The 7 Best Sex Positions for Female Orgasm (Tried and Tested!)

If you’re not getting much out of sex, you’re sadly not alone, and the positions you’re getting in might be part of the problem (or not part of the solution, at the very least). Perhaps you’re doing these positions because your partner wants to or because you think you should. But this doesn’t mean your body is going to respond orgasmically if the position isn’t designed for your pleasure. Not only will you find the best sex positions for female orgasm, but you’ll also find tips to help you orgasm more often and easily!

Why You Don’t Orgasm During Sex

Many people think of sex as what happens after a penis penetrates a vagina, and most women just aren’t going to come from this sort of stimulation. Why? Most women need direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, and penetration just doesn’t do that. Why do we stick to these sex positions? They’re what we see on the screen or hear about, even if they’re not the most orgasmic sex positions.

If you’re already coming during penetration, it could mean that your clitoris is sensitive and located close to your vagina. You’re less likely to orgasm from sex if the distance between your urethra and clit is more than the length of the tip of your thumb to the first knuckle (about one inch) [1]. But many women have a clitoris around one inch from their vaginal opening, so they’re just not getting stimulation during sex.

Wanna know if you’re a lucky woman whose clit-to-vag distance is less than one inch? Simply slip a thumb into your panties to see. But you can get more up close and personal with a small hand mirror over which you can squat to check out your anatomy.

Related: Where Is the Clitoris?

Another reason why some women orgasm more easily during sex is that they have sensitive G-spots and they’re in positions that stimulate this spot. You might not realize that the G-spot is just the internal portion of the clitoral organ [2] [[3] (see diagram), which can be accessed through the vagina with your fingers, a toy or penis.

The best sex positions for female orgasm, then, are ones that provide access to your clitoris so you or your partner can stimulate it. Alternatively, other best positions for orgasm line up your clitoris with your partner’s pelvis (or another body part) for stimulation. A few of these positions are ideal for G-spot stimulation, which can help you get off if you’re capable of G-spot orgasm.

The Best Sex Positions for Female Orgasm

The following are just a few of the best positions to orgasm. If you’ve got a position that’s not in this list, feel free to leave a comment below!

1. Cowgirl

When you’re on top, you control the angle, speed and depth of penetration. By the way, sex positions where you are in control as a woman usually work best for reaching orgasm.

Why?

You’ll need to be in control if you want to get the stimulation you need. You can also reach down to rub your clit – or use a toy – and your man can help, too. Here’s a trick that might help push you over that orgasmic edge: have your partner place his fingers around the base of his penis with two fingers on either side. The knuckles provide you something to rub against as you’re riding him.

Are you nervous to get on top? Don’t worry, that’s perfectly normal! Learn how to get the confidence to ride your man.

2. Doggy Style

Doggy style is a perfect position for orgasm not because of clitoral stimulation (tips here) but because of G-spot sensations. If you’re a G Spot kinda girl, then doggy might be right up your alley. Height differences can make doggy difficult for some couples, so try placing a pillow under your knees or kneeling on a piece of furniture while your man enters you from behind. If you find doggy hard to maintain, placing pillows beneath your tummy can help.

Fret not if you’re into clitoral stimulation. Doggy provides plenty of access to your clit if you or your partner wants to reach between your legs and help you orgasm.

This guide on making you orgasm should help.

3. Coital Alignment Technique

The Coital Alignment Technique or CAT was designed specifically to tackle the lack of orgasms that missionary position often results in. This technique can help you orgasm more easily during sex [4].

CAT differs from Missionary in a few key ways. One, your man should scoot up closer to you than he typically would in missionary. Next, you lift your hips so your clitoris is closer to your partner’s pelvis (a pillow under your butt helps). This allows you to grind against him. Then, he focuses on a rocking motion rather than thrusting.

Check out all these variations on doggy style.

4. Lotus

This sex position might not work for every body shape and size, but it’s worth trying if you think it’ll work for you. To get into the Lotus sex position, your man must first sit down and cross his legs like a pretzel. Then, you sit in his lap with your legs wrapped around his back. You can lock your ankles behind him if you’d like.

The position is incredibly intimate because of the face-to-face contact and ability to kiss. You’re also going to find that rocking works better than thrusting in this position, which is why it’s one of the best positions from her.

Get tips to make the Lotus position work for you.

5. Thigh Tide

This is a variation of Reverse Cowgirl that takes advantage of grinding. All you need to change is to have your partner bend one knee with his foot flat on the bed. This raises his thigh in front of you. You can grind against it as you rock your hips, and you retain the same control as you would in Cowgirl position.

If you’d like, you can wrap your arms around his knee for additional support.

