12 Best Sex Positions For Overweight People

Below are 12 sex positions for overweight people, with illustrations demonstrating exactly how to perform each position. It doesn’t matter if you, your partner, or both of you are on the bigger side; you can both still have hot, intense, and passionate sex by using these sex positions for plus size people.

While you can skip straight to the list of 12 plus-size sex positions, I first want to talk about body confidence, as many people with weight issues have contacted me about this. If you feel perfectly confident with your body, feel free to skip this part.

Also, make sure both you and your partner enthusiastically consent before any sex act.

Body Confidence When Getting Naked & Having Sex

If you are on the heavier side, you may find that you can still physically have sex in a lot of different positions, but the difficult part is you may feel:

• Nervous
• Anxious
• Unconfident
• Judged
• Some other negative emotion

Here’s the truth if you are overweight or heavier than you’d like to be…

Most people feel this way – You’re not the only one that feels unconfident about their body. Most people are at least a bit nervous and anxious about their bodies and weight, even if they have a “normal” or average body shape/weight.

Your partner is more worried about their body than your body – You may be forgetting that most people pay far more attention to their own body insecurities rather than thinking about yours, and as I already mentioned…

Everyone has body insecurities to some degree. You’re not the only one. So you may find that…

Your partner is thinking so much about their own body, and what you think about their body, that they aren’t paying as much attention to your body as you think they are.

However, you should keep in mind that being overweight can contribute to sexual dysfunction, such as erectile difficulties [1].

Many people with “perfect” bodies are also unconfident and unhappy with their bodies – Many people go to the gym, diet, get cosmetic surgery, and pay a lot of attention to their appearance because:

They lack body confidence and are worried about what people think of their bodies. So, you shouldn’t always think that these people are so confident.

With experience comes body confidence – If it’s your first time having sex or first time having sex with someone new, it’s normal to be nervous, anxious, or feel a little less confident about your body shape or weight.

With more experience, you’ll naturally start focusing more on the pleasure, and your body confidence issues will melt away. It’s like riding a bike or learning to drive…

You may be nervous at first, but with experience, you end up focused on what you’re doing (pleasuring your male partner or pleasuring your female partner), not how you are performing.

Tips to boost your confidence TONIGHT – Here are a bunch of things you can do tonight to boost your body confidence when having sex.

• Turn off the lights before sex.
• Remember 1-3 easy sex positions from the list below, so you always have an option.
• Have a drink or two (but not too much alcohol) to calm your nerves beforehand. A small amount of weed can also help if it’s legal where you are.
• Pay more attention to foreplay and other sex techniques like giving a good blow job or eating pussy like a god so that your partner has more to remember.

Now that we have discussed body confidence, let’s learn some deeply pleasurable sex positions for bigger people…

1. Washing Machine

The Washing Machine position works best if you have a real washing machine that is turned on and spinning fast but can be adapted to any table or piece of furniture at waist height.

The receiving partner will be on their feet, standing up, facing the washing machine, and leaning over it while their partner enters from behind. The vibrations from the washing machine can provide a lot of added stimulation to the receiving partner, especially to their clitoris. This position is also very enjoyable for anal sex.

Related: Prepare for clean, enjoyable anal sex with these tips.

When the partner leaning over the washing machine is overweight – If the receiving partner is a fat person or has a large booty, it can be difficult for them to receive adequate penetration. There are a few options for the receiving partner to make it easier:

• The receiving partner can reach behind, grab their cheeks, and spread them.
• The receiving partner can straddle a corner of the washing machine, which will make penetration easier and potentially press the clitoris against the vibrating washing machine.

When the partner penetrating from behind is overweight – If the penetrating partner is overweight, their stomach may get in the way. As with many of these positions, they can lift their stomach out of the way with their hands.

Alternatively, they can pull their shoulders backward, squeeze their glutes, and try to extend their back to flatten their stomach.

