Exhibitionist Kink Guide: 39 Tips & Ideas For Maximum Enjoyment

An exhibitionism kink is when someone is turned on by being watched or seen by others, often in a sexual situation, but…there is actually a lot more to it. This in-depth exhibitionism guide explains what it is in detail, why people have a kink for exhibitionism, how to start exploring it and 39 fun & freaky ways to satisfy your exhibition kink.

What is Exhibitionism?

Exhibitionism is a desire to show off your body or sexuality, often in public. It can involve doing extravagant things to get others’ attention, or may look like not covering up or hiding. Some people are generally exhibitionistic while others only want an audience for specific activities.

Exhibitionistic disorder – If you’ve heard of flashers, who get their rocks off by opening their coats to display their genitals to innocent onlookers, you’re familiar with a specific form of the exhibition kink. When it’s a bothersome compulsion like that, it’s known as exhibitionistic disorder that could be related to impulse control or mania and may require psychiatric treatment.

But that’s not the type of exhibitionism we’re talking about. Plenty of people have exhibitionist streaks that don’t violate others’ consent (sexual consent guide), and it’s totally possible to explore and exhibitionist kink with willing partners. For example, masturbating for your partner is a common and well-liked form of exhibitionism.

Learn: 14 powerful masturbation techniques for incredible orgasms and discover how to mutually masturbate.

Getting consent for everything you want to do ensures everyone has a good time, and you avoid legal trouble.

Why Are People Into Exhibitionist Kink?

Of course, you might be wondering why some people are into this sort of thing. There’s no singular reason why people like it or what causes exhibitionism, but it seems to be relatively common. You’re in good company if you’ve ever wondered why you are an exhibitionist.

How common is the exhibitionism kink? – There are a lot of different types of kinks, but exhibitionism is among the top three paraphilias for men [1]! One study put the prevalence of exhibitionism at “2-4%” [2].

Causes of exhibitionism – That same study named several “risk factors” for this behavior, including:

• Insecure attachment [2]
• Sexual abuse in childhood [2]
• Substance abuse [2]
• Sexual dysfunction [2]

However, it’s not all negative risk factors.

Another study found that exhibitionism was associated with behaviors “positively associated with being male and having more psychological problems, lower satisfaction with life, greater alcohol and drug use, and greater sexual interest and activity in general, including more sexual partners, greater sexual arousability, higher frequency of masturbation, higher frequency of pornography use, and greater likelihood of having had a same-sex sexual partner” [3].

It appears that being a highly sexual person in general correlates with exhibitionism. That’s not necessarily a surprise. Consider the following reasons someone might be an exhibitionist, all of which can increase excitement and make you aroused.

Validation – Attention can validate that you’re attractive, desirable, or even interesting.

Thrill – Many people experience a thrill from having sex or masturbating in front of others, especially if they’re in public and there’s a risk of getting caught.

Related: 48 best places to have sex in public.

Empowerment – For some people, showing off their bodies and owning their sexuality can be empowering, and exhibitionism fits the bill.

Humiliation – If you have a humiliation kink, it could be that having other people see you in such a state is humiliating, and that turns you on.

Voyeurism – You might also find yourself engaging in exhibitionist kink even if you don’t love it, but because you’re partner’s a voyeur. Voyeurism is the counterpart to exhibitionism, when people like watching others sexually. Think of it like watching kink versus being watched kink.

While the pairing of a voyeur and exhibitionist can be a match made in heaven, it can also be disatisfying if part of what gets you off is surprise or the seeming “lack” of consent. Having someone who is too into watching you or being watched doesn’t always fulfill the desire.

If you are interested in a supposed “lack” of consent, then you may be interested in exploring consensual non-consent aka CNC kink with your partner.

You might also have issues if your flavors of voyeurism and exhibitionism aren’t compatible.

Can You Be an Exhibitionist When No One Is Watching?

The short answer? Yes. Check out our solo exhibitist ideas.

