job.
Try masturbating and bringing yourself to orgasm as you blow him.
This serves multiple purposes:
- It put’s on a show for your man (most men get visually turned on).
- You show your man how much you are enjoying yourself, giving him a blow job, which is a pretty great way to satisfy his ego.
- You get to orgasm too!
Suck On This
A powerful, but often tiring technique is sucking your man’s penis. Of course, you’re not doing this to “suck” the come out of him, that would be impossible! Instead, you’re going to wrap your lips around his penis and take the first few inches of it into your mouth.
Then you are going to suck on it gently. Sucking on it will cause your lips and the inside of your mouth to press softly against his shaft and the head of his cock, stimulating the length of it. While doing this, you can take his penis in and out of your mouth, allowing you to pleasure it entirely.
While sucking him, you can add some variation by using your tongue to massage his penis too. There isn’t anything more to this technique other than simply sucking and taking his penis in and out of your mouth.
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69
I’m only going to talk briefly about 69ing your man, as I already have an entire guide about 69ing.
As you probably already know, using the 69 position is a great blow job technique to share the pleasure with your man and reach simultaneous orgasm.
But the most important thing you should know about 69ing your man is that…
The BEST 69 position is for him to lie on his back with you on top of him. This way, you control how deep you take him.
The problem when he’s on top, is that he’s the one in control…which isn’t great if you gag easily.
Anyway, check out the 69 blow job position guide for more on this very pleasurable position.
Awesome Sauce
Using the same techniques over and over can eventually become boring for your man (and you!), so it’s best to have a few tricks up your sleeve to change things up at a moment’s notice.
Some women think that to vary things; they need an endless list of blow job techniques and different things they can do with their mouth or tongue or lips to provide different sensations to their man. The truth is, you don’t. There are much simpler ways to spice up your blow job routine.
One way is by adding what I like to call “Awesome Sauce” to your blow jobs. Awesome Sauce is just using something like maple syrup, chocolate syrup, cream, champagne, ice cream, or even ice cubes in your mouth while you go about your regular blow job routine. Here are a few tips on using each.
Maple Syrup/Chocolate Syrup/Cream – All of these tasty treats work super well because they taste great, AND they provide a different but very enjoyable sensation to your husband as you fellate him. Just make sure that if you are using warm chocolate syrup that it’s not so hot that it burns him!
Ice Cubes/Ice Cream – Cold sensations are not the most popular type of Awesome Sauce during oral sex, but they still work well for switching things up and keeping your man on his toes.
Champagne – There is something intensely sexy about champagne, especially when you use it during a BJ. The next time you and your man have some alone time, try slipping into some lingerie and popping open a bottle of champagne. Next, have a little sip and with the champagne in your mouth, take your man in your mouth and start performing fellatio on him.
The bubbles provide your man with new and different sensations, but it’s not just that. There is something about the entire act of giving your man a champagne blow job and making him cum that is super arousing and sexy. Don’t like champagne? A fizzy soda can do the trick.
Mints – Mint naturally creates a cooling sensation. If you suck one before going down, you don’t have to juggle the mint and his penis in your mouth at the same time.
The added benefit of having champagne or ice cream or anything tasty in your mouth is that it drowns out the taste of his sperm and semen when he does ejaculate. Perfect if you can’t stand how he tastes.
Pro tip: To prevent the champagne flowing out of your mouth, make sure you are below your man when giving him head, so being on your knees while he is standing works well here.
Give Him A Hand
Using your hands is a powerful blow job technique while giving your man oral sex. And in case you’re wondering, it’s NOT cheating! In fact, you can give your guy way more pleasure and enjoyment by using your hands on his penis and balls during your blow job. While the in-depth Hand Job Guide will teach you the most pleasurable hand job techniques you need to know, here’s three that you can start using tonight.
Jerk & Suck – Jerking your man off while giving him a handjob at the same time is a super way to maximize his pleasure. Simply take the first inch or two of his penis into your mouth and then wrap one hand around his shaft. While using a simple technique like the Suck On This technique I described earlier, you can also run your hand up and down his shaft at the same time, giving him a handjob.
Time To Rest – If you aren’t used to blowing your man, then you will naturally find that your jaw and mouth get tired quite quickly. Allowing your hands to take over while you give your mouth a rest means that your man gets to receive unbroken pleasure.
So when you feel your mouth becoming tired, grab hold of his penis and start jerking him off for a minute or two. Then when your mouth is rested, you can go back to giving him oral sex. You’ll find some great hand job techniques in the Hand Job Guide here.
Work His Balls – Another great hand job technique you can incorporate into your blow job is working his testicles or balls. There are so many different things that you can do to his testicles with your hands while giving him a blow job, from fondling to caressing to tickling to massaging them. Try experimenting to see what your man enjoys the most. The testicle massage guide will give you more ideas.
Play Ball(s)
Speaking of working your man’s testicles…using your mouth to stimulate them is an excellent blow job technique that adds even more pleasure to his experience. Whatever you can do to his penis with your mouth, you can do to his balls. The only significant difference is that your man’s testicles are super sensitive to pain, so make sure you don’t apply too much pressure…or worse accidentally use your teeth on him!
Further tips: How to avoid using your teeth when giving a blow job.
Kiss His Balls – An easy way to see if your man enjoys you playing with his balls is to start by gently kissing them. Just purse your lips together and give them a few soft, wet kisses.
Lick His Balls – Once you can see how much he enjoys you kissing his balls, take it up a notch by gently licking and massaging them with your tongue. Keeping your tongue flat so that it covers as much of his testicles as possible is best.
Suck His Balls – A more intense way to massage his balls with your mouth is to gently take them into your mouth and softly massage them with your tongue. Remember, the keyword here is SOFTLY. You’ll also find that the more saliva you use, the silkier it feels for your man. Edible lubricant works great here too.
So you can kiss them, lick them and even suck them. A powerful technique is gently taking one of his balls into your mouth and then softly licking and sucking on it.
Remember what I mentioned in Chapter 1 of the Blow Job Guide, that different guys have different preferences. So while some guys adore having their balls stimulated, a small percentage of guys don’t enjoy it much at all. Don’t worry about this as it’s just your man’s personal preference. If your husband or boyfriend does enjoy it, then you’ll find that it’s much easier for you to pleasure his balls if he trims his hair down there.
Podcast: Foundation For Intense Blow Jobs
In addition to reading the guide below, I strongly encourage you to listen to this podcast I recorded that will teach you exactly how to give your man the perfect blow job. I also cover the horrendous mistakes women make BEFORE they even begin their blow job.
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Use Toys
Don’t be afraid to use sex toys during your blow job! There are so many things you can do with them.
- Rub your vibrator up and down his penis, balls or ass as you suck him off.
- Put a cock ring on your man. How to use a cock ring.
- Get your man to wear a but plug or prostate massager during your blow job. Learn: How to use a butt plug.
- Use your vibrator on yourself during your blow job and put on a show for your man. Learn how to use a vibrator.
- Tie his hands behind his back with your handcuffs/bondage gear. Get tips for tying him up safely.
These ideas are just scratching the surface on how to use sex toys during your blow job. If you have any of your own ideas, please feel free to share them in the comments section below.
Eye To Eye: All About Eye Contact
Making eye contact with your man while giving him head can be super intimate and intense and even a bit submissive.
