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I was surprised the first time one of my readers asked me how to be a slut. I had to think for a good, long while why that might be a good thing.
Like so many of you, I was taught that being a slut is bad. However, I’ve come to see that isn’t always the case, and I’m happy to provide you, my readers, with advice to help them become slutty.
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A conversation with one of my buddies about a girl I had developed feelings for got me thinking about what me and my friends meant when we called women sluts.
I spent the longest time thinking about it.
A slut is a word that is typically used to describe promiscuous women and women that enjoy casual sex. It is a word that is almost exclusively used for women and it does not have a positive connotation. It creates an image of a woman of low value. A guy who leads a similar lifestyle is often called a stud or a player [1 p 3].
So what is wrong with a woman who enjoys having sex?
Are women supposed to repress their desires while men fulfill theirs? That’s neither a fair nor a healthy attitude.
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This isn’t how we look at men. Men aren’t expected to “save” their virginity, and having sex with a lot of women can earn some mad props from other men.
The more I thought about it, the more confused I became. Even though it’s common enough for women to be called sluts, it doesn’t always seem to mean the same thing!
What’s A Slut, Anyway?
Before you can learn how to be a slut, you need to understand what it means to be a slut.
Everyone who uses the word “slut” uses it in a slightly different way.
The term usually brings to mind a woman who is sexually promiscuous. She has had many partners or likes casual sex. She may dress provocatively.
Sometimes it’s just a pejorative that describes a woman who is unpopular or does something undesirable. It may even apply to someone who makes bad decisions sexually or otherwise.
Even when people agree upon the definition as someone who is promiscuous, there’s no agreed upon number of partners that makes a person a slut. Is it five partners? Ten? Perhaps it’s sleeping with more than one person at a time or refusing to settle down?
What makes a woman say “I’m a slut” varies.
Hell, some women even use it as a friendly nickname with their friends.
The women who are called sluts are all totally different with nothing in common but they all seem to fit the broad definition of the word ‘slut’.
This shows the term is as subjective as the person using it. Ten partners in a month might be a huge number for one person but just a good month for another!
So take it with a grain of salt if someone calls you — or anyone else — a slut. And keep in mind how subjective this term is if you’re tempted to call another woman a slut. Because no matter what the word “slut” means to someone, it’s generally a judgment on a woman — usually an unfair one at that. You’ve probably been on the receiving end of that judgment, and the world doesn’t need more of it!
Highly sexual women report experiencing struggles & challenges because of their sexuality [2]. Ditching those sex negative attitudes is one way to improve your sex life.
Check out this article with more tips to improve your sex life.
Plus, there’s nothing wrong with being a “slut” if it’s what truly makes you happy… and as long as no one is getting hurt. Sometimes people ignore that caveat, but it’s an important one. You might think it’s just sex and even say so, but if you know the guy is in love with you, in a relationship, or that one of your partners thinks you’re monogamous, then your slutty behavior can have some seriously negative effects.
Fortunately, you can act a little slutty with one guy, or if you prefer, you can usually find guys who are single and slutty, too!
How You Can Be a Slut
There are two general thoughts about being slutty. First, is that you sleep around a lot. You might have more one-night stands or casual relationships because you’re not interested in something serious (or at least not interested in getting serious at the moment).
Or you might be quite sexually adventurous with one person. Think of the old saying “a lady in the streets but a freak in the bed.” This might not count as a being slut for some people, but it’s probably what your man means if he’s indicated that he wants you to be a slut wife.
Most guys will admit they want a slut for a partner. Maybe not a slut who is sleeping with others but a woman who behaves like a slut just for him. No guy dreams about being with a woman who is boring and unadventurous when having sex. They want a woman who is willing to try new things and make him feel like a stud.
Related: What Men Want in Bed
A lot of guys dream about having a partner that has all the slutty characteristics that I will talk about later, but only for him. He would like a partner who is a slut for him.
What happens behind closed bedroom doors is their own business and if that’s what you enjoy doing, then being a slut can only be a good thing because it helps you achieve the gratification that you crave.
If you want to know how to be a good slut, you’re in the right place.
Here are the 14 commandments to be a better slut. These are ideas you can follow if being more of a slut feels like something you wish to try or if you want to figure out if you are already a good slut. You can follow these tips with new partners or just in your house with your partner.
1. Have The Sex You Want
The first step to being a slut is to have the sex you want. So if you’ve got a high libido or you get off on the novelty of having sex with new partners, you should do that. And if you want to have sex with your man every day of the week, get on top and control the action, or try some wild and kinky things.
You might spend time in bars or at parties because you want to meet guys.
You may use Tinder or another hookup app to meet guys for one-night stands.
Read More: How To Have A One Night Stand (Regret Free + Thrilling Sex!)
Now, some people might judge you, especially if you refuse to settle down. Many people see a woman as valuable only when she contributes to home and family. But that’s not for everyone. And it may not be what you want right now.
That’s completely okay. But you need to recognize that people will judge. Let them! You’ll be too busy having all the sex you want (hopefully).
Of course, you shouldn’t have a ton of risky sex or choose the wrong partners. If you know a guy is taken or perhaps that he wants more than just sex with you, then the slutty way might not be the best way. And you should always protect yourself when having sex.
2. Wear What You Want
It’s typical for a woman to be called a slut because of what she’s wearing. It might be a tight dress, a short skirt, or a low-cut top. And if you’re prowling the town, you might wear something pretty sexy because you want to catch a guy’s eye and show that you’re down for some casual sex.