Ways to Exhibit Your Body AKA Non-Sexual Exhibitionism

While you might think of exhibitionism as having sex or masturbating in front of one or more people, lots of things count as exhibitionistic that aren’t entirely sexual.

Each of the ideas below can also be adapted to more sexual situations, with a partner, for example.

Performing in Public

Whether you like acting, singing, giving a speech, or even putting on a magic show for anyone who wants to watch, you’re taking part in a type of exhibitionism. Even driving a flashy car, revving your engine, or speeding down the main drag can count!

When you think of it that way, many people are exhibitionists in some way.

Dancing

We’d like to give a special nod to dancing, which stands out from other performances because it can be so sexual. Dancing in front of or for someone can be a form of exhibitionism, which is exactly why people who don’t like to show off can feel uncomfortable going to the club.

It doesn’t need to be overtly sexual dancing, either. But you can break out more sexual moves, up to a lap dance, with a partner, or if you want a more erotic ambience.

Wearing Revealing Clothing

Provocative clothing is an easy way to be an exhibitionist, even if you’re not doing anything other than going about your day.

Clothing can be considered provocative if it reveals a lot of skin, including low-cut tops, clothing cutouts, sheer materials, low-riding jeans, or short dresses or bottoms. However, you can be fully covered in skintight clothing that many would consider provocative as it would show your every curve.

Read more: How To Dress Sexy For Your Man.

Remember that revealing can be culturally relative, so if you’re from a conservative area or community, showing your collarbone or wearing pants might be seen as provocative, while no one would bat an eye at you in other places.

Don’t assume that anyone else is into exhibitionism because of what they’re wearing. That might just be their personal style. It’s normalized to wear a sports bra or sheer top over a bra in many places, even to the grocery store.

Stripping

If you have a strong exhibitionist streak and want to take it one step further than dressing provocatively, there’s always stripping. Of course, you can just strip for your partner (but we won’t judge if that’s how you make your money)!

And while your mind might jump to taking your clothes off, it can be a whole production if you want it to. Consider what you can wear as a theme or what you can layer to take off, slowly, one piece at a time. Watching strip or burlesque performances can give you plenty of inspiration!

Nudism

If your interest in exhibitionism isn’t necessarily a kink or sex thing, you might try nudism, which is also known as naturism. If you find clothing uncomfortable, nudism could be for you! People in this community go naked all the time because it’s more natural and not necessarily because they have a nude kink.

You can find nude beaches, cruises, and other facilities or events where you can bare it all, or topless beaches where you can be partially nude. Don’t forget your sunblock! No one wants burned nipples or genitals.

Make sure to follow the rules. Someone’s public nudity isn’t permission to ogle or grope.

Snapping a Selfie

In many ways, snapping a selfie is the epitome of non-sexual exhibitionism. The only reason you do so is to show yourself to other people – literally!

There’s nothing wrong with it, of course. Why shouldn’t you show off if you feel good about yourself?

Read More: 11 vital tips to take a stunning sexy selfie + sexy poses.

Sexual Exhibitionism

Sex with an Audience

Now, we don’t mean having sex with an entire audience…unless that’s your thing (threesome tips). Instead, we mean having sex in front of an audience, which could be as small as one person.

If your area has a sex club or dogging community, you could accomplish this. Or you could go online and use a chat/video website to try this type of exhibitionism from the safety of your own home.

Sending Nudes

Sending videos, photos, or even audio recordings of yourself while sexting is fairly common – and an example of exhibitionist behavior!

Check out these 43 sexting examples if you are looking for ways to turn your man on.

Video Chatting or Streaming

Using live video is a great way to work out your kink and stay connected in a long-distance relationship, so why not give it a try?

Phone Sex

Even though the person on the other end can’t see you, they’re still an audience to the moaning and other sounds you make.

Get advice for sizzling hot phone sex.

