5 Free BDSM Contract Templates: Dom/sub, Femdom/slave + More

Below are 5 downloadable BDSM contracts that you can use right now. I’ve also included versions you can customize to suit your relationship and needs. You can jump straight to the verbal contract, dom sub contract, femdom slave contract, sissy contract, or chastity contract, but…

You may want to learn why you should use a slave contract and the important elements that every BDSM contract should contain.

What Is a BDSM Contract and Why Use It

If you’ve done some research into BDSM relationships, you may have heard of BDSM contracts. Contracts are part of BDSM negotiation, which happens before you play.

Set expectations – A contract is an easy and clear way for a submissive and dominant, even people who have never met before, to establish protocol, boundaries, safety, and expectations within a scene or the whole relationship.

Related: 8 vital BDSM rules to keep it safe, sane & crazy-kinky

It answers questions – Think of a BDSM contract as answering several important questions that you, ideally, have discussed at least a little bit with your submissive wife, husband, or partner(s).

• What do you want out of this interaction or relationship?
• What role(s) will you and your partner(s) play?
• What are you willing to do or have done to you?
• How will you enforce power-exchange dynamics (if any)?
• What do you need to ensure it goes well, and you’ll walk away safe and happy?
• What other things might impact this BDSM scene or might your partner need to know?

Stops one person from calling the shots – One of the benefits of a BDSM or D/s contract is that it prevents the dominant or top from making unilateral decisions that would go against the submissive’s wishes.

With that in mind, a BDSM contract is something you create together, not something that the dominant writes alone.

Do you need a formal, written contract?

Absolutely not!

Fun killer? – For some, written contracts like those in the PDF templates below help to ensure they don’t forget anything. For others, that’s overwhelming and too formal to be much fun.

Some people prefer verbal BDSM contracts.

That is, they talk about what they need, want, and expect from a scene or relationship but don’t write it down. For them, the negotiation is the contract, and that’s good enough!

Related: How to be a good submissive – 23 tips & behaviors

Consent – Unlike in Fifty Shades of Grey, real-life BDSM contracts are consensually agreed to by both parties. 

Learn: Guide to consent.

Coercion? – A submissive can and should fully read a contract and use it as a forum to discuss any concerns before entering into a BDSM scene or relationship. In fact…

Any sort of force or coercion when it comes to BDSM contracts is a significant red flag, and we would caution against playing with someone who treats contracts in that way.

A BDSM contract can be adjusted as needed, and some people add expiration dates as a tool for them to review and renew their contracts.

Easy way to exchange info – Although it might seem silly or even like overkill to those who are new to bondage and BDSM, using a contract can make it easier for you to exchange information that would otherwise be an awkward conversation – and could even save a life!

Go deeper: Powerful tips for talking about sex.

Slow down – But just because a contract can be a great tool for exploring BDSM doesn’t mean you need one as soon as you meet a kinky new partner. Sometimes people find that quickly creating a BDSM contract at the beginning of a relationship feels overwhelming or too strict (remember, the contract itself doesn’t have to be rigid or heavy!). It’s also common for people to need time to learn what their limits and needs are in a BDSM scene or relationship.

Important Elements of BDSM Contracts

Before we get to the submissive contracts and downloadable PDFs, you might be wondering what should be in a kink contract. There’s no hard-and-fast rule for what must be in every contract; however…

The most important part of any BDSM contract is that it works for you.

The examples below are just that.

Some things that others might include by default may not apply to you and your partner(s), relationship, or situation, and that’s okay! Feel free to ignore anything below that doesn’t work for you. For example, you might sign your contract but not list names if only you and your partner will see it.

Keep in mind that you don’t need to detail everything specifically in your bondage contract. It’s for the most important things.

Participants – Who is participating?

Safe words – What are your safe words or signals? When might you struggle to use them?

Check-ins – How do you check in, or how would you prefer to be checked in with? How often?

Limits – What are the things you won’t do (hard limits) and those that you might consider or need to work up to (soft limits)? What will make you comfortable approaching your soft limits? Do you want to push any limits and, if so, how?

Roles & Responsibilities of Partners – How many people will be involved, and what will the roles/responsibilites be in relation to one another? Some examples:

• Dom/sub
• Master/slave
• Trainer/pup
• Owner/pet (check out pet play)
• Top/bottom
• A less defined “scene partner”?
• Will there be power exchange?
• What is expected of each person?
• Will there be opportunity for you to switch roles?