The key to doing it right is understanding two caveats…
Too Intense? – If you have just started dating your man and you proceed to give him a ten-minute blow job maintaining unbroken, unblinking eye contact throughout, then he is obviously going to feel a little uncomfortable. It’s going to feel too intense.
To prevent this, just tone down the amount of eye contact you are making or just look at him for 2-3 seconds at a time
Don’t Force It – Similar to ensuring you don’t make overly intense eye contact, is making sure that you don’t force it either. You can immediately break the sexual tension and kill the atmosphere if you are trying awkwardly to maintain eye contact with your man during a blow job.
So if you notice that your boyfriend always breaks eye contact with you or gets uncomfortable whenever you try to make eye contact with him during oral sex (or even during regular sex for that matter), then just forget about using this technique and try something else.
For Quick Comers/Cummers
If your man cums easily and quickly, then there are two simple techniques you can use to prolong his blowjob and pleasure.
1. Focus on the methods that don’t make him lose control and cum – This may seem obvious, but many women often forget about this. As I mentioned above, the tip of your man’s penis is the most sensitive, so avoid stimulating the tip if you want him to last longer. Instead, focus on his shaft, balls, perineum, and ass along with the techniques that don’t quickly bring him to the edge.
2. Light as a feather – Use a minimum amount of pressure when stimulating him if you don’t want him to cum quickly. So, when you take his penis into your mouth, he should barely feel it.
3. Take a break – Take a moment to caress his body with your hands, kiss up his tummy to suck on his nipples, or even kiss your man if he doesn’t want to come just yet.
Two Steps Forward & One Step Backward
You know that beautiful agony you feel as you build up to cumming at a snail’s pace, and then your man backs off a bit…then he again starts building you up even closer to orgasm? You wish it would come faster, but the entire slow, drawn-out process is still incredibly enjoyable. More importantly, all that build-up makes your orgasm feel far more intense when you do eventually climax.
Well…why not use this to your advantage.
The next time you are giving your man a blow job, try backing off a bit and spend a minute or two doing something else entirely like:
- Giving him a handjob (check our in-depth Hand Job Guide here).
- Fondling his balls (more tips on that here).
- Performing anilingus (read our detailed Anilingus Guide here).
- Just kissing him (here’s our kissing guide).
- Having sex (learn over 100 different sex positions from our illustrated Sex Position Guide here).
- Of course, you’ll find plenty more great sex techniques on the homepage.
Then after a few minutes, return to giving him a blow job. This variation is great for spicing up your regular routine…but it also has the effect of intensifying his orgasm when he eventually peaks and climaxes. Keep in mind that for some guys, if you keep him aroused for a long time without orgasm, he will get blue balls [15] where his balls actually start hurting.
Now it’s time to learn how to finish your man off in style when giving him oral sex in Chapter 4. Chapter 4 covers everything you need to know to have him shaking with satisfaction as he ejaculates.
Of course, if you want to learn how to start off your blow job the right way, then you may want to check out Chapter 1 of the Blow Job Guide or Chapter 2 first.
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“I thought I was one of those women who couldn’t orgasm. I used to think I was ‘broken’ and ‘unfixable.’ This saved my sex life, and that saved my marriage.”
Even if you currently struggle to orgasm during sex or while masturbating, this process will also work for you.
And best of all, you don’t need to do anything weird or uncomfortable to start having the best orgasms and sex of your life.
It would be nice to see some pieces on how important it is to please a lady.
Hi Holly,
I hear ya! I will be adding a section on that shortly, watch this space…
Great tips! I have been wanting to spice up blow jobs for my fiancé and I felt like I had done everything! Wonderful marvelous tips! I’m trying them out tonight! Thank you very much ?
Any tips on taking more up my throat and vagina?
Mmm I liked your wonderful tips though, but the problem is my boyfriend never complimented me or appreciate me or even moan lying there like a pice of wood each time I give oral sex this pains me slot what should I do
Have you tried discussing your sex issues with him?
Hahaha Preachhhh.
Don’t get me wrong; nothing except maybe sitting on one…is better than going down on a nice hard cock and watching his face melt into happiness …yeh jaw gets tired after a while. Often do wonder if he could cum whenever he wants to but he’s prolonging orgasm just to keep me sucking… Well, hell. I guess I don’t blame him.
Lol OMG I feel the same way! I’m online looking for ways to make him cum faster giving him oral ?
Fast up and down stighting of a tighly gripped hand at the bottom of his shaft, and deep blowing with moans. 10x faster.
tbh so real since i heard the pleasure multiplied after i started gripping tighter i never stopped doing it
Is there anyway to truly cover the taste of his cum ? It makes me want to instantly throw up. Please help! Thanks
Deep throat it. Like all the way. It will go down without ever having to touch your toung
I had my man eat pineapple everyday. It really does improve the taste! Otherwise, if he’s shaven, I chew peppermint gum while giving him a blow job. It helps me with having enough saliva, minimizes the taste of cum and he enjoys the “cool” feeling
I’ve tried it with us both lying on our side and when he came the cum flowed along the side of my mouth and cheek and completely missed my tongue, so I didn’t taste it. That’s worth trying.
Have him eat pineapple
GUM
Tell him to drink water, that makes it easier to swallow.
It’s about diet and health (probably). My boyfriends cum tastes good and I like it. No need for water to “flush it down”.
We don’t even need pineapple for the taste… We eat apples, bananas, red pepper, carrots, cabbage and so on (all fresh and not cooked and no, we’re not vegans or anything 😀 but maybe meat does make a difference? We don’t eat red meat much (I don’t like the taste and the texture (doesn’t meant that he’s not allowed to eat meat – he can eat whatever he wants to)) We do eat chickens meat and ground beef is ok too).
He feels AMAZING when he already came and I keep licking and sucking his dick clean…getting all the sperm 😀 Tasty sperm makes bed-life more fun and more enjoyable
We’ve been together a year and almost 8 months. I hope that I’ll never lose the feeling to want to suck his dick. I like doing it and he makes me feel great.
Have them eat more pineapple makes it taste sweeter and so good
Use a thin flavored condom. It tastes decent for you and it feels the same for him! Also try moaning and sticking your tounge out all the way while it rubs against the underside of his penis. Its alot easier than deepthroating.
Having your man eat pineapple or drink its juice really helps to improve taste. I also notice that if my bf has been going through a lot of junk food, there’s always a decline in taste.
If you have him in your throat at the time you won’t taste a thing! Try making your tongue flat and sticking it out as far as you can with your mouth still closed, moving it away from the back of your throat, while you’re holding your tongue down and away exhale and your gag reflex won’t be stimulated?
Go down o him with whip cream in your mouth. My man absolutely loves it and it helps with the taste.
Same here
Something that made giving him head easier and more enjoyable for me was sitting on his face while I do it. When I’m about to get off, I stop sucking and start jacking. ? But, my man loves it when I’m cumming; yours may not get turned on so easily by it, different strokes and all that. Try it one night when you feel frisky. Over time the jaw muscles you use to do it with will get stronger and it’ll get easier.
Stimulate the prostate ladies..that’s how a man will but in first 3-5 min sucking him off if you put your finger in his anus and press his prostate gently
You can try having him finish from behind and lower your back whether standing or on your knees. When he is inside you do some kegal like pulsating or works toward being able to do that.
