10 Femdom Ideas To Dominate Your Man With

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Is there anything hotter than a woman clad in PVC or a corset, with a flogger or paddle in her hand as she stands over her bound submissive partner? Maybe there’s fear or another gleam in his eye because he secretly relishes the pain or teasing that’s to come. With the right partner, props and even costume, that image could be you!

Before We Begin

Let’s address the elephant in the room, shall we? A lot of guides are going to give you advice about how to submit to your man. There’s nothing wrong with that, and you should check out this post, instead, if that’s what you’re looking for. But those guides often assume that a male dominant and female submissive are the default way to practice bondage role play — more tips here — or the only way to do it.

Those guides are wrong!

Many women aspire to dominate their men, and same-sex couples can enjoy power exchange, too. That’s why femdom is so popular, and why large cities have booming dominatrix industries! More on that here.

Whether you need to take control in the bedroom because you’re not quite at the top of the food chain at work or you simply prefer to retain control in as many aspects of your life as possible, you’re sure to find these femdom ideas thrilling!

You’ll especially enjoy this list of femdom ideas if you feel a strong pull toward dominating your partner, but you can still get pleasure from these role playing scenarios if you’re playing the role because your partner desires domination. In some instances, however, someone with a truly submissive streak may prefer BDSM scenes with someone who identifies as a dominant, and going through the motions may not be enough on your part.

We invite you to give these scenes a try if you’re still new to BDSM; although, you might want to stick to the less intense scenes. This can help you decide how dominant you are. You might find that you prefer being on the receiving end or even that you enjoy both sides of play. People with those dispositions are known as switches, and it’s a great way to experience a wide range of sensations and emotions! Try our helpful guide to BDSM.

Occasionally, you may run into a man who declares, usually in a pompous manner, that women cannot be dominant. Feel free to walk away without any further exchanging of pleasantries. There’s no need to let a small-minded bully make you feel less, and, in fact, he may simply fail if you’re a truly dominant personality 24/7.

Above all, enjoy trying something new even if it’s not something you try twice!

Onto the Femdom Ideas!

1. Foot Worship — Is there anything more subservient than an adoring partner kissing or licking your shoes? No! This is especially true if you’re wearing a pair of sexy knee or thigh-high boots, and his hands or mouth can travel up your leg. Bonus if he’s too eager and you can keep him at arm’s distance — or leg’s distance — away from you. Plus, prodding, kicking or stepping is one way to literally put your foot down in this relationship!

2. Cock and Ball Bondage — Now, this sounds extreme, but it doesn’t have to be. If you’re just starting out, try a stretchy cock ring on for size. After he’s comfortable wearing that, you can carefully measure for a stone, glass or metal cock ring. Then, you can move on to the “Gates of Hell,” a metal device with multiple rings. More info on cock rings.

For the ultimate in cock and ball bondage, consider a cage, which wraps his genitals in plastic or another material and prevents him from fully growing hard. This is a great option if you know your partner has trouble listening to directions! Some are even lockable, so he can’t get out!

3. Sissy Play — Some guys secretly love dressing up in frilly underpants, stockings, garter belters and other woman’s clothing. And others hate it. Either way, you can leverage the “sissification” of your submissive to your advantage by rewarding him with something lacy or punishing him with it! Make sure to remind him of how pretty, girly or even weak he is. If you’re aiming for punishment, you can spin those comments in a negative way, but you can praise him for rocking the look, too.

Plus, hopping for those sexy little things can be a lot of fun, and it’s different than shopping for your own body.

4. Impact Play — Whether you prefer good, old-fashioned spanking with your hand, grabbing a cane or long-tailed flogger for serious sensation or a furry paddle that provides more bark than bite, impact play is definitely something you’ll need to try at least once. Check out this post about spanking for more information about methods and tools you can use.

5. Bondage — Bondage is something that everyone should try in the bedroom at least once, and there are plenty of options when it comes to tying up your own lover. You can bind his wrists or ankles together with regular cuffs or invest in a hog tie system to bind all four together behind his back and really stretch his body out! Under-the-bed-restraints make it easy to turn your bedroom into a sexy dungeon. Check out this post with more bondage info.

Other bondage devices include gags, which prevent him from speaking, blindfolds, ankle spreads that force his legs open, and even nipple clamps. More info about clamps in this guide.

6. Teasing — The final element that every femdom scene needs is a little teasing. Whether your lover’s bound or you’ve instructed him not to touch you, make a noise or get hard, you have got to tease him! This will push him to his limits. Teasing can take place as the lightest of touches. Consider a feather tickler if you want to barely touch his skin. You can also get close to his sensitive spots or imply that you’re going to touch him or get him off and then take it back.

Of course, many male submissives take a delicious yet painful glee by not being able to touch or taste their dommes, and masturbating in front of him might be the perfect way to tease him!

Role play FemDom Ideas

Now that you’ve got some ideas for activities and devices you can use t0 exact a little — or a lot — of pain, what kind of roles can you play that will work with femdom? Fortunately, many of the roles where a woman can be submissive also work well for a male to submit, and you can easily come up with other femdom ideas of your own.

Here are just a few scenes with dominant female roles that we love.

1. Student and Teacher — It’s easy to put this scene into action. As a the teacher, you can dress stern or just a little sexy and mete our punishment to your “student” who might be late for class, interrupt your lesson or simply talk back! You can switch up the roles by playing a sexy librarian, which provides you plenty of opportunity to dress sexy enough to make your man drool — even if he’s not allowed to touch you!

Increase the kink factor by playing a nun and Catholic school boy, complete with costumes! Of course, you’ll have plenty of fun shopping for your own costumes, too!

2. Boss and Underling — Here’s another tried and true power exchange role playing idea. As his boss, you have all the power. If you stick to the school setting, you can be the principal, but you can just as easily play like you’re alone together in the office after hours. As a bonus, you can grab anything that might naturally be in the room — a ruler, for example — to use during your sexy play.

3. Cop and Robber — This one’s an oldie but goodie. Not only do you get to combine bondage in the form of handcuffs, but you can play rough as you chase and tackle a criminal that needs to be brought to justice. Of course, if you punish him for his crimes against the world — or even just against you! — you get to play the judge and jury, too!

4. Animal Play  — If you really want to try something different, then animal play might be up your alley. One common type is pony play, and you’ll find bits and harnesses, crops and even blinders that make your partner look more like a pony and experience the world like one, too. One thing fun thing you can try is a butt plug that has a ponytail attached. More about butt plugs here.

You can ride him around, instruct him to crawl on all fours with your crop and even reward him with a carrot — or something more tantalizing — if he’s a good boy.

Check out your local kinky shop for similar implements for puppy or kitty play, including food and water dishes! See if you can teach him to fetch or decide if he’ll need a bit more training!

Although we’ve given you plenty of good femdom ideas to get started with, there’s room for creativity and interpretation. When you add costumes and props, there’s almost an endless list of things you can try. Remember to take baby steps when dominating your man, and you can unlock a kinky side of yourself and relationship that will keep both of you on the edge of your seat!

At the end of the day, you might get to shed submissive shackles placed on you by society, boost your confidence or make your man cum like never before!