Rules and Protocols – Will it be high, low, or no protocol? What rules will apply to interactions or the relationship?

Punishments & Rewards – How will wanted behavior be rewarded and unwanted behavior be punished? More about BDSM punishment.

Pain – How do you feel about receiving pain? How much pain are you looking for?

Marks – Can you leave bruises, cuts, abrasions, or other marks? If so, where?

Humiliation – Is erotic humiliation okay? Are any types of degradation off limits?

Duration / Location – Where will activities take place and for how long? Will you perform in public or with others around?

Medical information – Does anyone have any illness, injuries, or other conditions that the other person should know? How is it treated? Where can medicine be found? Who’s your emergency contact?

Penetration – Will there be penetration? If so, what kind?

• Sex toys (how to use sex toys for more pleasure)
• Fingers (how to finger your girl to orgasm)
• Penises
• Which orifices
• Etc

Contraception and protection – Will contraception or other protection (birth control, condoms, dental dams, etc) be required? Who will provide or take/use it? Will toys be used on more than one person (possibly introducing bodily fluids to other people)?

Accidents – How will accidents and injuries be handled respectfully even if one or both parties are upset?

Aftercare – What aftercare is required and when? Who provides it?

Contract Expiration/Revocation/Termination – How long is the dominant and submissive contract good for? How often will you revisit it to ensure it still works for you? Will you need a new contract when it expires, or can it roll over? How do you leave/end the contract?

5 BDSM Contract Templates

Below you’ll find 5 different sample BDSM contracts that you can save, edit, and even print.

1. Verbal contract
2. Dom sub contract
3. Femdom slave contract
4. Sissy contract
5. Chastity contract

Verbal Contract

A verbal BDSM contract is often a little more casual than a formal written one. It’s basically a conversation where you explain what you’re willing and unwilling to do, along with any other considerations. No signing and no dates — it’s usually assumed to last for the duration of the scene or to be easily updated with another conversation.

Here’s an example verbal contract

I’m interested in getting tied up and flogged.

Temporary marks are okay but no bruises and nothing that would be visible in street clothes.

Penetration by objects and fingers is okay but no intercourse.

I can’t use latex toys or gags because I’m allergic – there’s medication in my bag if I come into contact with it.

My left shoulder has been a little tender, so be gentle with tying and moving. My safe word is “Stop,” and I’ll only use it when I want to stop everything immediately and proceed to aftercare. Otherwise, I’ll say if I need any adjustments.

I can go nonverbal when in subspace, so please check in on me if anything seems off.

Related: BDSM subspace: the good, the dangers & aftercare.

In reality – Of course, during a verbal negotiation, you won’t talk nonstop at the other person. It will be a back-and-forth where you ask what you want, explain what you’re willing to do or give, and hopefully find a place where everyone involved is happy. At that point, you could seal it with a handshake or, even better, a kiss!

Dominant/submisive (D/s) Contract

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Download Dominant/submissive contract (DOC file, editable)

A Dominant/submissive contract usually indicates something more than casual play. You might have a longer-term contract with someone who is a power-exchange partner but not a romantic partner. Or your D/s partner might be your partner in life and love. Regardless, the contract will reflect that dom/sub relationship.

Here’s an example Dominant/submissive contract:

1. Parties

This agreement is entered into between [Name] (the “Dominant”) and [name] (the “submissive”), both adults, on [date].

2. Effective Dates

This agreement takes effect on [date+time] and continues until [future date+time], at which point it will be reviewed and renewed, revised, or terminated by mutual agreement. Either party may also call a review at any time.

3. Roles and Honorifics

The Dominant will be addressed as [Honorific] during agreed dynamic time.

The submissive will be addressed as [name] during agreed dynamic time.

Outside of agreed dynamic time, both parties revert to first names and equal standing.

4. Safe Words

The following safe words are in effect during all play:

• Green = “I’m good, continue.”
• Yellow = “I need to slow down or check in.”
• Red = “Stop everything now.”
• Non-verbal signal = double tapping, used when speech is not available.

The Dominant is responsible for routinely checking in with the submissive during scenes, regardless of whether a safeword or non-verbal signal has been used.