If you find sex in this position to not feel particularly fun for intercourse, you can also switch to oral sex by using these 85 powerful cunnilingus techniques or some of these 55 blow job techniques.

Please note: The Washing Machine position may be tricky if one or both of the partners are not tall enough to lean over the washing machine comfortably.

2. Spread Legs

The Spread Legs position requires considerable flexibility from the receiving partner and is wonderful if they like to feel submissive during sex.

As you can see from the illustration above, the receiving partner needs to lie on their back, raise their legs into the air, and spread them. The penetrating partner then gets into the same position they would normally be in during Missionary style sex.

When the partner on their back with their legs spread is bigger – If you are the receiving partner and carrying excess weight, you’ll find that the Spread Legs position is awesome as it makes deep penetration easier.

These tips will make it even more pleasurable:

• Get your partner to grab your legs and push them back. Talk to your partner and let them know exactly how much pressure to put on your legs so you can find the best angle. This position also makes it very easy for your partner to stimulate your G Spot during sex.
• Try putting a pillow or cushion under your hips/lower back to help find the perfect angle.

When the partner on top is bigger – If you are the penetrating partner:

• You can place your hands on your partner’s thighs, calves, or ankles to change the angle.
• Heavy people should be aware that putting too much pressure on your partner’s legs can hurt and injure them, especially their lower back.

3. Face Sitting aka Queening

Sitting on your partner’s face, also known as face riding or queening can be an extra intense position for overweight people, especially if you are a BBW who like to be dominant during sex. Those with a penis can also sit on their partner’s face.

To get set up, one partner needs to lie down on their back. Then, the other partner needs to straddle their face and lower themselves down on it. The partner lying down on their back can then start performing oral sex.

When the partner on top, receiving oral is heavier – If you are on top and on the heavier side, you have a lot of options to keep it intense:

• Try facing them so you can look down and maintain eye contact. Alternatively, you can straddle them while facing the rest of their body, which is perfect for performing the 69 position.
• If you are facing them, try grabbing their hair and pulling/pushing their head into the position you want. This is extra fun if you are feeling dominant.
• Instead of letting your partner perform oral sex on you, try grinding yourself against their face. This works best if you have a vulva; it’s harder to do this if you have a penis.
• If your partner likes the idea of you smothering them, you can try this. Just make sure you both agree to a safe word/action so that your partner can let you know when it’s too much for them (your submissive partner tapping you on the thigh works great).

When the partner lying on their back, and giving oral, is overweight – If you are the partner on the bottom, giving oral sex, it doesn’t matter whether or not you are overweight. Here are some tips to spice things up:

• Use our Blow Job Guide or our guide on fingering a vagina to fully sexually satisfy them.
• If you are both into it, eat their ass.
• Place your hands on your partner’s thighs to pull them further down on you or push them off. You can also try tapping them if you need a rest.

4. Cowgirl

Cowgirl position is one of the most popular sex positions for fat people for a reason…

It feels fantastic for both partners.

As you can see in the illustration above, the penetrating partner needs to lie down on their back. The receiving partner then straddles them and sits down on their penis, resting some of their weight on their lap and some of their knees.

In the Cowgirl position, one partner can do all the work, but it’s better when both partners are active.

When the partner on top is larger – If you are the receiving partner, you don’t need to accommodate your size in any special way when riding your partner in the Cowgirl position.

Learn: How to be on top and ride your partner with confidence.

But there are a few things you can do to enhance your sexual pleasure and have stronger orgasms.

• Play around with what angle works best and provides you with the most pleasure. Try leaning backward and placing your hands behind you to support yourself. Then try leaning forwards and doing the same until you find your perfect position.
• You can move in an upward⬆️ and downward⬇️ motion, which will feel great for your partner.
• Alternatively, you can move forward➡️ and backward⬅️ on your partner’s penis, stimulating your clit more.
• You can rest almost all your weight down on their lap. If you are grinding forward and backward on your partner at the same time, this will add extra pressure on your clit for more intense clitoral stimulation.
• Sometimes it can be easier if you face away from your partner (ie, Reverse Cowgirl) than facing toward them (Cowgirl). This also changes the angle of penetration.
• Cowgirl can be difficult if you’re plus size and your partner has a smaller penis. Consider penis sleeves to make penetration easier.
• Spread your knees wider if your thighs block penetration.