Of course, you might simply like to dress that way and have no intentions of doing anything slutty at all. It’s all personal preference.
But if you do want to look sexy or perhaps dress that way because you already feel sexy, then go ahead.
Related: 14 ways to make yourself feel sexier.
This can get the attention you want, and it’s not just good for strangers at a bar. Dressing up for your man can let him know that you’re ready for some dirty, slutty sex. Whether it’s the dress you pick for date night or the lingerie (get tips for picking out the right style for your body) you wear when he comes home from work, he’ll appreciate the effort.
Now, it’s easy to go over the top when you’re trying to look sexy. Sometimes it can even turn out more silly than hot. The key is to pick things that you feel confident in.
Don’t try to imitate someone else’s sexy. Be a sexy version of you.
Remember it’s not just what you can see. Your outfit can reveal a hot bra and panties… or no undies at all!
3. Learn to Flirt
You’re going to need to know how to flirt and act slutty if you wanna meet guys and bring them home. Fortunately, there are quite a few articles on the Bad Girls Bible to teach you how to flirt and act slutty.
- How to Flirt with a Guy
- Flirty Text Messages to Send
- Flirting Tips to Make Him Obsessed with You
- Flirting Tricks to Show Him You Like Him
While flirting might only be the first step to becoming a slut, it certainly is an important one!
4. Initiate Sex
The job of starting sex often falls to men. There may be biological reasons for this. For example, women more often have responsive desire than men [3 p294]. However, this means that your guy has to do more work and that he is the one who has to deal with rejection if you don’t want to have sex. This can also be frustrating to women who try to give hints that they want their partners to initiate sex only to have their partners miss those hints entirely.
The solution? You should initiate sex. It takes the pressure off him, makes him feel desirable, and means you’ll (probably) get sex when you want it.
This works both with established partners and new ones. You can message him first if you want a booty call, too. If you’re sitting in a guy’s home with a glass of wine and he’s sending signals that he wants to have sex, you can take the reins and get things started.
Discover 9 ways to initiate sex.
5. Know The Best Sex Positions
If you know lots of various sex techniques and positions, you can drive all the slut-loving men crazy. It’s up to you however who you share your knowledge with.
Check out the sex positions section for over 100 different sex positions to try out with your man.
Pro tip: positions where you take charge and get on top are especially stimulating to most guys. I know it can be intimidating for women to get on top, especially if they have body confidence issues. But trust me when I say your man will love it when you do it!
Read this if you need to bolster your confidence when you’re on top.
6. Give A Lot Of Blowjobs
A successful slut is a blowjob master. She will know all the best techniques and skills such as the ‘Tongue Squeeze’ and the ‘The Handyman’ and the ‘Sucker’.
This can be achieved through years of trial and error. But if you’d prefer to learn quickly, then you’ll find everything you need to know in this powerful blowjob instructional video where I teach you exactly what to do to make his back arch with pleasure.
Want more tips like these? Discover how to be good in bed.
7. Get in the Mood for Sex
In a fair relationship, you would initiate sex more evenly, and it wouldn’t be on your guy to do it all the time. But that still means he’s going to initiate sometimes. How would a slut respond? She’d be down for sex.
It might be easy for you to say “Yes” to these advances, and your guy will definitely be happy if you do so more often than you have in the past. Showing interest in sex is pretty much the definition of being a slut.
But what if it’s hard to say “Yes?” Maybe you’re never in the mood for sex. One thing to consider is whether you’re just not in the mood or you actively want to have sex. Think of it like a scale of 1 – 4.
- You definitely don’t want to have sex
- You don’t really want to have sex but would be okay if you didn’t
- You want to have sex but would be okay if you didn’t
- You absolutely want to have sex
Three of those options could lead to sex and you’d feel okay while one would leave you feeling pretty bad if you gave in and had sex, anyway.
If you’re struggling with desire to have sex, it could just be that you don’t understand how desire works for you and your body and mind. Don’t worry, I’ve written an article that explains all about sexual desire.
What if desire isn’t the problem, but you can’t get horny at the drop of a hat? That’s totally normal, especially for women! You might just need to learn what gets you horny.
I asked a bunch of readers how they get horny, and boy did they respond!
Find ideas to help you get horny in this post. However, you may also find that you are constantly sexually aroused and that being a slut helps you deal with these feelings. If this constant arousal is negatively affecting your ability to live a normal life, then you may want to check out this guide on how to stop being horny.
Related: Learn how to turn him on.
8. Always Practice Safer Sex
Whether you’re having a lot of sex with one guy or sleeping with a few guys at once, it’s important for you to engage in safer sex.
What’s safer sex?
Safer sex refers to the practices that protect against pregnancy as well as health concerns.
Although there’s always some risk when you’re having sex, you can minimize some of those risks by making smart decisions. This means
- Using condoms during vaginal or anal sex and oral sex. Learn how.
- Using dental dams during oral sex with women
- Using gloves during fingering. Trimmed and filed fingernails are essential regardless.
- Using lube, which prevents microtears that can increase the likelihood of infection. Discover which use to lube when.
- Using birth control to prevent pregnancy.
- Taking emergency contraception after having unprotected sex. One common form of EC is known as Plan B [4, 5, 7, 8, 9, 11, 12]. Certain types of IUDs can also be inserted to act as emergency contraception [13, 5, 14, 15, 16].
