Mirror Sex Guide: How To Make It Incredible

You’re going to learn why mirror sex is so great, which mirrors work best, how to get the lighting perfect, and what sex positions are most enjoyable in front of a mirror, along with a few extra kinky mirror sex tips. Whether you’re an exhibitionist or voyeur, mirror sex can be fantastic. Let’s dive in…

Get Consent First

Although you might have a kink or fetish for mirror sex, not everyone does. Make sure all your partners are down for it and give their enthusiastic consent before you prop up a mirror or change your sex positions so that you can use your bedroom mirror for sex.

If your partner isn’t sold on the idea, suggest trying it first in a very dimly lit room before you turn the lights up fully. If that goes well, you can try increasing the brightness the next time.

Struggling to talk about your desires? Check out our guide to sexual communication.

Why Sex in Front of a Mirror Can Be Great

Body confidence – Sex in front of a mirror can improve your body confidence, especially when you see how much you turn on your man and see how they desire you sexually. Getting used to seeing yourself naked can also help you on your journey to self-love.

New angles – Using a mirror is great for spicing up sex as it lets you see things from a different angle, including your lover’s body. This can even help when tying knots for bondage or even trying to escape your binds!

Discover: How to explore bondage for beginners.

Visual focus – Another benefit of having mirror sex is being forced to focus more on the visual aspects of sex. It’s almost like having your own personal porn show–that you star in! If you and your partner are looking in the mirror simultaneously, you can also make eye contact during sex with each other.

Best Set Ups for Mirrors for Sex

You don’t have to buy a new mirror to satisfy your mirror sex kink. Your existing mirror over the dresser or in the bathroom can be co-opted for sexy times. You can also take a mirror from another room in some instances, too.

Below, you’ll find some suggestions for types of mirrors to use when you want to see your reflection during sex.

Wall mirrors – These are multipurpose and can work well if they are large and low enough, but higher, horizontal mirrors aren’t ideal for lower beds or every position. However, if you place a wall mirror above the mattress at the head of the bed, the person on top can see themselves. This works great if you are riding your man.

Floor mirrors – Can work well for lower beds and for standing sex positions, but might be too low to see in some mirror sex positions. Many floor mirrors are movable, so you can find the best spot for them. Keep in mind that mirrors without anchors can fall and possibly break.

Ceiling mirrors – A mirror on the ceiling above your bed is the classic sex mirror position. Anyone who can look up can see their sexy reflection in it as long as it’s large enough and/or you’re positioned correctly. You may need multiple panels and professional installation, however.

Hand mirrors – While they leave you with one less free hand, you could hold a hand mirror during sex. Try holding it over your shoulder to see your partner when they are penetrating you from behind you or to reflect someone’s face back to them. Choose a mirror with an easy-to-grip handle.

Windows – Serve as impromptu mirrors every day, and you don’t need to install anything. They work best when it’s dark on the other side of the mirror and light inside. Beware of flashing the neighbors!

Lighting During Mirror Sex

Light can make your break your experience with mirror sex. The wrong light can reflect directly into your eyes or be entirely unflattering, while the right lighting can set or amplify the mood.

Overhead Lighting

Overhead lighting from a single point, like a ceiling fixture, can be too harsh and cause shadows under your eyes, chin, and other body parts that you’d rather avoid. The light might also reflect sharply in the mirror.

If you can dim the light or turn off one or more lightbulbs, it might help. Recessed lighting from multiple angles or accent lighting (which focuses light on a particular area, often a wall) is often softer, reducing glare and harsh shadows.

Lamps

Lamps typically provide more diffused light from the side. Experiment with tabletop and floor lamps to see what you like best. If your lamp doesn’t get too hot, lay a scarf over the lampshade to play with color and light, too.

LED Lighting

Colored LED lights can be great because they can give the effect of a strip club, a BDSM dungeon, or a red light district. Or you can choose your favorite or most flattering color and the brightness you prefer.

An LED lightbulb in a lamp or overhead fixture will cast light similarly to a regular bulb. However, accent lighting around the edge of the room, tucked into furniture, or behind your headboard can provide a really nice atmosphere.

Candles

Candles offer the ultimate soft light when you’re having sex in front of a mirror, but real candles pose the risk of fire if you’re not careful. Battery candles are a good alternative, even if you have to hunt to find those that are realistic or bright enough.

Outside Lighting

Whether it’s light cast from the hallway, the patio outside your room, or even a lightning storm, it can help set the mood when you’re using a mirror for sex. This is especially true if you’re eager to get each other’s clothes off and forget to hit a switch.

Just make sure no one can see you through the door or window who would cause a problem!

Positions for Mirror Sex

The best mirror sex positions depend on your preferences, what you want to see, and where your mirrors are positioned. Here are a few ideas to get you started.