When the partner on their back is larger – Try using the following techniques in the Cowgirl position if you are the penetrating partner and overweight…

• Try placing a pillow or cushion under your hips. This will push your hips and penis upward, pull your stomach slightly out of the way and make penetration easier and allow you to penetrate an inch or two deeper.
• Try the Vulcan V (demonstrated in the two illustrations below), which will help to stimulate your partner’s clitoris in the Cowgirl position.

This tip works for everyone but can be especially helpful when you’re learning how to ride a man when you’re overweight.

In the first illustration above, you can see how you should position your arm and hand for the Vulcan V as the penetrating partner.

Below, you can see the exact shape you should make with your hand/fingers for the Vulcan V. The receiving partner will then be able to grind against your hand and knuckles. You can bend your knuckles slightly if your partner’s vulva makes direct clitoral stimulation difficult.

Bigger guys can also use this move to press down on their stomachs to make their penis more accessible. If this is the case for you and it makes Cowgirl difficult, you might want to try using cock rings or penis pumps.

If this is the first time you use the Vulcan V with your partner, make sure to get feedback from them to learn what they enjoy and don’t enjoy about it.

5. Jockey Position

The Jockey sex position is wonderful for receiving partners who want to relax and let their penetrating partner do most of the work. Bigger women might also feel more comfortable because this position hides their stomachs. It can also be less strenuous on your joints as the penetrating partner.

The receiving partner simply needs to lie down on their stomach with their legs together like in the illustration above. The penetrating partner then straddles them on their knees while facing in the same direction.

The receiving partner can squeeze their legs tightly together in the act of syntribation which many find to increase their pleasure.

When the partner lying on their stomach is plus size – If you are a BBW, then there is one thing you can do to make penetration easier and deeper…

Place some cushions or pillows under your hips so that they push your butt upwards. This will make deeper penetration easier for your partner.

When the partner on top is plus size – If you are the penetrating partner and are overweight, then try keeping your upper body somewhat upright in this position. You can even lean back if it’s easy for you.

Doing this will help to flatten your stomach and make penetration easier. Leaning over your partner may cause your belly to get in the way.

However…

If your partner enjoys feeling your body on theirs, you can lean forward and rest some weight down on them. Keep in mind that this will make deeper penetration a little harder.

6. Doggy Style

Doggy Style is a classic sex position that usually works for all types of body shapes, sizes and, weights. It’s also a great position for having anal sex.

The receiving partner needs to get down on all fours, on their hands and knees. The penetrating partner then kneels down and penetrates them from behind like in the illustration above.

When the partner on all fours is obese – If you are the receiving partner, try to hinge or “fold” more at the hips. You can do this by getting down on your elbows (or resting your chest on the bed). This will make it lookand feel like you are pushing your butt into the air.

This will expose your vagina and ass more, making it easier for your partner to penetrate you more deeply. However, you don’t have to do this if it makes you uncomfortable.

Lying on a wedge or sex pillow might make this a more comfortable plus size sex position, while also making penetration easier.

More: List of 9 best sex wedge pillow positions.

When the partner penetrating from behind is obese – When you are the penetrating partner and you have a larger belly, this can make penetration tricky, as your belly may be in the way.

• Try pulling your shoulders back and leaning backward while stretching upwards. This will help to flatten your stomach and make penetration easier.
• You can grab your belly with your hands and lift it upwards out of the way.
• You can place your hands on the sides of the receiving partner’s butt and spread their cheeks so you can penetrate them more deeply.

7. Corner Doggy Style

Corner Doggy Style sex position is similar to regular Doggy Style in that the penetrating partner is behind the receiver, looking at their back. This position is also great for having anal sex.