- Follow all treatment plans to completion if you have an infection
- Get vaccinated against HPV and Hepatitis B. The HPV vaccine is now available for adults up to 45 and protects against multiple strains [17].
- Getting tested for STIs — before new partners, after having unprotected sex or having sex with a partner who has an STI
- Ask whether your partner(s) have an updated STI screening
Not sure if you should get tested? Planned Parenthood has a quiz to tell you if you should.
While these actions preserve your sexual health, it’s important to remember that there are still risks. Condoms and birth control can fail. You can get STIs such as HPV even if you use condoms [18, 19]. Some STIs have no symptoms [20, 21, 22, 23], so you can have them without knowing or your partner can be a carrier without knowing [24, 25].
Rest assured that just because you act like a slut doesn’t mean you’re more likely to have an STI. STIs such as HPV are so common that “nearly all sexually active men and women get the virus at some point in their lives” according to the CDC [26], and 80% of people will acquire it by age 45 [27]. And not all of those people are promiscuous! Between 25%-50% of Americans will have any STI at some point in their lives [28].
Plus, studies show that people with multiple partners have similar rates of STIs as those who are monogamous [29]. Being in a committed relationship doesn’t protect you from STIs if your partner has an STI from a previous encounter or if they’ve cheated on you (and cheaters may be less likely to have safer sex).
While it may be difficult to discuss safer sex with partners, it’s essential that you do so. Ideally, you’ve had the discussion before clothes ever come off. This can be part of your early negotiations or flirty/dirty talk.
Let your partner know that you want to protect both of you by using condoms and other barrier methods. While you don’t need to see results of his last STI screen, you can simply say
I’ve recently been tested and the results were negative. What about you?
When it comes down to it, you might have to make the decision not to have sex if your partner isn’t willing to accept your boundaries regarding safer sex. It’s important to remain firm. This is your sexual health we’re talking about.
Finally, there may be times when you have to reveal that you have or had an STI. This can be scary. What if someone doesn’t want to sleep with you?
First, it’s important to reveal your STI status so someone can make the right decision for themselves regarding safer sex.
Remember that STIs are quite common, and HPV is the most common STI in the USA [30] and possible that he has and simply doesn’t know it because there were no symptoms.
Keep in mind that having an STI doesn’t make you a bad person. It can happen even if you’ve used safer sex practices. All sorts of people have and get STIs.
Revealing your STI status is as simple as letting your (potential) partner know you’ve tested positive for an STI, they may be at risk, and they should get tested. If you’re having sex in your relationship, pause until they’ve been tested and have completed treatment. You can also recommend using condoms until your STI has cleared up; although, this won’t protect against STIs such as HPV, which can be transmitted through skin-to-skin contact [31, 32, 33, 34].
It may be helpful to plan what you want to, do it face-to-face and to have information about treatment and effects of STIs to reassure your partner.
Your partner may have to contact other or past partners if they test positive, and you should do the same.
9. Sleep With As Many Guys As You Want
I used to tell women who wanted to be slutty that they should sleep with at least two guys a week, but I no longer do this. Why? Because some sluts have numerical goals while others simply want to have as much sex as possible, and that completely depends on being in the mood, having the time, meeting guys, or even whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert.
If you want to set a goal such as sleeping with two (or more) guys a week, go for it. But if you find it difficult or too frustrating to achieve, don’t sweat it. Instead, just try to have as much sex as you want.
But remember that if you focus too much on the quantity of guys, you might forsake the quality of guys.
10. Use Technology to Hook Up
You don’t have to hit up a bar or party to find someone to sleep with if you don’t want to. Thanks to the advent of the smart phone, how we meet partners has forever changed. Thanks to apps such as Tinder, it’s never been easier to find someone to hook up with. Sluts around the world (and introverts) rejoice!
Unfortunately, you won’t find hookups on Craigslist or Reddit anymore thanks to a change in laws, but there are still plenty of options.
You can also use more traditional sites such as OkCupid or Plenty of Fish to find partners. Many guys won’t mind if you’re only in it for a fling, but both sites allow you to say if you’re only interested in sex. Of course, your inbox might become flooded if you do!
Are you an avid social media user? The next notch in your bedpost might already be on your Facebook/Snapchat/Twitter friends list. Don’t be afraid to get creative!
11. Choose the Right Partners
If you just want to have a lot of sex, then it may not matter who you have sex with. Although, I advise avoiding guys who have feelings for you if all you want is a no-strings attached situation and those who have partners.
Hooking up with guys who want a relatoinship can put you in some tricky situations, and it’s probably not worth it, even if the sex is amazing.
But as you probably know, sex isn’t always that good for women. Choosing your partners wisely helps to ensure that the sex you have is better. Otherwise, you might have a lot of bad sex.
You’ve got to find the balance between someone who is available and someone who is good. It might only be a one-night stand or a casual arrangement, but that doesn’t mean he should be entirely selfish or ignore your pleasure.
Look for partners who are giving and not selfish. Someone who takes care of the details, in general, might be more detail oriented in bed. If he’s demanding of your time, he might demand sex. But if he tries to make even the conversation worth your time, he’ll hopefully do the same in bed.
A good fuck buddy will also be discrete and honest. Check out the other traits of a good fuck buddy.
While you might want to jump into bed as soon as possible, and that’s perfectly fine, taking a bit of time to get to know this guy can weed out the bad seeds (and unfortunately there are many out there). This includes anyone who doesn’t want to have safer sex.