6. Rear Entry

You might not think that this would be one of the best positions to orgasm, but hear us out. Although you generally lie on your stomach while your partner enters you from behind, which makes it an easy sex position, you can tweak this position for excellent clitoral stimulation.

First, you can put a pillow under your hips to grind against. Narrow pillows work especially well if you want firmness. Or you can lift your hips with a softer pillow and place your favorite vibrator between your body and the pillow. Some sex pillows even have slots for you to insert vibrators during use!

More on Rear Entry sex position.

7. Missionary

Okay, we’ve discussed while Missionary position often isn’t one of the best sex positions for women, but it can bring you to the climax you deserve – if you do it right. First, play with your clit or invite your man to do the same if there’s enough room in between your bodies. Secondly, you might consider a small vibrator that curves against your body and keep it between the two of you while you have sex. Lelo’s Lily or Eva by Dame are two options if you wanna go that route.

If you’re into sex toys, you might also try a vibrating cock ring. Not only do cock rings let your man last longer, but ones with attached vibrators can offer something extra for you, too! Look for one with a vertical vibrator to get the most bang for your buck.

Read: How to Use a Cock Ring

Now that you know some of the best sex positions for female orgasm, we’ve got some tips that you can’t afford to ignore.

Tips for Achieving Orgasm Through Sex

Aside from trying out some of the best sex positions for female orgasm, you can use some of the following advice to get the most out of your adventures in the bedroom.

• Use toys. For some women, toys make it much easier to orgasm or are required for orgasm. Toys have more stamina than your hand or partner – as long as you make sure batteries are charged. It also takes some of the strain off your partner from having to keep an erection.
• Don’t just focus on penile penetration. Sure, PIV sex usually does it for guys, but that’s just not the case for many women. It doesn’t mean you can’t orgasm, just that you can’t with penetration. Incorporate fingers (his or yours) and tongues to ensure you’ll orgasm during sex. Even a strategically placed thigh can bring you orgasmic bliss.
• Grind away. Grinding and humping are great ways to stimulate your clitoris, but many sex positions don’t make this possible. The best sex positions for women might be those to grind against your partner’s body while he’s inside you. Being able to grind against a pillow is another option.
• Use pillows. Pillows aren’t just good for humping. They can make it easier to get into some positions or stay in them until you can orgasm. Stiffer pillows are ideal for positioning, and you’ll find memory foam pillows made specifically for sex from brands such as Liberator.
• Add lube. Lube makes initial penetration easier, but it also helps you go longer. So if you’re a woman who needs a little more time to get off (and there’s nothing wrong with that!), lube is your friend.
• Don’t forget foreplay. The more aroused you are before your man even gets between your legs, the more likely you are to have an orgasm during penetration. So start earlier in the day with some sexy texts, dress up in lingerie after a relaxing bath, add a sensual massage (find out tips) and make out with your man before any clothes even come off. Foreplay is half the battle when it comes to orgasm. Get tons of foreplay tips here.

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Orgasm Doesn’t Have to Be Your Goal

Although we’ve outlined some of the best sex positions for reaching orgasm if you’re a girl, don’t think that you have to always orgasm from sex or sexual activities. You can get plenty of pleasure from these activities even if you don’t orgasm. Sometimes focusing on orgasm so steadfastly will even be the reason you can’t come, and it can certainly distract you from the pleasure you could be experiencing.

As long as it feels good, do it. Keep focusing on sensation and pleasure in the now, even if there’s no orgasm. There’s no shame in that!

Lose Your Inhibitions

This might seem counterintuitive if you’re researching the best positions to orgasm, but sometimes the reason you can’t come is that you won’t let yourself. If you’re caught up on how you look or sound like or what might happen during orgasm, then you need to let go of these things. You’ve got to get out of your head. You can read our guide on how to get rid of sexual anxiety.

Or you can toss a towel down on the bed if you’re squirter but worried that it’s just pee. Guess what? It doesn’t matter! Do what feels good. More about this.

Worried that a partner won’t like it if you need a toy to get off? Simply ask him if he wants to see you come. Any person worth an invitation to your bed will answer with a resounding “Yes!”.

All these inhibitions (and any others you can think of) would be called sexual brakes by the scientists who have studied women’s sexuality. The dual-control model explains how people have both sexual accelerators (turn-ons) and brakes (inhibitions) [5], and these can change depending on things like the situation you’re in [6]. So doing whatever you can do to lower inhibitions, especially those related to orgasm, can help you enjoy sex more – even if you don’t orgasm every time.

We hope you’ve found this list of the best sex positions for female orgasm helpful. Every woman deserves to orgasm during sex. But if you still find it difficult to orgasm, don’t worry. There’s nothing wrong with you!