I promise he won’t have a choice. Also if he purposely tries to extend past your ON time then as soon as he tries to pull back push toward him and grip his dick with a kegal mamacita.
It works everytime and everyone I have done that to. 😉
L Joy
ChynaDoll was talking about oral sex, not intercourse. Did you read the article or her post?
One, two, or three fingers up his ass with lubes at the same time as the bj will give him a quick, hard cum!
My man will not let me near his butt whole. How did u get yours to let u in ? Lol
Try pulling downwards on his cock. The lower you get in front of him with his cock “aiming” toward the ground is much more stimulating to him.
You know how it usually stands “up”, try pulling it downwards while giving him head. MUCH better on making him shoot his load into your throat.
Be careful not to pull too hard when doing this, otherwise, you may hurt him.
I’m circumsized and the frenulum is definitelt the most sensitive area on my penis. Try pressing and flicking your tongue against that area. Very easy on the jaws! Maintain contact throughout, side to side or up and down works equally well for me…see what he likes 😉
When I’m close to orgasm, sometimes my wife slides her lips over the head of my penis w/o interrupting the tongue motion as I ejaculate into her mouth. But the sensation is basically the same whether I ejaculate onto my stomach or into her mouth…Incredible!
BTW – a finger in the anal area can be awesome. Very sensitive there. If he’s okay trying and your finger is long enough, try penetrating and locating his prostate. Massage gently while tonguing him…the result will be mind blowing!
same, I came across Bad Girl Bible from a friend,I was having a hard time with this guy I was seeing and he said that my head was “okay” but the sex was “incredible” but I wanted my oral game to be so fire that he wouldn’t want anyone else.. so I listened to the podcast, I got a little bit of work in and then when he came over.. the BJ was so good to him I became wifey lol…
Glad I could help!
Cunnilingus to several orgasms for her is a rule with me. Besides a womans clit and inner vaginal lips are so sensitive it’s almost easy to bring a woman off for me that is. One of my long time lady friends was Bi or lesbian closeted and taught me very well how to please her. The first chick wanted anal and rimming in addition to good oral. Great teacher
I would imagine that would be in the bad boy bible, can’t teach them how to pls a woman without that stuff lol. Why not take a look there see if there’s advice there on the mean time.
I agree , because I want her to feel amazing and know she is .
We put together the Bad Boys Bible to please your woman specifically for that!
These tips have helped me a lot. My boyfriend loves it and is always asking me to do it! And I’m getting better and better everyday, he said I used every tip in one night, when we were drunk and loved it!! Thank you for the tips they work wonders (:
Great to hear Kiki! Make sure to keep your eyes peeled, new tips are added every week
Hi sean I been with this guy for 4yrs and I never made him cum he said no one ever made him cum when he gets a blow job what can I do
Hi Kiesha,
This can be a tricky one. It sounds like your man has delayed ejaculation (sometimes called retarded ejaculation). The method I suggest that you use to get over this is simple, yet quite difficult for your man:
Firstly get him to avoid masturbating for up to a month. That means no self-touching at all. After a while he will become quite sensitive and much more likely to ejaculate from you giving him a blowjob. You’ll also find that a very small percentage men don’t actually like blowjobs that much. There is the possibility that you man is one of them.
My ex was always like that.
Hi Sean, February 1st makes me & my girlfriend a year & she’s kinda hesitant about giving me a blowjob. How do I make her feel more comfortable about it?
The key is talking to her about it and taking baby steps. She should try starting by giving you a hand job and getting comfortable with that, then moving on to something like licking the head a few times.
Sean
Hey, I Never gave a single guy head ever, many had pushed me down but trust me if you Truly Love the person u will get the urge to do it. I swore I’d never do it n now I love it, but only with ONE MAN ONLY EVER
Yeah, get it squared away now while you’re young, or give her up. In 35 years of marriage my wife hasn’t done anything with her mouth, ever, including kissing (I just don’t care for it!) She’s always hated the idea of giving head (only sluts do that!). She won’t let me go down on her (gross!), won’t uncover her breasts (I’m cold!), won’t touch me with her hands (jerk yourself off!), and won’t spread her legs (it hurts!). Other than that we have a great sex life.
Guess we all get what we deserve, and I figure I was a huge bastard of n a previous life.
Just coming on here reading about how real women act and wishing my sex life hadn’t been over at age 27.
Please kill me now..
Ed, I’m so sorry to hear that!
Just ease her into it . I was like that very reserved about doing anything that involved my mouth on my boyfriends penis . But now I love it ! show her you’re patient but also let her know you want it . Satisfy her (eat her out) then kind of let her know you want it to be your turn … That’s how I got my motivation (;
Ed,
I have been married about the same time as you and my wife was very similar, i.e. don’t touch down there because it does not feel good. Recently though she started getting pellet injections in her butt and a vitamin mix due to menopausal dryness (most get the treatment for hot flashes). Now her hormones are like a teenager’s. If I want sex I just initiate it. (daily for a while) She lets me touch her and do things she only let me do back in college or never did. In fact since I can now give her pleasure that she’s never had, she WANTS to give me blow jobs. Never in a million years did I think such a thing would ever happen to US. It’s truely been life changing and if it ended tomorrow I would still be happy for just finally being able to experience it in my life time.
Research it and start steering her there.
Dear Sean
I have recently been having a sexual relationship with a 37 year old man and I am 18 I tried giving him head (oral) and he didn’t cum he would get hard then get soft then get hard again but would not cum and I have never ever had a man not cum for me actually men have loved the tricks I do with my mouth what is the difference between oral sex for a young man and oral sex for An older man what does older men prefer when it comes to oral ……….is it more mental than physical
As men get older, their testosterone levels start to drop, making it harder for them to get and maintain an erection. This is especially true for guys that are out of shape or who don’t do much exercise. So as frustrating as it can be, don’t let it bother you too much. Additionally some guys have trouble reaching orgasm from oral sex, but have no problem cumming during regular sex. It just depends on the guy.
He needs testosterone level checked. My husband of 25 yrs and out of this world sex starting going soft during sex. When he went soft during blow job I forced him to dr. Back to out of this world sex!! Communication, listening to partner, never critcizing or making fun of is essential to mind blowing sex for both. Reading this page to surprise him tonight with something new????
Ask him what he likes. Not all men are the same. Some guys like to be relaxed and massaged first. Everyone is different.
My ex gf used to complain about me nott cumming but she used to think what worked for her other boyfriend would work for me. After she lost her ego and was willing to listen and be patient, we got to a point that she made me gush like a gyser in a couple minutes. It took practice but was wOrth it.
ugh wish I could make him come from head. . these tips make me feel like a loser in bed…. Going to try all of these but wish they were explained better…. Should I talk to my boyfriend about what he likes? I hate myself right now.
when your sucking him rub in between his balls and his arse.. you could.even stick a finger in there…when sucking using the tongue..KNOWING what he like is half of it..If he.likes too kiss
make out with him and resist him.. if he gets going youll .know
Hi I did that to my ex and he’s still pressuring me to come back to him becos nobody does it the way I do it, it’s full of fun try the ice cream one too
Well i ve noticed after my husband cums once hes done for, for a while lol and we are young. Im 30 hes 33. So when i give him head it is certainly not to make him cum. Lol because i would be PISSED. Im use to going at least twice or 3x’s in bed. Lol is this normal for a 30 somethings year old??