Basically, a slut doesn’t have to have sex with everyone.
You can choose when to say “Yes” and when to say “No.” And being able to say “No” to someone means your “Yes” means that much more because you really mean it.
There’s a saying that a slut is someone who has sex with everyone but you and while that might go a bit far, you can always say “No” if you’re not feeling it.
12. Take Control Of Your Pleasure
One way to ensure that you have a good time in bed, which some people might consider slutty, is to take control of your pleasure. What does this mean? It often means asking for exactly what you want. But it can also mean taking things into your own hands, literally, and getting what you need.
So you can ask your partner to touch your nipples or clit if that’s what you like. Or you might tell him to move to the left or rub harder. But if he’s not listening or can’t master the technique, feel free to touch yourself during sex or even to break out your favorite vibrator if that’s what you need.
It might be a little forward, but a guy who appreciates a slutty woman will probably like that about you. Plus, he might like that you’re doing some of the work or find that sex toys make sex better for him, too!
13. Make A Sex Tape
Sometimes sex is so good you have to make a visual copy of it for posterity. Sometimes it can be a thrilling fantasy to pretend to be a famous pornstar. Either way, making a sex tape with someone can be a pretty slutty act.
If you’re willing to show others a tape, you’ll cement yourself as a slut. But even if you only watch the tape with your partner or even if you make one and never watch it, just recording yourself is still pretty wild.
Not into the idea of sex tapes? Consider sending a sexy selfie to your partner.
A word on sex tapes and photos: although it’s absolutely your right to take them, be prepared that people other than your intended recipient might see them. It could be someone who is using your phone and scrolls too far, or your man might share your photos with his buddies.
If you break up, he might try to blackmail you or send them to your friends and family. This is known as “revenge porn” and has made the news because of legal cases involving it.
However, even something such as losing your phone or being hacked can result in your pictures getting out. Remember, once something is on the Internet, there’s no getting it back.
You simply need to be aware of this risk when you make erotic content. As long as you’re okay with it, go ahead.
People such as Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian who have made sex tapes are considered slutty because of it. Both tapes have been watched hundreds of millions of times by guys all over the world also. That shows you how much guys secretly love sluts.
14. Be Careful
While there’s nothing wrong with being slutty if that’s what you want, occasionally you can wind up in potentially dangerous situations.
This might be because you’re drinking or simply because you’re with a stranger, possibly one who can overpower you. You might be at someone else’s house.
Whatever the reason, you should try to protect yourself when possible. This means.
- Have safe sex. See above for more information.
- Know your alcohol limits. Don’t drink so much that you black out or lose control.
- Never rely on a guy for a ride. Have a friend or Uber/Lyft lined up if you need a quick escape. If you’re sober, drive your own vehicle whenever possible.
- Don’t drink and drive.
- Host at your place if you feel safer. You don’t need to find a way home, and you can kick the guy out when you need to. However, this means he knows where you live, and he might not leave nicely. Of course, you can also have sex somewhere else too. Here are the best 48 places to have sex when you’re feeling slutty.
- Let others know where you are. Even if you go out alone, let a friend know you plan to do so and where you’ll go. Send a quick text with the guy’s picture and address if you go home with him. Consider setting up a check-in call with a trusted friend.
- Don’t leave your drink unattended. This can leave you vulnerable to being drugged.
- Befriend the bar staff. This gives you a friend and someone who will have your back even if you’re out alone. You can alert the bartender if someone is being a little creepy or ask about someone who might be a regular.
As always, common sense goes a long way. But there is a little risk whenever you have sex with guys you don’t know very well.
In the end, it’s up to you what you define as slutty. Maybe you just want to be slutty for one guy, maybe for lots of guys. Maybe you just want to experiment for a little while with multiple different guys. It really doesn’t matter, the most important thing is to have fun, be safe and not worry too much what others think.
Frequently Asked Questions
FAQ #1 – What does it mean to be a slut?
Many people use the term slut as a pejorative for a woman who is promiscuous. However, there’s no hard-and-fast definition or usage of the word “slut.” There’s no consensus when it comes to how many sexual partners make a person a slut.
In fact, the word can be hurled as an insult toward any woman who dresses too provocatively, even if she hasn’t had many sexual partners. And “slut” can become a generic insult toward another woman regardless of whether she’s acting slutty or dressing the part.
In short, a slut is someone who does something that a person or even society doesn’t like, and while it may not be sexual, people feel okay making implications about a woman’s sexuality even if there’s no way to know what she does behind closed doors.
The truth is, this word is incredibly common. You’ve definitely heard it used, perhaps with you as the target. You may even have called someone a slut in the past.
But the meaning is so ambiguous that the word shouldn’t evoke such strong reactions.
Yet it does, and people continue to use it. However, not everyone uses the word to mean something negative.
FAQ #2 – How can being a slut be a positive?
Some people, women especially, have reclaimed the word slut. They may be promiscious and enjoy many sexual partners or having casual sex. They often point out that a double standard exists between men and women: men are rewarded for having many partners while women are shamed, penalized & stigmatized for doing the same [36, 37]. This can even affect how people view women who are victims of rape [38].
These women are proud to call themselves sluts and, perhaps more importantly, they don’t let anyone dictate what they should do with their bodies or how they experience sexual pleasure. In many ways, these women are the definition of a “bad girl.”
And while this can bring them immense satisfaction and allows them to live more authentically, these women are still aware of the negative connotations with being a “slut.” This is why some women actively fight against that gender double standard and some even participate in events known as Slutwalks.
