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Most of the sexy women we see in the media are thin and svelte, but does that mean that plus size women can’t or don’t have awesome sex lives? Absolutely not! Bigger girls have amazing sex all the time. However, size can sometimes cause certain positions not to work so well. Learn which are the best positions for bigger women and how you can modify sex positions to work even if you’re a BBW (big beautiful woman).
Sex Positions for Big Girls
Try out any – or all – of the following plus size sex positions to see what works for you.
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1. Doggy
Doggy style is a good position for BBWs because your tummy can’t get in the way. Instead, your man enters you from behind. Rear entry positions can be more difficult if you’ve also got a bigger butt, however.
Pillows, especially those made from memory foam, can help you support your weight in this position. Plus, doggy style is great for G-spot stimulation. Tips for finding your g-spot here.
2. Cowgirl
The second position for fat people is one that many larger women are afraid to try, and we’ll explain why that’s a mistake in a bit. However, this dominant female sex position is ideal because your man lies on the bed and you can straddle him and go to town
Plop a couple of pillows under his butt to raise his hips for a better angle.
3. Spooning
This is another good sex position if your man’s penis is long enough to penetrate you from behind. He can adjust his body, so he’s at more of an angle than exactly parallel to your body. He can lean his top half away from you, potentially placing his legs between yours, so his feet stick out front.
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Another option is for you to lift your leg, either bent at the knee or pointed toward the ceiling. This enables him to grab your leg for leverage and get closer to you for penetration. This is quite similar to the next sex position for BBWs.
4. Leg Glider
In the Leg Glider position, you’re slightly leaning to one side (you can potentially lie on your back if you twist your spine, however). You lift your upper leg toward the ceiling, and he straddles the leg that is on the bed. He needs to scoot close enough to penetrate, which means he can grasp your leg or place it along his body wherever your foot lands based on your height.
This might be a good position for nuzzling, a leg massage or even some foot play if either of you has a foot fetish. Learn more about a foot fetish.
5. Thigh Tide
Thigh Tide is just Reverse Cowgirl with an important alteration: he bends one leg at the knee (Discover how to do the Thigh Tide sex position). You can wrap your arms around his leg and grind your clit against his thigh as you ride him. This increases the likelihood that you’ll orgasm.
Related: How to Orgasm Every Time
6. Butterfly
The final sex position for big girls is one that works best if your man is the right height to penetrate you while he stands on the floor and you lie on your back on the bed. In the Butterfly position, you should be scooted to the edge of the mattress. He can penetrate you with your legs up against his chest. The key is to keep your legs straight so they’re not pushed back against your tummy and breasts, which might not feel so great.
Get tips for the Butterfly position.
However, you can easily modify this position by wrapping your legs around his waist or simply having him hold your thighs while your legs extend straight out behind him. If you lie on your stomach instead, you’ll be in the Superwoman position. Learn the best way to enjoy the Superwoman sex position.
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7. Deep Impact
This sex position for big girls is somewhere between the legs-on-shoulder style and Missionary position. Instead of lying on top of you, your man kneels and raises your hips so that your butt rests on his thighs. This brings your vagina closer to his penis, which should make penetration easier.
Like the name suggests, it’s great for deep penetration. Read more on deep penetration.
You can leave your feet against his chest/shoulders, wrap your legs around him like in the Drill sex position or even bend at the knees and let your feet lie flat on the bed if your legs are long enough to do so.
Get inspired by the Deep Impact position.
Of course, these are just some recommended plus size sex positions. Don’t be afraid to get creative!
What If He’s Bigger?
You might be a bigger woman (or not) who finds sex difficult because your partner is also larger. The answer? Get on top!
When your man is on top, his penis might be obscured. But when he lies on his back, his weight shifts in a way that gives you better access to his cock. You might realize that he’s more well endowed than you thought before.
Reverse Cowgirl (more about Reverse Cowgirl sex position) also works well, but you’ll want to stay away from positions where you’re facing each other.
Check out all these sex positions where the woman is on top.
Ride Him, Cowgirl
Maybe you’re looking for sex positions for big girls because you think you can’t ride your man. Well, we’ve got news for you! Yes, you can!