Thats nasty
That sound like an age guilt issue he’s probably ashamed that your so young
If a girl really loves giving head (must have it) she can make a guy cum even with the worst blowjob.
I’m the same way. If he truly enjoys and wants a blow job then you need to be totally enthusiastic. In a way it’s not just the sensation it is part visual and you have to look and sound the part if you will. You have to be sexy. Put on eye make up. And say sexy sensual things to him. Bigger yet use the 69 position to show your beautiful privates to his eyes. I even love seeing sexy underwear myself. Basically you have to stimulate all his senses. But above all he needs to believe you really enjoy having him in your mouth. Think of it akin to overloading his senses to make him believe he is inside your other private part.
If I don’t feel that the girl is really into giving head then its a total turn off for me. I assume you can take that to the bank for any other man unable to climax from a blowjob.
The coup de gras would be to qickly alternate with regular penetration. Each time bringing him closer and closer to climate when inside of you eventually when he is on the cusp of exploding inside of you quickly take him in your mouth and and keep him in your mouth (think of it as practicing or getting him acustomed to being able to climax in your mouth). Or even maybe surprising him when he is behind you quickly turn around and suck him. Even after regular sex. Don’t stop after he finishes. Women get multiple orgasms at least I wish all girls get to enjoy that. Why shouldn’t a guy get a bonus after climaxing. Note as someone else stated gagging is not a turn on. You need to show that you enjoy cum in your mouth.
Take heart.. if a guy doesn’t give a shit about a girl than he wouldn’t care if a girl hates oral sex. So if he can’t climax because he gets the vibe that your not really into it than hey at least he cares?
FYI. I’m not sure about the ice cube technique. The peppermint is nice. But warm tea was nice. For me warm liquid reproduces the warms of a women’s privates incredibly. If any women ever wonders what a man gets to enjoy the only thing I can come close to discribing the sensation is the enjoyable feeling of warmth sensation enveloping a mans member along with the ribbed feeling of the vaginal canal.
Hope that helps. Best of luck!
Suck his penis while he’s sleep
In today’s society, the man could cry rape. Always ask first if they would enjoy being woken up by oral. If the answer is yes, wait awhile. Otherwise he’ll be expecting it and will not have restful sleep.
NO man would EVER object to waking up to a blowjob. EVER. Just do it!
He’s right, ladies!!!! NO man would EVER object to a bj wake-up call! What BETTER way to start the day?!
My boyfriend has stopped me a couple of times.
I know what I’m doing and want to make him cum but he stops me.
Now I’m frustrated.
this is what is called toxic masculinity. A man can not want certain you thinks you cannot imagine not wanting. That doesn’t have to say anything about that man. It wouldn’t make him less sexual. It wouldn’t make him less of a man. It wouldn’t make the partner a bad sexual partner. It would just be in that situation that that man wouldn’t want it. Not every0ne is always horny or down for sex. Communication is very important if both parties want to enjoy sex.
@Stacy, don’t feel like you are a failure, but try to talk about it. Tell him you feel like you are a good gf if you can make him come with your mouth and ask him what his thought towards the subject. Gather your own feelings and thoughts and be open towards his. Communicate.
Hi Keisha. My boyfriend was the same. Said that he can’t ever finish this way. Well I proved it that he was wrong altough it took a lot of effort to prove it wrong 😉
Kiesha, my husband is the same way. I started using the handy while combining all the other techniques and that worked for him. He says he can’t get it out of his head now and I feel proud of myself lol. Hope it helps.
Hi Sean,
Loved the tips, but could you do a section on deep throating as well?
Regards,
Principessa
Hi Principessa,
You’ll be glad to know that I have thought of this! You’ll find the deep throating section here.
Sean
Dear principessa
Beautiful name by the way
I use to cling at the thought of deep throating now I enjoy it
My sister gave me the best tip ever and has worked and Everyman is surprised
Slowly put it down your throat inch by inch slowly take him in your mouth and when u get comfortable look up at your man and see the pleasure on his face and once u get him all the way down your throat make a couple slow swallows and you don’t have to do this but about three times and he’s putty in your hands
Just wanted to add my $0.02, I study female anatomy a lot and experiment and solicit her feedback, so I’m covered on the “pleasing her” aspect.
For me, the best BJ is still half handjob, around the base. You can work the base at different/faster speeds than you can with your head, and it simulates a deep penetration feel when in sync with the mouth, and the mouth provides a lot of lube for the whole assembly.
I don’t like “gagging”, that doesn’t sound like fun for anyone so you don’t need to be marylin chambers to give an awesome bj.
Suction, lots of it, like you cant wait for him to cum. If you are trying for climax then tell him not to hold back, save the endurance stuff for penetration. And slurping so it vibrates the skin is awesome too. I saw an asian chick make a guy cum with just one long slurp proceeding from base to tip before he even had a chance to get hard.
Other hand cupping the balls or stroke his prostate if he is willing. Unfortunately, mother nature put the guys g-spot in his ass 🙁 You will have to be a trustworthy person for that move.
Keisha, I am sorry to hear that. Do you have the same issue with other guys? It might be an attraction thing (heck it might be a sexual orientation thing). I can’t see telling someone not to masturbate, though I could see offering to watch and learn and help, but you should find someone who is more compatible with you sexually, if sex is important to you. Mutual satisfaction is terribly helpful.
Awesome Steveo, thanks!
I just found a way to make my husband cum more than he ever has before, just last night. We’ve been together for nearly 23 years and I married him as a virgin. Going of topic, so here goes: it started by mutual non sexual massage. While we were cuddling, I reached under his boxers and began massaging him sexually. Of course his boxers were flicked off quicker than I got my bra off!
I was giving a gentle handy, when he asked if I’d be interested in giving him a blow job. I took off my glasses and pulled down my hair (allowing him to pull it), though I told him that *I* was in charge and if he tried to push my head down, I would stop and bite him (gently of course). He has had issues with ED the last 2 years after having a quad bypass stemming from his juvenile onset diabetes, so he has been able to climax perhaps one other time in the last 2 years. I wanted to make this one unforgettable! So I introduced the S&M into our evening. After a long blow job, I needed a drink of water and ordered him to keep his hand moving and his dick hard until I was ready to get back to him (I must say, I really enjoyed being dominant!). As I was finishing off an entire bottle of water, he says he was about to cum. I quickly went back to his cock, hands gently massaging his balls, and instead of using my tongue to write letters on his shaft…I sucked as if his dick would provide me with the last oxygen on the planet. As I felt him cum, I provided an even stronger suction. I had 4 large gulps of his cum to swallow while not letting up on the suction. He said that was the absolute best orgasm he had ever experienced in his life.
I personally dislike his flavor due to his diabetes and insulin I suppose as pineapples and other foods have never made his cum taste any better at all. However, knowing how badly he deserved to have a fantastic orgasm after so long…I didn’t gag ( have a terrible gag reflex), and I looked upon his member as if it were Thanksgiving dinner! He trembled for over 30 minutes! I honestly think I drained both testes as there was SO much!