FAQ #3 – How do I deal with other people calling me a slut?
If you’re a woman, there’s a chance you’ll be called a slut no matter what you do. You may be less sexually experienced and adventurous, and people can still call you a slut!
It’s important to remember that these people know little about you. They don’t know what you do or don’t do sexually. And it doesn’t really matter, anyway!
When someone calls you something negative, it often says more about them than it does about you.
You can learn a lot about the way a person sees the world and women from whether and when they call you a slut. Keeping that in mind can help you to keep walking with your head held high. Just let that ignorant comment slide right off your back.
It can help if you surround yourself with people who are open-minded and sex positive, which means they have an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual sexual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, encouraging sexual pleasure and experimentation.
Many feminists uphold these ideals as do some members of the LGBTQIA+_ community. You’ll find plenty of online communities that celebrate sexuality, shut down slut-shaming, and welcome new members, as well. Beware that not every person who is slutty, known in science as being sexually permissive, will view others’ permissiveness positively [39].
Although it’s often easier said than done, consider cutting ties with people who might judge you for your sexuality. There’s no reason why you have to allow people who would insult you or slut shame you for simply living your life remain close to you.
FAQ #4 – Do you have to wear something specific to be viewed as a slut?
If you dress provocatively, more people might call you a slut. However, like we mentioned before, “slut” can simply be used as an insult that has little to do with how you dress or even how you act.
On the other hand, there are times when you might want to dress slutty.
FAQ #5 – What does it mean if my man wants me to be sluttier?
Do you want to be a slut for your man? Perhaps he’s even asked you to slut it up, but you’re unsure how. You might wonder if he wants you to sleep with other people. That’s probably not what he means when he says that he wants you to act slutty.
To figure out what he wants for sure, you could talk to him. He might imagine something specific that you cannot possibly provide without knowing what.
But if you simply want to try acting slutty to please your man or if he wants you to be a little more slutty in general, try the following.
- Wear something sexy for him. This can include your clothes and what’s under them. Don’t forget about your hair and makeup as wearing it can increase how promiscuous you appear [40]!
- Initiate sex. Your man will especially love this if he’s normally the one who gets things going.
- Learn how to suck cock and act as though you enjoy it.
- Talk dirty to your man in bed — and perhaps before to get both of you in the mood for sex.
- Get on top during sex and take control. Your man will appreciate it if he doesn’t have to do all the work.
- Let him know you had a good time afterward. Sexting, phone sex, naughty notes, or an aptly-timed grab of his butt reminds him that you’re a sexual being and that you want to be sexual with him, even if you can’t have sex right now.
Resources
Anita E. Kelly Ph.D. discusses the sexual double standard that exists where women are punished for being sexual.
Jessica Valentine’s He’s a Stud, She’s a Slut, and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know examines sexual and other double standards that exist.
This article on Medium discusses how and why women can embrace the word slut.
In the magazine Contexts, an article examines how women are viewed poorly whether they’re too sexual or not sexual enough.
Michael Castleman M.A. writes about the struggles of highly sexual women in this piece for Psychology Today.
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And best of all, you don’t need to do anything weird or uncomfortable to start having the best orgasms and sex of your life.
Jack Hunter says
I think blokes shot themselves in the foot with the whole slut shaming thing. As you rightly said, most chaps want a woman who is a slut for them, but women are that worried about being labelled a slut, they often hold back any potentially “slutty” behaviour. As an attack to protect the male ego, the term slut has been used to terrible effect. I think the world would be a much better place if men and women were more slutty and got over our insecurities!! x
Kara says
How do you be a slut in the bedroom for your man? I don’t get what you can do that’ll make him see and think I’m being slutty
JakeMulebarn says
Suck cock. Seriously. Suck his cock like you’ve never sucked it before. Let him grab your hair and force you on it. Make him eat your pussy. Let him cum on your tits and in your mouth. Don’t be afraid of cum. Be vocal in th bedroom. Tell him you love his cock when he fucks you. Things like that. I’m trying to get my wife to do those things.
Bubbles says
I thought everyone did these things, wow, I love owning his cock and letting use me for whatever he wants
Katie says
Wear slutty clothes, my man loves me in a leather skirt, lacy top, stockings and over the knee pvc high heel boots. Totally turns him on!!
KM says
Oh, lots of slutty options. Dress up–we like to do Velma and Fred. Jinkies!or bring in toys. A harness and dildos of various sizes and lots of lube is slutty fun. Spend the day drinking lots of water then piss on him in the shower. Find a porno that turns you on and watch it with him. After all of that, figure out what else you like and give it a try.
Lyn says
I couldn’t agree more. It is hard for woman to express their desires without being labelled a slut or easy. I am not a slut and being in my 30’s I only chose to sleep with a few men because I don’t give my body to just anyone and that gets me labelled as a ” good girl “.However, I met a guy in England and we hit it off but what ruined the relationship was my speaking freely of my sexual desires and my healthy sex drive and my wanting of sex just as much as him. So basically, woman can’t win either way and men really should get over themselves and grow up this isn’t highschool anymore , act like an adult!