Unless your partner has a smaller penis that doesn’t work well for Cowgirl style, you’ve got nothing to worry about. And that can often be fixed by placing a pillow or two beneath his hips to raise them.
Read: 4 Tips to Ride Your Man with Confidence
Even if you’re much bigger than he is, you’re not going to hurt him or do any lasting damage. Although, if you’re too reluctant to climb on top, you might not be doing any favors to your sex life and relationship.
One of the main reasons women are afraid to get on top, especially BBWs, is the fear of how they’ll look. Yes, things might hang out a little more and jiggle as you move. But your partner knows what you look like, and he’s already chosen to have sex with you. If he’s asking you to be on top, he wants you there!
Besides, he might specifically like how you look and feel because you’re fluffier. We advocate having sex with the lights on at least some of the time because confidence is very sexy!
So climb on board and, if you can, reach down to his body with your hands, so your arms frame your breasts and create some stunning cleavage for him to look at. You might also feel more comfortable wearing lingerie. Get tips for picking the best lingerie.
Furthermore, you should do your best to focus on how sex feels and not how it looks. Even the most gorgeous of people can get into unflattering positions, but you know why they do that? Because it feels good for them or their partners! If you’re constantly worried about how you look or sound during sex, you’re unlikely to loosen up enough to enjoy that — and that can spell bad news for your orgasm, too!
Finally, you might worry that you’re not sure what to do. Being on top can look like it needs a lot of flexibility or strength, especially in porn, but that’s not always the case. You don’t necessarily have to rest on your feet and bounce. In fact, many women prefer kneeling and grinding back and forth, which can also provide better clitoral stimulation.
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Modification Is Key
None of these sex positions for fat people are ones we just made up. In fact, they call come from our list of sex positions. But you may have tried some of these positions in the past without much luck. Why is that?
Some of these positions need modification for rounded butts, bigger tummies and more weight. If you’re a bigger gal and your partner has a smaller penis, then your thick thighs might seem like an obstacle. But a little modification goes a long way.
Read: How to Make Small Penis Sex Work
This means things such as
- Kneeling rather than sitting or lying
- Moving to the floor instead of the soft bed
- Strategically placing pillows under the partner’s body who is on the bottom
- Leaning over a piece of furniture
- Scooting to the end of the bed
- Lifting a leg
It’s easy to think that sex should be, well, easy. But sometimes it takes a bit to figure out how your bodies work together, and there’s nothing wrong with that!
Cause for Concern?
While being a bigger girl won’t stop you from having a fun and active sex life if you don’t let it, there are some considerations. For example, you don’t want to get into any positions where your man has to carry or hold you if he can’t comfortably do that (and those acrobatic positions work for very few people, to begin with).
Secondly, note weight limits on any sex furniture or sex swings (10 sex swing positions). There are those items made specifically for larger bodies, and some can support over 200 pounds, but any item that is supporting both of you needs to accommodate your combined weight. You don’t want to come crashing down and hurt yourself or need to replace a door frame or spackle your ceiling!
With that in mind, don’t use anything to support yourself that isn’t intended for this. This includes faucets and shower fixtures, which people may grab ahold of to steady themselves under a slippery stream of water. Remember, these are not usually load-bearing items which means they can break easily.
Related: How to Have Incredible Sex in the Shower
The internet is plum full of sex horror stories where someone broke a fixture or faucet or even tore down part of their shower wall in an attempt to get it on!
Finally, while you might be flexible if you do yoga or a similar workout – and some bigger ladies can definitely stretch – not everyone has the same amount of flexibility or mobility. Don’t try to force your body into any position that you just can’t do!
Ultimately, that means speaking to your man if you’re uncomfortable or something’s not working for you. If you’re not comfortable but don’t speak up, how will he know? We understand that talking about sex is hard. That’s why we wrote a guide on it. Check out the guide to sexual communication.
Now that you’ve got some plus size sex positions to try, it’s time to head to the bedroom. You’ll find that you can be a bigger woman and have great sex – people do it all the time! Your partner will be glad to see your enthusiasm.
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This whole post is not very inclusive. You can’t say on the one hand “here are all these positions bigger women/men can try” and have all the pictures demonstrating this be the classic, slender, quote on quote attractive couple. Doesn’t that defeat the purpose of this whole article? Inclusivity and reducing fat phobia comes from pictures, words, and actions.