Wearing Lingerie

If you like it when your partner’s jaw drops and they can’t take their eyes off you when you’re wearing a sexy teddy and thigh highs, then you can be very sure that you are an exhibitionist to some degree.

Lingerie is versatile enough that you can wear some pieces under your clothing and some while actively having sex. Whether you wear it regularly, have never worn it, or need to get back into it, lingerie can be a gateway into exhibitionistic behavior.

Get tips for choosing the perfect lingerie for your body.

Things Similar to Exhibitionism Kink

Sexual exhibitionism is similar to, overlaps with, or even be part of other sexual and kinky activities. Many of these are just as taboo as exhibitionism.

Sex in public and getting caught – Many people don’t truly want to get caught or be seen when having sex outside, but find the thrill of it to be a turn-on. Sex in public is taboo, like exhibitionism.

Group sex and orgies – While you’re bound to be seen by plenty of people during group sex, that’s not always the focus. Instead, novelty and increased pleasure take center stage.

BDSM – BDSM, which stands for bondage and discipline, dominance (how to dominate your man during sex) and submission (how to have submissive sex), and sadism and masochism, is a broad umbrella term for a variety of kinky behaviors and relationships, including power exchange relationships. BDSM can happen in public places, letting you explore an exposure fetish or be as much of a submissive exhibitionist as your heart desires.

Humiliation – We already mentioned that embarrassment, triggering someone’s arousal, is one reason why some people like exhibitionism. But erotic humiliation, also known as humiliation or degradation kink, is a thing of its own. Being “forced” to exhibit yourself could combine both of these fetishes or serve as a punishment.

Swinging – Swinging is an activity where members of a couple have sex with other people. There’s a large swinging community and culture that include parties, clubs, and cruises. Two important concepts are soft swapping and hard swapping.

Cuckolding – Cuckolding also goes by hotwifing. It’s a kink where a male partner/husband gets off on the idea of his wife/partner having sex with another man (the bull). Sometimes, he will be in the room, see video, or be able to overhear the activities, so it can be exhibitionistic for the wife and the bull. But that’s not required for cuckolding.

Cuckqueaning is a similar activity where the genders are reversed with the wife/girlfriend watching their partner with another lover.

Using sex toys in public – Usually, this means remote control toys that you wear on your body or in your underwear. Ideally, you won’t be really caught, but the tension of being caught will make you squirm as much as the vibrations.

Related: How to use a vibrator for incredible pleasure.

How to Explore Your Exhibitionist Kink

How you explore this feitsh depends on whether you’re alone or with another person or people.

Solo

By default, having an audience makes it easier to be an exhibitionist, but you can explore this fetish even if you don’t have a partner.

You can fantasize about exhibitionism when you masturbate.

You can find a partner online. You may even be able to find a sexting partner just to show yourself off.

You might also find that masturbating in front of a mirror and/or recording yourself can satisfy a little bit of your need to show off.

Related: How To Make Mirror Sex Incredible.

You can also look for porn or erotica where it’s a theme, or even write your own!

With a Partner

It’s always safest to talk to your partner before trying something new in the bedroom. That way, you can ensure that what you’re doing is consensual exhibitionism. Our guide on keeping it safe, sane and consensual will help you with that.

The good news is that most people would be thrilled to watch their partners touch themselves and perform, even if you’re pretending not to notice someone watching. This means you can probably just dive into it and see if your partner is into it.

That’s not the only way to explore exhibitionism, however.

You can share your sexual fantasy with your partner and explore erotic media together. This includes recording yourselves having sex.

One option is to role-play a scenario where someone will be caught/seen being naughty, like a student and teacher. You can pick roles like patient and doctor, where one of you has to be on display, or even detective with a magnifying glass looking for “evidence.”

Or you can roleplay that a third person is watching you two together, or could discover you if you have a kink for getting caught, but don’t want to risk real trouble.

Go deeper: 42 kinky role play ideas and an extra 35 BDSM role play ideas.