Janet says
Wow this is 2013 isn’t? This is a very archaic article! Surely women have sexually evolved past just pleasing a man in or out of the bedroom & seriously a sexually active female is still called a ‘slut’? I think learning how to sexually please a partner is healthy and mutually beneficial act, which I believe your trying to do! This article however just creates the stereo typing of women who enjoy sex once again, a plight that doesn’t seem to go away. I would of thought this was defeating the purpose of what I believe your blogs are intending, sexually empowering women in sexual techniques so that they & their male partners have pleasurable powerful sexual relations! Although quite possibly the name ‘bad’ probably already implies the sexual enjoyment imbalance of loving & enjoying sex when your a female.
Mike says
I believe what the blog meant to say was that if doing/being those things means your a slut, then revel in it. I for one love any girl who can be a slut in bed. My gf is a slut for me (everywhere, not just in bed) and i absolutely love it, im always anxious to see her.
Stephanie Barclay says
A lady in the street but a freak in the bed.
I’ll be whatever my man wants
bozz says
I married one like you a bedroom slut (said with love) she is prim and proper accountant by trade can be a go getter close the bedroom door she does what ever I desire she surrenders her self but I must allways treat her proper and like a lady out side because she is !
KM says
Same.
Randy says
That is the awesomest cock hardening statement any woman can declare of doing for her man and they will fucking explode cum over you everywhere for doing so, i have 1st hand experience in this
Lori says
What is the best sex position for a man that isn’t well endowed? We have problems feel each other enough during sex.
Sean Jameson says
Hi Lori,
Although it requires a little flexibility, you should try the anvil sex position so that you man can get deeper inside you.
Sean
kofybean says
If a car and a cyclist race a mile and tie, I’m not giving the car the same respect as I will give the cyclist.
It is easier to be a slut than it is to be a stud.
Me, myself, and I says
What a load of crap. If a car and a cyclist race a mile and tie, only an idiot would give the cyclist more respect. Why? Simple, the car driver obviously has more self control and has more brains than the cyclist. Self control because she/he was nice enough to drive slow enough to allow the cyclist to finsih at the same time. Because there is nonway anyone one with at least one good neuron (brain cell) does not know that a car is much faster than a bicycle. Regardless of who the cyclist is and even if he was on steroids.
If you are a female slut, you are often ridiculed by others. It carries a heavy negative social stigma and often times negative consequences. While a guy that sleeps around is considered a stud and many look up to him. He is cool, a Casanova, a Don Juan, a player, etc. So who really has it easier, the girl that sleeps around and is trashed by ithers or the guy that sleeps around and is consider a player?
See, your little male brain doesn’t let you see past your nose. You are seeing sex with a woman as a throphy or metal acquired during a hunt. You are the hunter and women are the prey that are hard to kill. So the more of them you hunt down and kill, the studier you are. The better hunter. And the better looking the girl is, the bigger and better the kill.
Please, come out of your little player fantasy and join us in the real world.
SlutHunter says
Little Male Brain? Says the person who’s so up their ass that they seem to be forming a space loop.
Are you intently acting to be thick? You don’t understand the analogy, instead you took an analogy LITERALLY, which is contratictory to the god damn purpose of analogies and you then fed your ego on that.
Who appreciates men who sleep with every women they can? Other sluts?
In the world that I’ve seen, those men are called fuckboy and only get respect, if any, by other fuckboys and sluts not sane people.
No one with any amount of respectable personality appreciates anyone who is too sexually unstable, slut or stud.
Anastasia Lovve says
This is awesome, I’m a very public slut and I wouldn’t want it any other way.I’m talking randoms, groups, glory holes, I’ve even done porn and I’m currently an escort. I give my body to any willing person who turns me on, any time, any place, and anyone who doesn’t like it just doesn’t have to sleep with me, but it’s my business. Slut shaming is so 1950’s. Guys always want to get laid, but then they’re always insulting any girl who’s willing. Dumb.
Jason says
Your awesome!
bozz says
I don’t insult women who are sexual I never understood what is wrong with a lady with a strong sexual drive besides a need women who can keep pace with me any one who can make my legs shake is a women I need I have found so much hypocracy with people who slut shame because I would ask them if male would you sleep with her and they would answer shure then why look down at her ? crazy !
Jacob says
They’d gladly sleep with her, but they surely wouldn’t wife them up.
Phill says
Marry me hun!!!
Jacob says
The men see no other value in you, and most likely won’t put any effort to please you since they’ve only came to you to get laid and have no obligation to do so.
Bunny says
Whoa, I’m sure that person from 2016 is crying.
Randy says
Fucking awesome, wish I knew you personally so that I could to your face say the level of respect and admiration that you deserve for your honesty regarding the ultimate man pleasing goddess we all desire 😀
Anne says
Slut is archarcic, and usually on a condesendendinging note. Om very sensual and sexual with my man and whatever turns him on ultimately turns me on, however with all the diseases out there today I will not compromise my values and neither will He. We are both very religious people and slur goes against what we believe. If it works for you go got it, it’s not for us. Thanks
Katie says
I really enjoyed this post.
I’m a classic “lady in the streets” or an “undercover slut” hahah. It is hard for women though, having a constant fear of being labelled a slut, and how it might affect your reputation in social and professional circles. As I was reading this article, I thought back to a couple times when I was much younger and comments were made to suggest that I was a slut. This was when I was 14, 15 years old, had not had sex of any kind, had not even touched or SEEN a dick. I felt really ashamed of myself though, which is an awful thing for a young, innocent girl to face. Of course now, I know better. I didn’t need to feel ashamed at all, I wasn’t a slut and I still am not. I am just sexual and I enjoy feeling sexy and teasing men. I’ve only had a couple of sex partners in my life. I think people who have issues with this are uptight, or have some misplaced jealousy, wherein they wish their own sex lives were more uninhibited.