Calling Yellow or Red is never grounds for discipline. It pauses or ends the scene immediately, no questions in the moment.

5. Hard and Soft Limits

Submissive’s soft limits (conditional, requires explicit consent each time):

• Choking
• Foot play

Submissive’s hard limits (never, under any circumstances):

• Any play involving minors or animals
• Severe injury or mutilation, including branding, broken bones, or severe blood loss
• Scatophilia

Dominant’s soft limits (conditional, requires explicit consent each time):

• Play while intoxicated

Dominant’s hard limits (never, under any circumstances):

• Diaper play

Both parties may add limits at any time. Removing a limit requires a written amendment to this agreement.

6. Rules and Protocols

While the dynamic is active, the submissive agrees to:

• Address the Dominant as “Ma’am” or “Mistress” during active dynamic time.
• Greet the Dominant at the door when she arrives.
• Check in with the Dominant at least once daily when separated, but only when it can be done safely and reasonably.
• Wear the locking watch as a symbol of devotion to the Dominant in public and private, except when it isn’t practical, such as during showering, swimming, or working out.

The Dominant agrees to:

• Acknowledge the submissive’s check-ins when able.
• Respond or make a decision within a reasonable timeframe after the submissive makes a request.
• Inspect the setting, tools, and toys before each scene to ensure they are safe and appropriate for use.
• Guide and train the submissive in all ways.
• Take on agreed-upon decisions for the submissive within the scope of the dynamic.
• Have a responsibility to veto any request or consent from the submissive when, in the Dominant’s judgment, proceeding may create an unreasonable risk of harm.

7. Discipline

When a rule is broken, the Dominant may apply a suitable discipline from the following agreed-upon options:

• Chores
• Stress positions
• Withholding sexual release

Discipline outside this list requires renegotiation. Discipline is never applied during an active scene without explicit re-consent. Discipline is never applied in anger.

The Dominant will clearly announce when a punishment or disciplinary measure has ended.

8. Rewards

The Dominant agrees to acknowledge the submissive’s compliance and growth through:

• Praise
• Allowing them to skip a chore
• Gifts or treats

9. Aftercare

Submissive’s aftercare needs:

• Immediately after a scene: treatment for any bruises or abrasions, sports drink, cuddles, and lights low/off.
• Within 24 hours: check-in.

Dominant’s aftercare needs:

• Immediately after a scene: connection and conversation.
• Within 24 hours: partner check-in.

Both parties are responsible for receiving and providing aftercare. Aftercare is part of the scene, not an afterthought.

10. Check-In Schedule

The parties will hold a structured check-in on the first Sunday of each month to discuss:

• What is working in the dynamic.
• What is not working.
• Whether any rules, limits, or rituals need adjustment.

Check-ins are held outside of dynamic time, with both parties equal.

11. Termination, Revocation, and Renewal

Either party may pause the dynamic at any time by stating “I’m pausing.” All rules and rituals suspend until both parties agree to resume.

Either party may terminate this agreement or the relationship at any time, in writing, with no obligation to justify the decision.

This agreement will be renewed, revised, or terminated at the end of the Effective Dates by mutual agreement.

Signatures

Dominant: _________________ Date: [Date]

submissive: ________________ Date: [Date]

Femdom/slave Contract

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Female domination, or femdom, often involves a power exchange relationship with a male submissive. Don’t worry, femdom doesn’t have to be extreme all the time. Check out our guide to gentle femdom to figure out what works for you.

Related: 19 Tips To Be Sexually Dominant In The Bedroom

Depending on your relationship, the D/s contract above might suffice. However, you may want a contract that highlights the feminine power and divinity of the dominatrix (referring to her as “Goddess”) or the full-time nature of your 24/7 TPE relationship or BDSM lifestyle. Some femdom submissive contracts are even written as a request to the domme to accept the sub’s offer of his body and soul.

Related: 103 Submissive Things To Say To Your Dom

Here’s an example femdom contract:

You can easily adjust the genders for a more general BDSM slave contract, too.

I, __________, hereinafter referred to as the slave or submissive, being of sound mind and body, do hereby offer myself of my own free will, with an open heart and a clear mind, in consensual submission to __________, hereinafter referred to as the Mistress, Dominant, Domme, or Goddess. This contract governs the structured relationship, terms of ownership, and mutual expectations agreed upon by both parties.