So, for the ladies…keep the suction strongest as he is about to release and don’t let up until there isn’t a drop left! Swallow it. If you dislike the flavor or texture, have a bit of food nearby along with drinks…a sex picnic!
For the guys, if your lady is happy to give you a blow job and doesn’t mind swallowing, ask her to just suck and keep strong suction when you let go!
It has been 26 hours since we had our fun last night and my husband is still in a state of bliss. ^_^
I’ll be doing this as often as possible, at his pace until we’re finally able to make love again.
Statistic wise: I’m 39 & he is 41. I’m dying for an orgasm myself, but if this helps him let go of his fears (I was *really* going at it while he had his heart attack, so I think it is likely psychological even if just a bit), then hopefully within a few weeks or months we can resume making love every chance we get!
Yes, Sucking extra hard after I start to cum pulls all the semen out in one long gush and I can feel the suction deep in my scrotum as she sucks out the last drop.
THIS IS THE SUPER BLOWJOB!!!!!
I absolutely love the sick in my mouth. Sometimes more then being pleased my self. I’ve came across a technique using halls throat lozenges. It taste great and puts a different feel for him. Like the ice but last a little longer. Can you give me any other suggestions to put in my mout that will tantize my partner?
Hi Shelli,
You’ll find more awesome suggestions on the main blowjob page, the sex bucket list page and of course by signing up for the Bad Girls Bible newsletter.
Sean
I’ve heard of that too. As well as peppermint.
Warm tea was amazing. She drank a little and held some in her mouth while giving me head. A little tricky keeping it from leaking out of her mouth but it was amazing. I compare the warmth to being inside a woman.
I’ve personally never done it, but I have heard that Poprocks or some kind of candy of that sort, is absolutely amazing.
Icy Cool – try ice cream. 😉
hello net friends. go to sonic the next time your there get the peppermint candy… DO NOT THROW THEM AWAY
put one in your mouth just before you start to make your man happy. keep it in your mouth while your sucking on his penis. start out slow and then build as he moans in delight. take the tip of his penis and suck it hard and fast while keeping the peppermint in your mouth. he will reward you happily
thajek
As a guy, extra juice is not always what I look for. As a matter of fact, I like it very much as long as the lips can remain dry or just moist. But the lips need to be stuff. It is a feeling not easily described because this way there is more friction.
Hi Sean, The last couple of times i have given my boyfrined a bj had got him to the point to where he wants to cum and it feels like it coming.. but he doesnt so we have to fuck in the last part of the bj and he gets all light headed from it.. What can we do to where he cum’s when he wants to?
Hi,
There is a small proportion of guys who have trouble with cumming from a blowjob. Your best option is to get him to stop masturbating for a week or 2 beforehand and he should be sensitive enough to orgasm from a blow job.
Sean
Learn how to spell.
Again, make sure to be careful not to massage them to hard.
Hi Rebobox, thanks for the tips…and please let me know if you see any typos, I keep missing them!
While you are licking his balls, slide your tongue down and gently lick his butt, pushing the tip of your tongue against the hole. This will make your man go wild, especially if he did not ask for it.
is there any dirty talk i can possible before or during blow job? thanks!
Hi Emily,
For sure, it all depends on what you feel comfortable with. You could tell your man how much you are looking forward to going down on him along with exactly what you’re going to do to him before you go down on him. During the blow job itself, you could let him know how good he tastes and how hot he makes you. Make sure to check out the dirty phrases section, along with all these dirty talking articles for more advice. This video should also help give you some ideas on what to say to him.
Sean.
Hi Sean,
I am having trouble making my man cum when giving him a blowjob it seems to take ten minutes or more to get him cum is there a way to make him cum faster?
Hi Usagi,
That seems fairly normal to me. One way to get him to cum faster is to get him to refrain for a few days or even weeks before orgasming. This way, he’ll be super sensitive.
Sean
So whenever I go down on my guy, he doesn’t cum and I get really tired after a while. The reason he says is that hr has BETTER STAMINA. How do I make him cum a little faster?
Get him to stop masturbating for a few weeks and he will become super sensitive.
always swallow
Lick him all the way. Start by licking his dick starting at the tip circle it if you want to then go to his balls then to his butt. Make sure its a surprise!
Hi Sean
My boyfriend has performance anxiety when it comes to sex.. I am not the type to brag but I do consider myself pretty good at giving blowjobs and I’ve had great results with my exes and never had any problems. With my current boyfriend, he has a tendency to go soft in the middle of a blow, and I’ve tried everything to make him comfortable.. And he cums fast.. I wanted it to last longer so he could enjoy the blow more than just 3 minutes of me beginning.. What do you recommend?
There’s a few things you can try….
– He could have a few drinks to try an relax.
– He can try masturbating with a tighter grip to desensitize his penis.
– You can try talk to him to see if there is anything he’d prefer you to do that might help.
Let me know how things go.
hi sean!
How can I make my cum tasty for my man?
Try drinking some juice a few hours beforehand and don’t eat or drink anything else. Pineapple juice works best.
Hi, Sean! I love your site, info & advise! I noticed you mentioning chocolate sauce for tasty fun. I use Dove chocolate bars. Milk chocolate melts quickly with just body heat & is extremely smooth & creamy! Yum! I introduced my man to “cocklate” about a year ago! He went nuts! I thoroughly enjoyed his intense reaction & keep this as a special occasion bj or he’d want it all the time! Lol! Every time he sees a Dove chocolate bar he looks at me and says, ” ooooo! Cocklate”! I keep a bar hidden by the bed!
What a great tip, thank you for sharing!
You’re most welcome, Sean. I’m having a great time applying your tips & adding various favors to the mix gets the saliva going very well. Caramel apple dip melts nicely with body heat also. Been trying out warm & cold liquids, very tricky!
Do you have any pointers for height difference? I’m 5’1& he’s 6’1. Thanks!
Honestly, experimentation is the key here. Keep experimenting with different positions to find the ones that rock.
Hello Sean if I’m dealing with a guy that has pearls in his dick one on the front mid shaft the other on the back how do I give oral sex I’m scared I might do something to hurt it
Hi Cheri,
It’s best to just talk to your man, so you know what techniques are pleasurable for him and which ones hurt him.
Sean
Get Sean,
My fiance doesn’t like getting blow jobs very much, he lets me do it because he knows I like giving them. He says it feels like foreplay for him. I just had a baby and we’re not allowed to have sex for 6 weeks so I keep asking him to let me give him a bj and he always says no. I mean, he likes them when I’m giving them to him and he bums every time but it’s hard to get him to the point of letting me give them. What can I do to make him like them more enjoyable for him?
Talk to him…you might discover that he prefers something similar but different like a hand job or even a foot job.
Ask him how you can make it more pleasurable. He may not want to tell you you are hurting him.If he won’t say anything, try being more gentle. If you are touching his balls or prostate, be particularly gentle.
Am really learning nice stuff here, my fiance always enjoy me giving him blow job, but the problem is that it gets to the point of almost climaxing but he never ejaculates untill it end with sex. I really wish i could make him come, without having sex, sometimes thats all i want to do . but it seems so impossible for him.