This Comment Makes Me Seem Really Mad But I'm Not says
Ok, just one thing, you realise being a ‘slut for one person’ is literally an oxymoron, right? Calling someone a ‘slut’ doesn’t mean they like sex, it means they have casual sex with a lot of people, and actively seek that out. When women sleep with a lot of people, we call them sluts.
(Obviously, some people just call out people as sluts when they haven’t even slept with anyone, but I think we all know that any insult can be used this way. Someone who gets called a slut for having male friends or enjoying sex is a tragedy, but this kind of thing does happen for all sorts of words. We throw around the word ‘bitch’, but that doesn’t mean the word is wrong and people shouldn’t use it, it means the people using them are…bitches XD)
When men sleep with a lot of people, they get called studs by OTHER men who sleep with a lot of people, and the rest of us call them sluts, or man sluts, or man whores, or alpha males. The only difference is for women, everyone agrees these terms are unequivocally insults. For men, there is just a subculture of sex hounds who everyone who isn’t involved with shames just as much as sluts.
Trust me ladies, ‘learning’ from the disgusting way a SMALL PERCENTAGE of men glorify the number of people they’ve been in bed with is not a good idea. Saying that men are celebrated for their sex lives but women are shamed for them so women should celebrate sleeping around is like saying men like getting smashed and trying to act masculine by king-hitting strangers, so women should be able to do that to, and be celebrated just as much.
There’s nothing wrong with casual sex, but some people – and rightfully so – find people who screw anyone and everyone distasteful. That’s where we get the insult of ‘slut’. When we call someone a ‘slob’, they don’t get indignant and say that leaving their clothes all over the floor and not showering for days on end is a unique and integral part of their lifestyle. Its an insult, it doesn’t define them, but it highlights a perceived flaw they have. When we call someone ‘greedy’, they don’t protest that we should respect their belief they deserve more than everyone else, and have no right to criticise them. Again, these are simply personality traits that most people judge detract, at least a little, from the value of a person.
We don’t see people trying to ‘reclaim’ words for insults based purely on the observation of behaviour for words like ‘slob’, ‘glutton’, ‘narcissist’, ‘show-off’ or ‘pessimist’, so why should the word ‘slut’ be any different? People don’t like something about you, they’ll find a word to call you. Don’t go trying to make it out like the insult is actually shaming some kind of sacred part of human nature.
And most of all, for Christ’s sake, don’t go implying someone can be a ‘slut for one person’. That’s called having a deep, engaging sexual relationship, it doesn’t involve sleeping with anyone and everyone, so its not slutty.
End of story.
Bunny says
Actually, I’m 100% reclaiming narcissist. It’s called being a cool kid, you should try it sometime.
sexylilbbcwhore says
I am 50,I am happily married since 2011-but I am a whore( I don’t sell my pussy)but I do fuck a lot of black men,The first black man that fucked me I work at Walmart in stockbridge,Ga he was my manager he fucked me in the break room,and boy did he fuck me,I cum 5 times in the first 10 mins he was inside of me,My heart was beating 120mph and my cum was flowing like a river and omg he cum in me deep and huge load,I have been hooked on black men with big thick dick every since,when I think about black men fucking me(2 or 3 times everyday,I post add on craigslist,I get lots of emails from idiots that cant read BLACK MEN ONLY,but I get black men who reply,I love meeting black men in the park after dark,I don’t wear panties or bra’s,I bend over the park bench,I can feel that black dick sliding in and out of my wet pussy,I always know when a black man is ready to cum in my pussy or in my ass,the head of his dick swells up,Then OMG he shoots a massive huge load,I love walking cum feeling his cum leaking out of my pussy.tammy
Phil Osopher says
A Slut is a woman who has sex with everyone but you.
Wishin' Guy says
Sure wish there were sluts in my life. Got raised as a puritan type. The “blue pill” was still horse pill size and very few girls could afford that. So I missed all the young age fun. Then met a teaser, married her, and she never let me in. Divorced her. Found another who had been abused, had kids, abused in a different way, and married me to be safe. Now I look back and wish I had been approached by sluts in my teens and twentys and thirties. And I dream about meeting sluts in those age groups all the time, but now that I am older it never happens. Of course the “girls” my age were the ones who stayed pure, so that’s still their habit and they would never do that. So now how does an older (lots older) guy find the sluts who want him? There are “grandpa” videos that make me envious. They must buy their girls. But aren’t there any who just want to play, and maybe give a grandpa who wound up living such a limited life the thrill of his life? Hey, if you are willing, start a club that thrills us grandpas. We need your loving bodies.
Betty says
I love to suck cock! I love it nasty, dirty with lots of saliva dripping down my face to my chest, rubbing against my hard nipples… I used to be ashamed of who I am, but now ..I’m not ashamed of being me. I’m an African and I’m proud of my sexual decision…
Viktoria says
ok 😀 first of all, who the hell wants to be a slut? i consider a slut girl who goes through boys like socks, although it is purely their decision and nobody should judge anyone for their decisions, i myself am in a very great long term relationship and my boyfriend would never grab me by the hair and force his cock inside my throat, he knows that this shit is not fun and it is pretty disgusting all those gag reflexes and shit, then again my man is understanding and caring unfortunately there are not many like that , so yeah, you can be freaky without being a total hoe bag witch i and my boyfriend absolutely hate, i’m not like that, my man and I like a bit of class, it makes it much more enjoyable for us. A girl should know what is she worth and in my opinion she shouldn’t let him shove his dick in her if he is not worth her, this is just my opinion though, if you’re happy like that I’m happy for you, if you’re sick of it you can do much better. But again I’m not judging anyone it’s just my relationship and that i think about it now I couldn’t be more happy with my boyfriend we’ve been through so much, we’ve seen it all and if I don’t like something he respects it and if he’s not comfortable with something I respect him. That is how relationships should work, then again not forcing my thinking here, if you’re happy living like you do doing whatever your boyfriend tells you to without doing anything similar or the same for you then it’s non of my business.