Term and Duration

This agreement shall officially commence on __________ and shall remain in full force and effect until its formal expiration on __________. During this specified timeframe, the submissive voluntarily surrenders personal autonomy to the absolute authority of the Dominant under the conditions outlined herein.

Mutual Trust and Personal Growth

The participant asks the Leader to accept the participant’s commitment to focus within the established boundaries of this agreement. In doing so, the participant places themselves under the Leader’s guidance and direction to achieve shared goals. This relationship is built upon a foundation of deep trust and mutual respect. The participant intends to follow the Leader’s guidance and instructions, offering their time and effort toward the objectives defined for the duration of this agreement.

Sign of Commitment

As a visible sign of this commitment, the Leader reserves the right to provide the participant with symbols representing their dedicated status. This may include items like specific tokens or identifying markers. These symbols serve as a reminder of the participant’s voluntary commitment to this structured path and shall be handled or displayed as directed by the Leader to signify their role in the partnership.

Termination of Agreement

This agreement is consensual and may be terminated by either party at any time should the established boundaries be violated or should the arrangement no longer serve the mutual interests of the participants. The use of a pre-determined signal or “stop” word immediately suspends all terms of this contract.

Signatures and Execution

By signing below, both parties acknowledge that they have read, understood, and consensually entered into this agreement of their own free will.

Dominant: _________________ Date: [Date]

submissive: ________________ Date: [Date]

Sissy Contract

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A sissy kink or sissification typically involves a submissive man and a female dominant but can also be the BDSM style between two men. In their exchanges, the sub typically acts and dresses in a super feminine way. The ultimate goal may be to minimize, overwrite, or even eradicate the sissy’s masculinity.

A common aspect of the sissy kink is that the sissy will be forced to be a slut/fuck boy/boy toy for other people when instructed by their dominant partner.

Sometimes the dominant forces this on the sissy sub, and sometimes it’s a punishment. Sissification is often accompanied by humiliation. However, gender-bending and cross-dressing are definitely common kinks for many people.

Related: Full list of 257 kinks & fetishes

In this dynamic, the sissy may be forced to do typically feminine work and errands.

You may also notice things like boot licking (can be part of a foot fetish or not) and body worship.

A sissy contract will stand out from other BDSM contracts, even femdom contracts, because the male submissive may be referred to with the pronouns “She/her” or may simply be referred to as “Sissy”. This reinforces the power exchange and forced feminization of the submissive partner.

Here’s an example sissy contract:

The Sissy, [name], shall always acknowledge that she exists solely for the sexual pleasure of her partner, [name], and her body must be devoted to exciting, serving, and satisfying her partner(s), and ultimately providing them sexual gratification, in whatever manner they shall choose. The sissy’s primary purpose is to serve and to be used and enjoyed, on a frequent and regular basis.

The Sissy shall always be submissive and obedient, as appropriate, and shall be immediately responsive to the sexual needs of her partners. Unless health or safety will be at risk, she is not permitted to question or refuse a demand for any sexual act.

Sissy shall regularly perform acts including, but not limited to: performing oral, manual, or penetrative sex, being pegged, double penetration, and simultaneous stimulation of multiple people with her anus, mouth, and hands.

The Sissy shall wear clothes that show off her pretty, feminine, and weak physique.

The Sissy shall willingly expose or open her mouth and anus for inspection by her dominant, partner(s), or any others at her dominant’s discretion.

Dominant: _________________ Date: [Date]

sissy: ________________ Date: [Date]

Other common elements include:

• Body parts where the sissy will be ejaculated on
• Whether the sissy must have sex with others
• Rules for activities that the sissy is willing to do for/by others or have done to her (kind of like a BDSM checklist)

Chastity Contract

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A chastity contract exists between someone who wears a chastity device and the Keyholder who controls when and how the device can be removed. These contracts focus on the control of the wearer’s ability to become aroused, be stimulated, and have an orgasm.

The shortest chastity contract will outline the parties involved, how long the chastity device will be worn for orgasm control and denial, specific rules the person wearing the device (the wearer) must follow, and the responsibilities of the person who has control of the device (the Keyholder).

Here’s an example chastity contract:

The wearer, [name], agrees to wear the chastity device for the duration of the contract, unless the Keyholder, [Name], allows them to remove it or for routine maintenance and hygiene purposes. The wearer acknowledges they will be permitted a maximum of [number] ejaculations/orgasms per [number] days and must not otherwise self-stimulate.