After trying it out, make sure to talk to your partner to ensure you’re on the same page. Talk about what you liked and didn’t and what you want more of or may want to avoid in the future.

Related: Use Sexual Communication for Complete Sexual Fulfillment.

Exhibitionist Kink Ideas List

If you’ve read this far, then you already have some exhibitionist ideas to try out. Here are a few additional ideas to inspire you, whether you go in public or stick to exhibitionism at home.

1. Pick sex positions that show off your body, such as Cowgirl
2. Have sex in front of or against a window
3. Go braless under your shirt/dress
4. Take nudes and post them on social media or forums such as Reddit
5. Send nudes to your partner with permission for them to share
6. Upload videos of you (and possibly your partner) to adult sharing sites
7. Join a swinging group
8. Have a submissive rule where you must present yourself to your partner for examination
9. Wear a sheer or open-cup bra
10. Invite like-minded people to a dinner party (that might turn into an orgy)
11. Take a strip/pole class and put on a show
12. Flash someone at a bar
13. Get dressed or undressed in front of others (either your partner or changing in public)
14. Walk above someone (second floor or going up the stairs) in a skirt or dress without panties
15. Have your body and/or position rated by your partner or their friends (works especially well in a Dom/sub relationship)
16. Wear a sheer top
17. Sunbathe while naked
18. Go to a sex club or book a cruise
19. Be tied up where others can see (bondage techniques for beginners)
20. Have something written on your body that others can read, especially if it’s humiliating and you can’t read it
21. Turn it into a sex game where you have to snap risque photos in risky situations (like a dressing room) for your partner
22. Try crotchless panties
23. Sleep naked
24. “Accidentally” lose your top when swimming
25. Visit a nude sauna or bath
26. Pick a code word that, when your partner says it, you must strip
27. Perform services for your dominant in the company of others
28. Drive or ride naked in the car
29. Wear only pasties or tape over your nipples and nothing else on top
30. Have sex in the car
31. Bend over in tight pants or short skirts/dresses
32. Get your nipples pierced (or try fake piercings)
33. Put on a fashion show for your partner(s)
34. Start touching so your partner sees when they enter the room
35. Walk into a room naked when you have guests
36. Make out or have sex on your (hotel) balcony). 13 hotel sex tips.
37. Keep your windows and blinds or drapes open when you have sex or masturbate
38. “Forget” to close or lock the door when having sex
39. Make lots of noise when having sex so others can hear it

When Does an Exhibitionist Kink Become an Issue?

While you can enjoy exhibitionism without any negatives, it can become a problem.

• You feel distressed over it
• You can’t enjoy other sexual activities, especially those that your partner is interested in
• You’re breaking the law
• You can’t control when or where you expose yourself
• You spend so much time doing the kink that it gets in the way of work, daily responsibilities, and your relationships

If any of those apply to you, it may be time to speak to a sex therapist and/or your doctor.

Finally, this kink can become a problem if you’re in photos or videos that are shared and you can be identified. You should carefully consider whether you show identifying marks or body parts, including your face, in explicit media and who you share it with.

Make sure you get consent from anyone you record and let them decide how much risk they’re comfortable with taking. Not everyone has a recording kink or wants to be in a video that could wind up online forever!

Fortunately, you don’t have to go to extremes if you’re an exhibitionist. Exhibitionism is a common and hot kink that you can enjoy in multiple ways.

We hope you feel confident to try it out or inspired to go even further than before after reading this guide.

Is Exhibitionism a Crime?

While it’s usually not exhibition that’s the specific crime, most places have laws against public indecency, exposure, nudity or lewd acts.

For some people with an exposure kink, the real risk of the law is actually a turn on. But if you’re caught, you could face jail time and a fine. In some cases, especially those involving anyone who doesn’t consent or can’t consent, public indecency could land you on a sex offender list, which would bar you from living and working in certain places.

That’s why we recommend sticking to safe exhibitionism.