Jeremiah says
Love a woman thats is into add fisting and and getting gang banged.
Suze says
Get a grip. Some of us love being submissive, dominated and used. We get off on it. We are regular people, not sick but different. Hopefully your man is being honest in going along with your sexual choices. The rest of us are being honest with ourselves and the kind of sexual activities we like. And open to try new things. Thank God there’s real men (or women) out there to love and give us what we need.
AnyRich says
It always amazes me that the guys that say Never marry a slut, are the same guys who spend the rest of their life bitching they don’t get enough sex from their wives.
If you want great sex for the rest of your life, marry someone who loves sex!
I married a slut and after 32 years of marriage we still have great sex frequently. The first tome I referred to her as a slut she was shocked, mostly because of all the above mentioned stereotypes. We talked about it a lot and she is now comfortable with me referring to her as a slut as she knows it’s not an insult but rather a congratulations for enjoying sex so much.
We are very happily married, have raised two wonderful kids and we both love each other and only each other very much. She often tells me she enjoys knowing when we go out to a club or to a party she can fuck whoever she wants,even when she chooses not to fuck anyone.
Jacob says
You do know that simply enjoying sex and being promiscuous are not synonymous, right? Also, marrying a slut doesn’t guarantee great sex. In fact, it most likely hinders it, as she will compare you to every other guy she’s fucked when she’s with you. Lastly, if the sex is so great, then why does she need to screw other people?
Jay says
Can anyone tell how to make my wife to be slut.
Sean Jameson says
Have you talked to her?
Paige says
I would love to become all the above
Dick Long says
Most women “don’t understand that to keep a man thinking about you after sex starts with the type of panties you wear”. Cotton panties seldom make memories.Thongs sometimes.Nylon bikini,hiphuggers will stay on their mind “forever”! Thus will keep them wanting more.
skinflutemaster says
I’ve found that most men Just want a warm hole be it a mouth, vagina, anal, man’s or a woman’s. As long as they get to bust a nut. So in my opinion Most guys are more of a slut than women have ever bin. Also yes I am and have bin called a slut since middle school.
David says
So I want my girlfriend to be slut and to do whatever she’s wants. But she has always told me no I’ve tired for about a year what should I do?
Sean Jameson says
Respect her wishes?
Stephen Martinez says
LoL , omg , I am the WORST slut lover of all time , every girlfriend I’ve ever had I could never get enough of watching them for boys or get turned on by anyone, I seriously would advertise I was seeking the straight up prostitute to Marry, if the lifestyle hadn’t jaded them , nothing is sexier than seeing your partner having an orgasm with someone else,
And the funniest part is every girlfriend ever had at some point complained I wasn’t as interested as I once had been, and it was always true
And always felt bad, because I couldn’t help getting bored, but from the first time I had a girlfriend willing to fuck other men while I watched , instantly she was the only girl I was interested in, the more she did it the more I loved it, and the more I wanted it.
It’s a little bit funny how hard it is to meet a woman willing to absolutely embrace being polyamorous not only of enjoyment but to please me, you’d think a guy who embraces whatever gets you off would be the perfect bf lol ,
David Kilpatrick says
In my opinion an easy person is the one that likes to have sex with anyone, anywhere, anytime. They are the type that doesn’t care what anyone thinks and if others don’t like what the easy one does they better just keep their comments to themselves or easy will go and fuck their partner so everyone will have a reason to talk now.
A slut is someone that makes their partner believe they are in love with them and they are the only one and that they are faithful, honest , and loyal. Little do their partners know that slut happens to be an individual that doesn’t know how to say no and and finds themselves in situations that they had no business being involved in.
A slut will lie, cheat, blame, and do anything they can to avoid talking about anything with their partner because they know they are wrong for misleading and lying about everything and just being straight up shady as fuck.
An easy person will tell you how it is from the start and not hold anything back and let you how it is all the time with nothing to hide and they will remind you that you knew from start how it was going to be so if you’re good with it then be good with it now.
KM says
I am a lady in the street and a slutty wife with an exhibitionist streak. Prior to marrying my 3rd husband, I had sex with close to 100 folks. Bi women, couples, spit roasted with 2 cocks, a great night at a sex club, a guy who came 17 times for me, mastubating online for 200+ guys, having an anonymous dom teach me about watersports. I am made for sex. Now I have a monogamous relationship, but we are open to a sexy night in with either a curvy bi slut or an androgynous trans slut . I love fucking my man on live cam, doing roleplay, using dildos to dp me, pegging him, grinding my twat on his face, sucking his dick as he drives us on the interstate. That is what being a slut wife can be:)
dudinha says
What is the weirdest is that, as much against casual sex and promiscuity as I may be, I ended up fulfilling the majority of the items on a how to be a slut post…. that’s…. quite…. well it’s something to think about