Doggy Style

Doggy style works great if the mirror is in front of you or to your side. It can also work if the mirror is behind you, and you look back over your shoulder.

Doggy and its many variations can make for a good mirror sex position for the giver, who can look up and see the action.

Go deeper: Doggy Style positions tips and pictures.

Cowgirl

Facing a mirror when you’re in the Cowgirl position lets you see exactly how you ride your partner.

Straddling your partner from the other direction in Reverse Cowgirl works well, too. If your bed is beside a window and it’s dark outside, you can also see your reflection in the window.

Learn: How to perform Cowgirl position for maximum pleasure.

Burning Man

Burning Man position requires you to lean over a piece of furniture or appliance. Because you’re facing the same direction as your partner, it’s a great mirror sex position if you are facing the mirror or it’s to your side.

Got an exercise ball? Try the similar Speed Bump position.

Discover: How to perform the Burning Man position (with pictures).

Sitting

Most sex positions where one partner is sitting in the other’s lap, including the Lazy Wheelbarrow, work well with a mirror. If you’re facing the same direction, the mirror should be in front of you. But facing opposite directions try having the mirror to the side, so you can both see your bodies.

See & learn: Enjoyable sitting sex positions.

Corkscrew

Corkscrew puts you in a position to look in the mirror while you’re on your side.

If you’re struggling to see both of you in the reflection due to where your mirror is, Spooning might be a better mirror sex position. Luckily, you can move to it from Corkscrew easily!

Finer details: How to perform the Corkscew position.

Sandwich

This sex position was practically made for mirror sex if you have a ceiling mirror! The receiving partner will be on their back while their partner holds the backs of their thighs, which spreads their legs. This allows you to see thrusting, which isn’t always easy for the receiver to see, in a mirror above you.

You can also hold one leg/knee out of the way for a better view.

Plus, it lets you see your partner’s butt as they thrust.

Related: 9 thrusting techniques to make sex orgasmic for your partner.

Try it: Sandwich sex position.

Full Nelson

This wild sex position gives you a unique view of the receiver’s ass and pussy if you have a mirror on the ceiling. It may not be the most comfortable or flattering if you have a belly, though.

These are just a few sex positions you can try out if you want to watch yourself in the mirror.

More: Full Nelson sex position guide and pictures.

Upping the Kinkiness with Mirror Sex

If you’re a fan of mirror sex, or even if you’re not sure yet, these tricks might make it even better.

Use a blindfold – You can use a blindfold on yourself if you’d rather not see yourself in the mirror. Or you can put a blindfold on your partner to prevent them from looking at your reflection if you want to torture or punish your partner. You could even pretend you have a mirror by leading your blindfolded partner into a room without one.

Drape a scarf – Draping a scarf or other sheer fabric over your mirror can be a good solution when only one member of a couple really wants to use a mirror. The fabric will make the reflection less clear and bright while adding ambiance to the room.

Try bondage – Seeing yourself or your partner tied up in a mirror can be super hot (learn more about light bondage or try breast bondage). This is even more true if one or both of you are suspended from the air in a sex swing. Suspension can even let you place the mirror beneath you.

Use a two-way mirror – Consider this an advanced trick because not everyone has a two-way mirror. But if you do, or if your partner thinks you do, you can stand on the other side and watch to your heart’s content as your partner masturbates.

Use: 14 powerful masturbation techniques to take self pleasure to the next level.

Record it – You can use a mirror as part of your personal sex tape. You can either hold your phone/camera as you look into the mirror or set it up on a tripod to record with as much mirror in the shot as you want. And if you do have a two-way mirror, you can even put a camera behind it like an interrogation room!

Masturbation in Front of a Mirror

If you like using a mirror for sex, you might also like fingering yourself and masturbating in front of one!

Masturbating in front of a mirror can be fun but it can be awkward, especially because you don’t have a partner’s sexy body to look at or eyes to make contact with.

However, you might try touching yourself in front of a mirror before having sex in front of a mirror to see how you feel about it or figure out what positions you and/or the mirror should be in for the best view.

You might just discover a new kink!

Discover: How to masturbate to orgasm – 7 steps.

Don’t Force It

Like most sexual activities, watching yourself in a mirror while you have sex isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. If you try it once or twice and really don’t like it, that’s fine! There’s no need to keep doing something if you really dislike it.

The Bad Girls Bible has plenty of other things to try, after all!

But you don’t have to stare at yourself in the mirror if you don’t want to. It can be enough just to know it’s there without looking.

Now you’ve got the skinny on how to use sex mirrors for hotter sex and which positions to try out if you do. Let us know if we missed anything or what your experience is like in the comments!