To all the women who have said they truly enjoy and more importantly INITIATE a blowjob, you ma’am are a blessing to your partner.. You posses a wonderful characteristic that should be rewarded… I wish everyone of you could have won the $1.4b powerball… I envy the men in your lives… Shame on any man who denies you of your God given right to enjoy a nice c*ck in your mouth… Remind that man that everytime he says no to fellatio, somewhere in the world a baby bunny rabbit cries… Oh i weep in jealousy of these unknowingly blessed men…. (i cleary don’t get enough ?)
I’m learning sum great tips to blo job in different ways thanks,I proud to be a slutty bitch for hubby,its do important for me too swollow is loads daily it make me so happy,were buying a sling so I’m in different position’s its so special for me
I am 59 and my boyfriend is 63 (believe it or not the sex gets so much better as you mature, I think because we are more confident within ourselves) I love giving him BJs and for the first time ever enjoy swallowing him. I usually give him a BJ and before he cumms I climb on top of him. Unfortunately he reaches a climax very quickly with a BJ what can I do to kind of slow him down.
she did all that stuff it was so good filling i cumed 3times in a row
Hi Sean 🙂
Where can i find a link to chapter 4?
Here you go.
Hey I love the tips is their any tips for taking anal
Try these ones.
Hi,
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two months now, and especially when I’m having my period I give him blowjobs. The first time I gave him one he came pretty fast, in about 7 minutes, but since then it takes longer. Sometimes I’m giving him a bj for about 30 to 40 minutes, and my jaw starts to hurt really bad or I get back pain from sitting in the same position all the time. When we’re having sex, he can postpone his orgasm to about 45 minutes or something, so he’s just very good at that. Does that have something to do with the fact it just takes him long to cum?
Like last night. I was pretty tired but we were both kind of horny and I gave him a bj, but it just didn’t really work out. I was busy for a long time – I don’t even know exactly – and he would get very hard and then softer again, over and over. At one point I was kind of done with it because I had pain in my back and jaw, and he said ‘let me get you back on track’ and he took over for a minute and then let me finish it with my mouth, and he had a very intense orgasm. But I don’t know I really felt like a failure, because it was the first time I didn’t do it all on my own. I’m kind of insecure about my techniques now but he says I’m the first girl to let him cum from a blowjob ever (and he has quite some experience).
The main point of this story is that I don’t really know if I’m doing a good job or not or that he just gets bored along the way. I really want to please him as good as I can, and not make him think like ‘gosh how long is this gonna take’. Do you have any tips/ comments (like is it normal for a guy to take that long?) for me?
Get him to stop masturbating for a few months and he will become super sensitive.
Best is get him super stoned and lay back on bed naked. put on music and turn lights really low but enough to see in his eyes.let him fantasize while you take time and move with his every move finding what really gets him turned on. the goal is for him to disapear in his mind and forget who is with and get him out of control where he never been and if he cool let him talk dirty and tell him ok to make swallow and a nasty as he wants.the best are ones who would never do such a thing but when they finally try they cant get enough.if you cant blow his mind and be the best he has ever had then waste of time. The ones most resitant are most afraid they will like to much and holding back from living good. only do this with the one you are down with and have a super hot passion for. hard to beat someone with a pasion for it and messing out if you dont get someone who just wants to get someone off versu getting someone special off.
My boyfriend won’t cum! He has all the signs (shaking, throbbing, etc.) but he won’t come! Am I doing something wrong?
Sounds like YOU are doing everything right, but he is not that sensitive. Ask him to stop masturbating for a few weeks and he will be come super sensitive.
It’s all fine. As a teqnique try sof biting him right after he starts shaking. This always gets me off 🙂
Question for you. Long ago a lover showed me a technique for BJ that was awesome. Tough to describe but she would hold my cock deep in her mouth then use the back of her tongue to massage the two points just under the head of my cock, cradling my cock in her tongue. She would move her tongue in a sucking motion also using her throat to suck. I’ve described it as sucking like a baby or like a calf.
the feeling was awesome. Some of the best orgasms ever. Of course I would CIM which added immensely to the experience if my lady would continue to suck as I came.
I came to much prefer this kind of BJ to intercourse. Not to compare the two. It opened up the alternative of teaching me to give great oral to my lady to return the favor. The oral became an end in itself rather than mere foreplay.
I was able to teach future lovers to do the same with some patience and cooperation.
I haven’t seen this technique on any porn. I’m not even sure what you would call it.
This is not a porn BJ, Far from it. No bouncing of the ladies head.
Like a book I read some years ago, Giving a BJ should be a total different experience than mimicking intercourse. There are lots of additional options with the mouth and hands.
Just thought I would share this with you. See if anyone else practiced this technique or knew what to call it.
this is the same blow job technique I do with my boyfriend, like a puppy sucking for milk with slightly ‘swallowing’ (idk if this is the right term for it) the head of his cock. I think its some sort of deep throat.
Hey guys. So me and my boy friend have been dating for about five days now. And he really wants to have sex with me. But I’ve never done it before. And this website is too much to remember. What’s simple enough for me to turn him on? Like, what’s the simplest way to suck his dick. And does it hurt? I have to say, he does turn me on. And I turn him on too. I just don’t want to panic when I do it with him. Any tips?
Trisha try setting the mood to where you both are comfortable. Also, from my experience the wetter you are the less it hurts.
Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and I have only made him cum 3-4 time our entire relationship, I try to give him the best blow job, does any one have any tricks? He doesn’t like his anus of balls touched, so any thing would help.
Get him to stop masturbating for a few weeks and he will become a lot more sensitive.
Best,
Sean
Moan and act super into it as if you are addicted to his dick. Being enthusiastic about it makes it a lot more sexy.
All of the comments have suspended me. I always ask my wife to have bj,but she refuses me, how can I entice her?
Talk to her.
My wife has always been a giver since we met. She was the first one to ever do that for me and it was the best feeling any woman ever gave me. She is always practicing her craft to get better and man there ain’t no better intimacy than a woman who loves her man and uses her oral skills to make it the best she can for her man. And because she is so good and loving at it I have no interest in having an affair, it’s the most cruel and humiliating thing I could ever do to her. I love my wife for a lot of other reasons besides good sex, and I could not hurt her like this. I trust her and she trusts me, and I think that trust is partly what makes for great intimacy, and the ability to completely let go of ones self while under the control of another. And an orgasm comes while under the control of another person. So as long as she is in control of giving me mind blowing orgasms, I just have to let go and let her control my orgasm, and bring it to an explosive ending. And for that, I applaud her and thank her for it. Babe I love you.
I will like to know every time or day when something comes out new I will really like to please my man in every way I DNT WANT him to think about another women
Having a hard time getting my guy to cum from blow jobs. Have tried lots of different techniques and am going on him for a loooooooong time. Any tips? WANNA MAKE HIM CUM
Get him to stop masturbating for a few weeks.
tell him you need to swallow his cum.
That should do it!
Hey, after about a year i started doing more with my boyfriend (my first boyfriend ever) than just kissing, and it took anther couple of months before i actually gave him a bj, i discovered that he is uncircumsized, but his tip is very very sensitive (not in the best way). any tips to help safely play with his?
We are both adults btw, he has been sexually active but I am a very late bloomer in that sense, truly never even kissed a guy before meeting him in college. He’s super nice though, patiently waiting for me, so i really want to blow his mind. He said i was amazing the first time, but since we hadn’t done anything really sexual for our first year… I feel like anything short of accidentally biting him would have warranted the same response.