You’re right. The problem is that we are constrained by our budget. If you can create the images we need, we’d happily post them 🙂
I can recreate these as bigger women if you actually post them
This comment about the slim girl in the sketch is totally on point and the reply about budget is so off the mark.
God damn, you’re getting a bunch of free content. Stop being such choosy beggars. If you can’t find the images helpful then you have bigger problems. They work as is.
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I fully agree with you.
I want to spice things up, but it is hard for me to do certain positions. The problem is that although I am plus sized, I am also short. My legs aren’t long enough to comfortably do certain positions. Help.
Hi Ana, I am curious as to if you had gotten any reply of your question about being BBW, short (short legs) and having a hard time being on top…?? Because I also have the exact same problem! Any suggestions would better great! Thanks!
Yes! Help I’m tall but my legs aren’t very long at all my torso sure is though and it doesn’t help that my thighs are xl lol
I have an extra small virginia and when his penetrating it hurts ….if l try these sex positions and they don’t change anything what should l do
Don’t do anything that hurts or that you don’t enjoy. You need to talk to him about this. This guide on sexual communication should help.
The old saying “You got to Lick It before You Stick It” rings true. But not the way most men go about it. He needs to make you Cum at least twice before trying to enter you. It’s all about relaxing and having fun.
Nice!!!
I am also a BBW and short. I find that being on the floor for riding gives more stability and if I decided to bounce the bed doesn’t give in by being too soft. If standing up and taking from behind is preferred, try bending down like touching your toes or bend over furniture.
Size of women is not an issue,if the guy knows what he is doing, the woman will always be satisfied
>> … not an issue, if the guy knows what he is doing …
it must be like like driving … all guys are naturally good at it 🙂
Personally, I’m an average guy looking for ideas with a larger, but very sexy cuddly woman … penetration / staying in is an issue, but I don’t want to spend every encounter trying to find a way to make it work, which (athletics aside) somehow kills the mood.
I guess asking for ideas is how some guys get to know what they’re doing.
Thank you for this post.
I have hella short legs. So my guy sits on the bed…..on the edge his feet on the floor. Then i climb in his lap backwards and i get my ottoman prop that mutha fucker against the door so it cant move and i put my feet on tttoman for balance. Lol OMG its amazing.
Short legs on top knees should be more towards the guys shoulders to really sit and get a great sensation for both parties
Me too girl.
Haha… I really liked this list and the explanations, although I wish the photos were of plus size women. I have a plus sized sister and I am def going show her this post this week.
I know! I totally hear you and want to get images of plus size women for the site, but I don’t have the budget right now. I hope you understand 🙂
I don’t mind sending pictures. Do they need to be animated? Anything needs to be censored or can you blur them?
– your fellow fab chubster
Hi Lo, thanks so much for your offer, are you an illustrator?
Stumbled upon this looking for advice on how to orally satisfy a BBW. I’ve never been with a big woman before and my first oral experience with her was different than going down on a slender girl. Her prepuce, clit, and labia were buried in her soft folds and I wasn’t sure how to go about getting at her. Would appreciate some advice on this topic.
The guide to eating her pussy is a great place to start.
hello friends!I am very distressed as I am small and she has a big butt.I always wanted to have a doggystyle but could never have it in the last 3 years.this is hurting my relationship.plz if you can help me!
You can do a bit modified for digger just have her roll on her tummy and one knee pulled up to her side you get deep from behind and can also put a pillow under her too that helps thrust her forward to get deeper!
See if this helps while she’s leaning over on the bed try to stradle her like a horse and use your legs and hip to thust into her from behind/on top. Once you get the way to do it one of the best ways to please your girl.
Would you advice more position for my fat girl? She prefer only missionary position on which I am not satisfied, feel like I need more than that.
Talk to her and then try some of these sex positions.
Hi, need advice…
Im a plus size and also very tall (1.87m)6 ft 2 sex was never an issue but now im dating a guy who is much shorter and smaller. He is dybetic and also have kidney failure he cant get erection without a band he puts at base of his penis so is there any positions for a fat chick and limpy penis but the normal guy on top?
My advice is to experiment with lots of positions and then focus on continuing with the positions you both enjoy.