The receiving partner needs to straddle the corner of a bed, with one leg on either side of the corner, like in the illustration above. Depending on how high the bed is, the receiving partner can either kneel on the floor or stand on their feet. It’s easiest to rest your weight on your stomach/chest by lying down on the bed, but you can also rest on your elbows or hands.

When the partner lying over the bed is fat – If you are the receiving partner, you need to hinge or “fold” at your hips as much as possible, like in the previous position.

This means that you will arch your lower back and push your butt into the air, exposing your ass and vagina to your partner and making penetration easier.

When the partner penetrating from behind is fat – If you are the penetrating partner and are carrying extra weight, you will find that leaning over the receiving partner can make your belly feel fatter and in the way.

Prevent this by leaning backward, pulling your shoulders back, and stretching upwards to flatten your belly.

Squeezing your ass and pushing your hips forward also helps to flatten your belly.

• You can also pull your belly upwards with your hands.
• You can spread your partner’s butt with your hands, making penetration easier.

8. Turtle

The Turtle sex position is a form of Doggy Style. The receiving partner is working hard to push their butt in the air so that their privates are exposed and penetration is easier.

To get set up in the Turtle position, the receiving partner needs to start on all fours. They then need to lower their chest right down onto the bed and, if possible, arch their back while pushing their butt in the air.

Optionally, they can wrap their arms behind their thighs like in the illustration and gently pull their chest to their knees. This helps to expose their vagina and butt further.

The penetrating partner should be on their knees like during regular Doggy Style sex. If there’s a big height difference, this plus size position can be a bit tricky to perform and you may need to rest on pillows or something else to align your heights correctly.

When the partner with their arms wrapped behind their thighs is chubby – When you are the receiving partner in this position, we advise listening to your body and starting off slowly, especially as you wrap your arms around the back of your thighs and pull your upper body towards your knees.

One nice benefit of this position is that you might also be able to masturbate yourself while your partner is penetrating you if there is enough room between your thighs and stomach.

When the partner penetrating from behind is chubby – We’ve already covered what you can do as the penetrating partner in previous positions:

• You can flatten your stomach by pulling your shoulders back and leaning backward, while trying to “elongate” your upper body.
• You can literally put your hands under your belly and lift it up and out of the way.
• You can spread your partner’s butt open to make it easier to penetrate them.

9. Sideways Turtle

The Sideways Turtle is a pleasurable sex position for obese people that’s similar to the regular Turtle position that I just covered.

The receiving partner will be in the same Turtle position with their legs together and brought towards their chest, but this time, they will be lying on the side. The penetrating partner will be on their knees.

When the partner lying on their side is overweight – If you are the receiving partner and on the fatter side, then you can play around with how tightly you hold your thighs.

You can also try placing a pillow underneath your hips to raise them up and change the angle of penetration.

When the partner penetrating from behind is bigger – Having sex in the Sideways Turtle position is quite similar to the regular Turtle position we explained above.

You’ll be on your knees during sex. And…

• You can remain upright and use your hands to grab your partner’s hips and pull yourself deeper.
• You can lean over your partner and rest some of your weight on them or place your arms on the bed to rest your weight. Doing this can make it harder to penetrate your partner deeply.

10. Reverse Cowgirl

The Reverse Cowgirl position is exactly as it sounds. It’s like the Cowgirl position, as the penetrating partner will be lying on their back. However, the receiving partner will be facing in the opposite direction, sitting down on the lap of the penetrating partner. Reverse Cowgirl might be a better option for those heavier folks who struggle to learn how to ride in the regular Cowgirl position.