Please I’ve never done this in my life and my bf is asking me to be sucking him .. And I don’t like it all.. What can I do because I don’t want to loose my bf .. Please I need your advised …
Why would you do something you don’t want to do? If you don’t feel comfortable and if he is willing to leave you for not giving him a blowjob, what is the pojnt?
I agree with Lai, however, if you want to try again, have him drink pineapple juice to sweeten the taste, which sometimes works. Also, have him cum inside you first so there is less when he comes the next time, hopefully the same day.
If that doesn’t work, and you don’t like it, he may not be the right one for you if he is trying to make you go down on him. Men do taste different so don’t think they are all the same. I didn’t like the taste of my former husband’s cum and never let him cum in my mouth, but i enjoy the taste of my bf and his cum, even after he’s been inside me. He doesn’t mind going down on me after we’ve made love either. It can be a totally different experience with someone else.
Don’t let this guy force you to do anything you don’t want to do.
BTW, I’m having the best sex I’ve ever had, he says he is too, and we are over 65. Never say never.
I have a problem with my teeth getting in the way. Any suggestions
I enjoy swallowing my husband’s cum but I’m not sure what to do with my mouth while I’m doing it. I usually just pause and swallow. Any tips?
Yes while he is cumming help him out a little bit by gently sucking on the tip of his cock. He will tremble!!!!!
Hi sean, I’m a little scared to try some of these tips, like deep throating and the actual swallowing of the cum. Though you I’m not 100% sure why. Any tips of getting past this?
Check out the Deep Throating Guide for tips on making it easier.
Av always given my Man a BJ and he’s very comfortable and loves me so much, he comes home frequently for it.
Hi. My boyfriend and I have been together for quite a long time now and we have great sex. I always give him oral sex and love it actually but he has never given me oral in return or even attempts to. I am clean and he always says he loves the way my vagina looks and everything. But we have never really discussed this topic. Is it me?
talk to him 🙂
It could be he went down on someone else and he didn’t like the taste. Maybe run. Your finger through your girl and lick it yourself, then ask if he wants to taste your finger. Maybe then he will try it. Good luck!
Dear Sean,
So here’s the story. My coworker and I have been messing around. He’s not huge but hes not small. Anyways we were being spontaneous and I started giving him road head. But during the middle of it my teeth kept scraping his dick a little bit. How do I avoid that? I don’t want to hurt him
wrap your lips around your teeth
My balls are getting hurt if I am edging. Suggest what to do
Stop edging and come. You could be giving yourself blue balls.
My boyfriend and I are about to head off to college together but we still have never done anything. I wanna surprise him with a good blowjob, only I’ve never previously given one. What are some really good first timer tips?
Just read the above guide 😉
You got to go into it WANTING his cock so bad, that all you seem to think about lately is how wonderful it would be to have this man’s cock and near areas for you to finally have your way and show him just how bad you’ve been waiting for this moment by the sheer lust and passion and the determination which shows throughout as you try to show him that you will worship his cock until he shoots his load each and every time, no matter the place, time, or day. That is how you psyche yourself up and trust me, usually some men will let you keep going for round 2, my record is 13 rounds in a jaw locking 5 hour record attempt to see how many times I can make him cum in 3 hours, which wasn’t enough for me so I kept at it
I love bj. Lastnight I did bj n it feels so good. So I tell my husband I want to do again today suck again but he said don’t I have better thing to do . When I confront this he said he’s just joking. Wtf ! his feedback makes me embarrassed !!! this is harsh joke it’s not jokeat all !!! I’m so disappointed and hurt !!!
Hey Sean,
I can’t make my boyfriend cum on my own ( hand job and blow job) I feel really bad about it cause I feel like I am failing him. But he thinks it has some thing to do with him because his ex grinded against him in jeans on his bare dick and so he can’t feel it as much i guess ( she grinded against him really hard and when they had sex she made him stick his dick up the side of her shorts which hurt him a lot). Is there any thing I can do? Any one got a tip for me?
Sounds like he has desensitized his penis. This can be because of him masturbating a certain way or with a certain grip that he is used to. Get him to stop masturbating for a few weeks and he should become a lot more sensitive.
Great tips, but I didn’t see any for guys like me who always go for the hottest straight guys and get denied. I have been sucking cock expertly with a passion as far as I can remember, and I love getting my reward to savor before I slowly swallow, so as far as tips are concerned. I was thinking about writing my own blowjob do’s and don’ts with triple the content offered here, being as it may I worship cock with a fervor many could only dare to witness. But how do I get those men who don’t simply go both ways? Dagnabbit, I’ve missed out on straight cock so many times by rejection, I would say a thousand or so, but I’ve easily been accepted tenfold or more. Sometimes I like to trick them into thinking it is just trying it out, or tricking them into abandoning their selfish ways just for a moment as I coax up a hot load for my fix, as much as a cigarette smoker needs their fix, that’s me with cum. How can I be so smooth and deceiving just long enough to have my nostrils invaded with pubes as they are coating my well stretched throat with the nectar of the gods?
I’m a senior citizen. I have sex regularly. Age changes some things. My partner is imprudent. He still has feeling. A blow job really help stimulate him. Some of your suggestions work but some won’t work. Do you have any for my problem??
The Blow Job Guide should help you with most issues.
Ok thanks I will try them out
Ladies sexy hot talk a wet tongue and mouth can make a man beg you to suck his dick. While rubbing his cock through his jeans. Whisper in his ear how you want to lick his dick and feel his cock get hard in your mouth as u suck it. Slowly unzip his pants while looking up at him. Rub it as u unzip. Breathing hard and looking into his eyes, start licking the head of his dick work down on it slowly making sure to get it very wet. Tell him how good his cock tastes. Stroking it gently as it goes in and out of your mouth. Gently stroke his dick as u look at him and whisper my pussy is getting so wet licking your cock. Take his hand and run it slowly down to your pussy and guid him gently to touch you juicy pussy. Again gently guid his hand to your mouth and lick the juice off his fingers. Moaning as u taste your pussy juice. Men love seeing a woman hot and in control. Be sexy just soft slow makes me hotter.
I love to get my balls licked and sucked on that makes me cum so hard. Kanya use to make me cum every time she gave me head and he would know exactly when to start licking and sucking on my balls. She always got her reward.
Kristi you are sure right on point..you know what men love.
Sean,
My boyfriend said I need to “suck” his penis better when giving a blow job. He said I need to suck it like a straw. I thought that was what I was doing! I know he needs a very firm grip probably because he masturbates to porn a lot. We are currently in a long distance relationship.
Feeling frustrated but want to please my man!
2 things:
1) Try it.
2) Get your man to stop masturbating with such a firm grip (it temporarily desensitizes his penis).
He fucked up if hes telling u to suck it like a straw. I can tell u for certain that shits no way to do it. Just cause its called suckin dick dont mean u should be suckin on it like a lollypop. U just need to get a good wet rythem goin and stick with it. Keep ur teeth away and be smooth and sensual about the strokes, ohh and tounge his dick hole without ur lips around his dick as well but only for a bit from time to time. Otherwise u just need to be trying to keep things wet and smooth no actual sucking or hovering is needed here. When hes close which u will know when his dick head starts to swell up and pulses slightly thats when ya need to open up wide and slam your head down hard and fuck yourself in the throat cause that will make him go crazy and u will recieve the most outrageous amount of cum from him, plenty to soak ur titties and fill ur mouth up for sure. Have fun!!