I am a plus size woman who is sleeping with a man smaller than me and he loves Cowgirl, the problem is I get nervous even thinking of doing it, and it is not because of my body or how I look I feel like I don’t know what to do when I get up there. Help!!!
This guide on riding your man with confidence should help.
I call “The Leg Grinder” Blazing saddles lol. I discovered it randomly myself. She loves it and its very sexy when she grinds back.
Leg grinder “A1” nothing more.
I am very scared of this position because my breasts jump, and I easily hurt my thighs by jumping on his penis, I do not even know how to jump on his penis
You could grind.
And what if you can’t kneel? I have a knee injury that caused me to suffer from mild arthritis. And I’m only in my late twenties! So kneeling with anything is out. But he and I make it work. So that a plus. He’s a plus size man as I’m a plus size woman.
Don’t worry, there are tons of other great sex positions to try.
Any suggestions for insecure BBW? Nudity is embarrassing subject for me
It all depends. You need to find what works for you. It could depend on the guy you’re with. It could also depend on the positions you use. It may also be a case of accepting who you are as beautiful whether you are bbw, skinny, tall, small, etc.
My boyfriend and I have had some issues regarding my fuller figure and his slightly smaller than average penis, but the problem isn’t with my thighs so much as my ass. He can’t go in from behind (even to get to my vag) because of the size of my asscheeks. Any tips for that?
The turtle position should help make it easier.
Hi,I do think what you both should understand is that during sex the motive is to enjoy each other and NOT for one person alone to enjoy the sex and it’s position. I would suggest that any position that works for you and his small dick should be used adopted instead you being the only one to make efforts for his dick penetration.
Any tips for bigger ladies for masturbation? Personally I’ve fallen in to a slump of having the one thing that works and not knowing what to do to change that up. ‘:-/
Try checking out the Orgasm Guide.
hi! i’m only 5’1 and i’m plus sized. tried bending over slightly to try out doggy position but it was difficult for him to enter. is it bc im short and i have a considerably large ass for an asian. can you help? 🙁
Here’s the thing. Different positions work for different people. If you’re having trouble with Doggy, then try the variation, the Turtle position, it will be easier for him to penetrate you.
Hi,don’t let such a feeling take away the sweetness in your shape and size . Love what you have and self is the ultimate. I LOVE BBW SWAGS.
Need another styles have try all this ones
I love BBW because I have cock that is long and fat enough to get her squirting so to me the size of a woman doesn’t matter what matters is how to use the cock well enough to make her satisfied and pleasured hastalavista!!
Thanks for this. I recently started dating a woman who is a bit larger than me. In fact, she is the first romantic partner I’ve had who might be considered “overweight”. Btw, overweight is a term that I don’t particularly like. I’m not sure how the distinction is made between someone who is categorized as average and someone who is categorized as overweight. What does average actually mean? Does this mean statistically average? If so, where are the data coming from? Or is this a qualitative measure, according to our cultural standards? I could be wrong, but I have a feeling that the distinction is probably arbitrary, but I digress…
It seems like she really enjoys the sex that we have, but she does not communicate often. I often ask her what she is feeling, or if there is anything I can do to maximize her comfort, but she just says everything is fine. She has a tendency to avoid certain types of social interactions and is willing to put herself through a great deal of discomfort rather than deal with a conflict or a disagreement (but we’re working on it). So I sometimes worry that she is not telling me when she dislikes something that we are doing in bed.
It feels great reading this article, because these are all of the positions that I have settled on as being the most enjoyable for both of us. The only one we haven’t tried is the thigh tide. I have a feeling she would love that one, so I’m looking forward to giving it a shot! Thanks again!
I think Body Mass Index (BMI) is the crude measure that doctors use when addressing weight.
As for better communication, you may want to check out our guide to great sexual communication.
I can understand issues well, as I’m also a visually impaired student. Indeed, an important and informative article. I may understand it better, as I’m also a visually impaired student. I’m a man and wants to make women happy through oral sex. how? please guide.
Read my guide on how to eat pussy like a god. It will help a lot.
My problem is climbing on top i need help with dat seriously
To your reply the size of penis doesn’t matter if her works right. My husband has always satisfied me and I’ve always been bigger. Now as of lately he’s become a bit bigger and we’re working hard to match our body’s up.