Here are some ideas to get the most out of Reverse Cowgirl…

When the partner on top is overweight – If you are the receiving partner (on top), there are a lot of things you can do to make it more exciting and pleasurable…

• If your partner particularly likes your bum, then you can put on a show for them by bouncing it up and down or even twerking it as you ride them.
• Try experimenting with the motion you make as you ride your partner. You can move upward⬆️ and downward⬇️ or forward➡️ and backward⬅️ on your partner’s penis. Or you can try a combination of both.
• To find the most satisfying angle, experiment with leaning forward and resting on your arms. Then try leaning backward with your arms placed behind to maintain your balance.
• You can try using these 14 masturbation techniques on yourself as you ride your partner for extra clitoral pleasure.

When the partner lying on their back is overweight – If you are the penetrating partner, you have a couple of options for the Reverse Cowgirl position…

• You can place a pillow/cushion under your hips to raise them upward, allowing you to penetrate your partner deeper.
• You can grab your partner’s hips and help to push them forward➡️ and backward⬅️. Alternatively, you can set the pace and guide them into an angle you find enjoyable.

11. Betty Rocker

The Betty Rocker position is a bit like Reverse Cowgirl. The penetrating partner will by lying down on their back with the receiving partner on top, on their knees, straddling them and facing away from them. The receiving partner will also be leaning forward and resting on their elbows.

When the partner on top is carrying extra weight – If you are on top during Reverse Cowgirl, there are a few kinky things you can do to spice it up…

• If your partner is a butt person, then put on a show for them. Try bouncing your butt up and down. If you can do it, try twerking for them.
• Grab their wrists and put them on your hips/butt. Move their wrists and hands to show them what you want them to do…get them to massage your butt, grab it, pinch you, or even spank you during sex.
• Experiment with your body position until you find the most pleasurable angle of penetration. Lean forward, backward and to the side.
• As I’ve mentioned repeatedly in this article, try moving upward⬆️ and downward⬇️ or forward➡️ and backward⬅️ on your partner’s penis, focusing on the motion that feels best for you.
• If you need extra stimulation, try using a vibrator on your clit during sex.

When the partner lying on their back is carrying extra weight – If you are a butt person, then you will love penetrating your partner in the Betty Rocker position as you’ll have a prime view. Try using these ideas to amp up your pleasure (and theirs)…

• Placing pillows or cushions under your hips will push them up and help to flatten your stomach.
• The simplest thing you can do is grab their butt or hips and control the pace of sex. Go fast and intense or try having slower sex.
• If your partner enjoys anal play during sex, try fingering them anally.
• If they enjoy double penetration, you can use a dildo on them anally.
• You can try some erotic spanking if you and your partner are into that. Discussing safe words are important before any BDSM play.
• You can keep your legs together or spread them apart.

12. The Pretzel

The Pretzel position is similar to the Sideways Turtle plus size sex position that I mentioned above, but with a few differences.

To get into the Pretzel position, the receiving partner lies on their side and brings their knee from their top leg as close to their chest as possible, while keeping their bottom leg straight. This will “open up” the receiving partner, making sex a lot easier.

The penetrating partner then straddles the bottom leg of the receiving partner and enters them.

When the partner on top is heavier – This position may actually be a bit tricky if you are the penetrating partner and are fatter or overweight. Here’s some ideas to spice up sex and make it easier in the Pretzel position:

• Work to flatten your belly by leaning back, squeezing your bum and elongating your spine so that penetration is easier.
• Try anal sex in this position.
• If you and your partner are into BDSM and have already agreed a safe word, you are in a perfect position to “choke” them during sex.

When the partner lying on their side is heavier – The Pretzel is awesome if are plus size. Penetration will be easy for your partner, and you can let them do all the work!

Here are some tips to make it even more enjoyable:

• Play around with your top knee. Bring it closer to your chest or back towards your other leg to find the perfect angle for you.
• You don’t need to do a lot in this position, but you can increase your pleasure by masturbating during sex or even wearing a butt plug while being penetrated vaginally.
• If you enjoy it, try talking dirty to your partner during sex.

While these 12 sex positions for fat people will help you on the road to having good sex, you can learn another 13 crazy sex positions for the next time you get intimate with your partner.