Pretty wonderful,looking forward to giving my man head.
Does this work if you’re a man wanting to suck another man’s dick ?
Yup
I’ve never had a orgasm and I never let myself cum. I’ll feel my clit tingle and get got hot and I have this urge to squeeze muscles but I usually push my partner off of me so I can relax and then start again.. how do I let my body relax enough so I can have a orgasm and cum?
First, try it alone. Then try it with your partner
This actually worked bf loved it
Glad I could help
If my man has not nuted in two months how can I get him to come
No nutting in two months?? If he is a middle-aged man this sounds worrying, he should probably talk to a doctor.
Honestly one of the best ways to give good blowjobs is to find their turn on points beforehand. I reccommend checking ears and neck first. I almost made a guy cum just by biting his ears
I have tried all these techniques for blowjobs but my man still wont cum unless we have sex. What else could I do to get him to cum with a blowjob???
Talk to him and he may tell you what’s holding him back from cumming.
Only one girl has ever made me cum by bj
I don’t normally cum by bj but one girl has made me and i can’t get her off my mind though she’s married but I haven’t got a replacement
Hello Sean Jameson
Am a man of 44 years old my woman is 37 we have been together for 6 to 7 years now when we started I was enjoying the sex because i explained to her how much i love sex. Everything is going well not until we had our first baby since then she don’t like having sex with me like before. We have had several discussions over this yet nothing positive. We now have sex some times once in a month or twice. And that makes me masturbating all the night in other to have a good sleep. And i don’t want to lose her because i love her so much. And i don’t what to do it with other girls i have been having a lot of patient with her. Please help me it’s driving me crazy
You need to talk to her
So my guy tells me that the absolute most amazing blow job he’s ever experience was with a girl who had both his cock and both of his balls in her mouth all at the same time. It wasn’t for just a few seconds either. He’s says it was the biggest orgasm he’s ever had.
I’d love to be able to do this for him but can’t even picture how.
Any guidance and help would be appreciated.
My advice, start by learning how to deep throat, then take it from there.
Hi Sean,
When using blow job, mostly up and down sucking, my man likes it but nevers cums from it and this makes me quit in less than 5 minutes and switch to intercourse. Any tips? Do you advice using more tip licking?
He could have reduced sensitivity. One way to combat this is to get him to stop masturbating for a few months and he will become more sensitive, making it easier to cum from a blow job.
Ladies, I gently traced the tip of my fingernail along the underside of his dick while his tip was in my mouth. He cannot stop talking about it. Some men may appreciate just a little tease like this, whether it’s your fingernail or teeth. Be gentle!!
Hi Sean
Does swallowing the cum affect you in any way?
Love the read I’ll give him more eye contact but I don’t use any hands with him at all. He blows fast when I suck with no hands and yes I deep throat him and swallow him all the time. I wouldn’t mind being extra and sucking honey off if him. I drive him wild super wild all the time I give him head at random times.
So I have always enjoyed giving Blowjobs and have always been told I’m quite good at it. A lot of which I feel I owe to this website. My usual “technique” has always involved focus on the balls and somewhat on the ass as well, however the first time I went to give my now boyfriend a blowjob he ended it quickly because it would seem he doesn’t really like his balls touched at all. Which okay I can understand I guess but now I feel like I just give a lot of up and down motion with some licking and I don’t really know what to do with my hands any more. I’m worried about getting boring. He says he likes it and I’ve almost always made him come but I’d like to offer a little more variety that might entice him to wanting a blowjob more often. It’s currently not a very frequent thing because he’s not very good at receiving pleasure I guess? He’s good at, and enjoys, giving pleasure but not very good at receiving. He has some trouble just relaxing and enjoying himself. He often gets into his head and worries that it’s taking him too long to come and that I’ll be getting tired but won’t stop until I’ve satisfied him, and he just ends up losing the mood completely. (Which to be fair is my personality and would definitely be how I’d act, but I can hold out a while before I tire.) So I can’t necessarily try and draw it out for too long, I don’t like to rush it and wish I could tease him a little more but like I said, too long and he worries and loses the mood… I’m just not sure how to help him relax a little more and maybe add some more variety now that half my technique has been taken off the table. The last thing I want is for him to start to get bored of the same old same old when I do get to go down on him and just stop wanting blowjobs altogether.
Hi Nelly,
The thing is, everyone is different. Some people get off more from giving pleasure than receiving. Some people get self-conscious when receiving pleasure, it really depends on the person. The important thing is that you are both talking. You may find that he just prefers a simple up and down motion and doesn’t need/want anything fancy. It could be this consistency that makes him cum.
Bottom line: talk to him
That is me, Sean. Just a simple up and down motion with the lips like an O as far down as she can go then back up, again and again, slowly and easily, without stopping to perform any tricks. All of the tricks and tips about the anus and the scrotum and the kissing and licking will never make me climax.
My wife would continue to BJ me after I come. After about a minute my penis would get super sensitive and I would beg her to stop. But she continues and like to watch me squirm my body to move away. However, this is the best feeling/bj that I can get. If she does this too long, I feel my hernia may jump out of my abdomen.
Great.
This could solve the world’s problems, truly it could.
No man could attack another after this type of experience.
Meanwhile I’m sort of winding it all down now.
I’ve had some great BJ’s. Incredible ones actually.
But I only once had a woman that could do it right every time.
And she’s gone now.
She could have been a contributing editor to your article. Truly.
But without her, I’m lost.
Nice article.
Thanks for your comment Kevin. I’m sorry for your loss.
He rlly likes when I put my finger in his asshole. He cums immediately! 🤤
Forget about gimmicks like pop rocks and honey, the keys are enthusiasm and don’t be afraid to use your hands, guys are used to that direct stimulation from the Tuesday nights home alone. It’s in no way cheating. The finger up the ass should be by request only, I estimate 95 percent of guys are going to be too uncomfortable to enjoy that. I’ve had a few girls try to surprise me with that and the awkwardness is more bad than good.
This weekend my husband, we’ve been together 18 years, told me I’m not good at blow jobs. I’ve asked him how was I doing afterwards and he never said anything. I was crushed when he told me. Since I’ve always asked if I needed to do anything better.
Just wanted to thank you for all your advice. I used a couple of the blowjob techniques on hubby tonight, as we have been wanting to spice things up, and it’s probably the fastest I’ve ever been able to please him. To the point he said he wanted to get on here himself and write a review! 😂❤️ Thank you again!
Happy to help!
Tried a combo of techniques on my hubby last night and today that’s all he could talk about after work and couldn’t keep his hands off me even when we was at the bar playing pool. Sean you’re absolutely amazing. Thank you for all the advice.
Happy to help!
What is the best way to fully pleasure a man (and yourself) when he is a bit in the smaller side? Blow job’s are great, but wondering about positions, techniques that can satisfy both of use.
Experiment with lots of techniques and figure it out together. Talk to him and ask for feedback
What about strawberry or raspberry jam? I’m thinking of the little seeds swirling around the head. I don’t like the taste of cum. I’m all about pleasing my man.
Ever since I started giving him blowjob my world never lacked he practically worships me