However, you can create a longer contract similar to the longer D/s contract above.

1. Parties

This agreement is entered into between the Keyholder [Name] and Wearer [name].

2. Effective Dates

This agreement takes effect on [date+time] and continues until [future date+time], at which point it will be reviewed and renewed, revised, or terminated by mutual agreement. Either party may also call a review at any time.

The Key: The Keyholder keeps all copies of the keys. The Wearer has no access to removal tools.

3. Roles and Honorifics

The Dominant will be addressed as [Honorific] during agreed dynamic time.

The submissive will be addressed as [name] during the agreed dynamic time.

4. Safety

The following safe words are in effect during all play and must be recognized and responded to by either partner if used by the other person: Stoplight system

In case of emergency, the wearer will be able to remove the chastity device with a spare key stored in [location].

The device will be removed every [day] to check for skin and bodily health, including irritation or infection.

5. Hard and Soft Limits

Wearer’s hard limits:

Permanent chastity

Public humiliation

Wearer’s soft limits:

Wearer is open to discussing extended chastity and denial over 24 hours and up to one week in duration.

6. Rules and Protocols

The Keyholder is responsible for safely managing the device, maintenance schedule, and timelines through clear communication and steady emotional support. They must prioritize the submissive person’s physical and psychological well-being, adjusting the arrangement as needed while strictly avoiding using control as a weapon.

The wearer must wear the device properly, honestly, and immediately report any physical pain or emotional distress, and redirect denied energy into service and devotion. They must accept that release is earned rather than owed, trusting that denial is a meaningful expression of the shared dynamic.

7. Hygiene

The device will be removed for hygiene every [number] days (or as decided by the Keyholder) under the Keyholder’s supervision.

During this time, the wearer will tend to personal hygiene, including cleansing, hair removal, and moisturizing.

8. Sexual Release

The wearer is permitted a maximum of [number] ejaculations/orgasms per [number] days and must not otherwise self-stimulate. Requests for other gratification will not be granted.

Dominant: ___________________________ Date: [Date]

submissive: ___________________________ Date: [Date]

It’s also common for chastity contracts to specify:

• What type of chastity device will be worn (typically a cock cage)
• If the wearer must keep a chastity journal detailing their arousal, frustrations, awarded and denied orgasms, etc
• Submissive tasks, including sexual, that the wearer agrees to complete
• How the Keyholder and wearer will resolve any disagreements
• Definitions of terms in the contract such as “Keyholder,” “wearer,” etc
• Health concerns the Keyholder should be aware of

Are BDSM Contracts Legally Binding?

No, BDSM contracts are not legally binding. Nor would a BDSM contract help you legally if someone is hurt, or worse, during your BDSM activities.

A BDSM contract helps guide your interactions and encourages those involved to take the relationship seriously (and may be accompanied by collaring). Some people even say that signing your BDSM contract in front of a witness can make it feel more powerful. But a BDSM contract doesn’t hold enough power to stop you from ending a relationship if you really want to.

What If You Stray From Your BDSM Contract?

AKA: Is a BDSM contract really necessary?

It’s not uncommon for your actual BDSM play or relationship to start to look a little different from your BDSM contract. It might mean that it’s time to update your contract. You might want to simplify the contract to its essence or make it more symbolic if it’s getting bogged down in little details.

But sometimes a BDSM contract isn’t necessary. If you’re frequently negotiating and talking about what you want, what works, and what’s new or changed, then a contract might not add anything to your conversations.

And if you’ve been playing or in a relationship with someone for a long time, you might know one another so well that you don’t really need a contract.

On the other hand, if you don’t usually use contracts with your usual BDSM partners or activities but find yourself playing with someone new or trying something new, especially if it’s complex, you might break out a contract again just to be safe.

Whether you wanted to know what a slave contract is, download a free BDSM contract PDF, or compare your rough draft with a dom sub contract template, the guide above offers everything you need to create your perfectly customized dominant and submissive contract! So get together with your partner, brainstorm, sign, and then enjoy playing together with the knowledge that your expectations and guidelines are clearly understood!

Once you get past novice BDSM games, you may need a contract that’s more structured and in depth.